No One But You Can Make You Happy

Everyone wants to be happy but not everyone is looking in the right direction to find happiness. Whether or not one finds happiness is largely dependent on where one is looking.

The key to your happiness
Key to happiness

When it comes to finding personal happiness, if you are not looking within you, you are looking in the wrong direction. The truth remains that one cannot find long-lasting personal happiness outside of one’s self.

The good news is that you can find happiness in life irrespective of your social status and irrespective of your geographical location.

For instance, some years ago, a BBC report based on a ‘happiness survey’ emerged which stated that “A new study of more than 65 countries published in the UK’s New Scientist magazine suggests that the happiest people in the world live in Nigeria – and the least happy, in Romania.” 

Various reactions trailed the publication of the findings of the report. But then similar sentiment had a long time ago been expressed by the late Nigerian Afrobeat musican, Fela Anikulapo Kuti  when he described the experience of living in Nigeria as “suffering and smiling” in one of his hit songs. That was Fela’s way of saying that Nigerians remain happy people even in the midst of obvious hardship.

I was born in Nigeria and I still live here with my beautiful family. I know first-hand what it means to live here.

I am not so much abreast with the underpinning situations in Romania to merit being named in that report as the abode of the least happy people in the world. But if people who live in Nigeria could be named  amongst the happiest people in the world, despite the enormous economic and socio-political challenges we experience on a regular basis, it goes further to show that anyone can be happy wherever he may live.

I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.

— Martha Washington

It has to be said that your real happiness does not reside in things or in objects, but in you. Any happiness derived from external sources such as money, sex, drugs, fame, position, achievement etc will only last for a while.  You don’t have to look too far around you to see examples that corroborate this assertion.

Finding Personal happiness

If you are looking for happiness, look inwards. If you fail to find real happiness within you, you may not be able to find it outside.  Real happiness comes from within, not from things, not from other people.

Having all the wealth in the world does not even guarantee happiness. The richest people on earth are not necessarily the happiest people; neither are the poorest the unhappiest. It all boils down to one’s inner ‘possessions’, core attitude, disposition to, and, focus in life.

Until you are happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have.”

Zig Ziglar

The seed of happiness is already in you. Nurture it; let it grow and it will produce its fruit. This is particularly true if you are a spirit-filled Christian.

Spirit-filled Christians have the seed of happiness already planted on their inside. In the book of Galatians, ‘joy’ is listed as one of the nine fruit of the Spirit.

As Christians we already have joy on our inside, even though not all of us demonstrate it as we should. In the words of Apostle Paul, “the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.” This is the meaning of real happiness.

You may not know it, but when you gave your life to Jesus, all the fruit of the Spirit were planted inside you in seed form. Through the Spirit you can experience joy and peace in every circumstance, no matter how difficult or painful.

– Joyce Meyer

Just like everyone else, I know you are looking for happiness in life. But the question is “where have you been looking?”

Often times you probably make the mistake of looking up to other people to make you happy. When they fail to meet the expectation, you become very unhappy, resentful and even suffer mild depression.

But should that be the case? Should you leave a part of your destiny – the decision for your own happiness – in the hands of other people?

Interest in Happiness

My friend, you should not leave your happiness in the hands of other people. Therefore, my simple advice is that if no one puts a smile on your face, do it yourself.  If no one makes you happy, do it yourself.

Those who wait for others to make them happy may never be eventually.

Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone that power over your life  Mandy Hale

Where is the Key to Your Happiness?

The key to your happiness is in your hand. Yes, you heard me right! It’s in your hand! If you allow other people to determine whether or not you are happy, it means you have turned the control of your life over to them.

Someone once advised, “Don’t put the key to your happiness into some else’s pocket.” No one can truly control you if he can’t control your happiness.

What makes you think everyone would cooperate to make you happy, anyway? Don’t you know that people are more interested in their own happiness than they are in yours? Don’t you realize also that you will be left miserable if you hang your entire hope of happiness on earth on other people?

Truth be told, there are more people on earth who are looking for other people to make them happy than people who are looking for other people to make happy. Chances are that every day of the week, the people you come across belong to the former category.

Does that mean that you will go through the whole week wearing a long face, because no one made you happy? I hope not!



© Copyright 2015 | Victor Uyanwanne

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