Who Should You Blame When You Are Unhappy?






When you feel unhappy, are you ever tempted to blame someone else for it? Well, it happens…

But it doesn’t make it right.

How would you feel if someone else blamed you for his/her unhappiness? Your happiness is in your hands.


1.      If you are not happy as an employee, don’t blame it on your employer.

2.      If you are not happy as a citizen of your country, don’t blame it on your Government.

3.      If you are not happy as a teacher, don’t blame it on your students.

4.      If you are not happy as a student, don’t blame it on your teacher.

5.      If you are not happy as a husband/wife, don’t blame it on your spouse.

6.      If you are not happy as a child, don’t blame it on your parents.

7.      If you are not happy as a parent, don’t blame it on your children.

8.      If you are not happy as a player, don’t blame it on your coach.

9.      If you are not happy as a team member, don’t blame it on your other team members.

10.  If you are not happy as a pastor, don’t blame it on your congregation.

11.  If you are not happy as a member of your congregation, don’t blame it on your pastor.

12.  Most importantly if you are not happy with your life, don’t blame it on God.


Have you ever been tempted to blame someone else when unhappy? How did you handle it? Please share a word….


Excerpt from a previous post  “WHEN YOU ARE NOT HAPPY, BLAME THIS GUY


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12 thoughts on “Who Should You Blame When You Are Unhappy?

    • Victor Uyanwanne Feb 7, 2016 / 2:09 pm

      Yes Anne, Jesus wept, but only once at the death of Lazarus. When i lost my mum last year i cried. That’s okay. But it will not be okay for me to continue crying a year after.

      One may be unhappy over somethings, but one should not stay unhappy. Unhappiness is not a virtue.

      We are encouraged to rejoice always.


      • I agree Victor if we are happy we express it and share it but we don’t wear a mask, which
        gives others the freedom to be real too, we also do not claim others are unvirtuous because they grieve regardless for how long they grieve, we show Love and Compassion when others are hurting as the Scriptures I shared before confirm.

        We can have deep inner Joy and still have a tear in our eye, Jesus showed great emotion on the Cross, in Truth He always showed His emotions, He was not Happy Clappy, like some Hollywood movies show, He knew the heart of man and that many would perish Eternally and this grieved Him greatly, yes He cried and I’m sure much more than once, He was known as a Man of Sorrows and acquainted with grief, He was not pleasant to the eye, there was nothing to attract people to Him, His teaching was sometimes hard, direct and to the point, He didn’t play the worlds popularity games and yet many followed Him, He wasn’t Happy clappy but He was Loving, compassionate, merciful, forgiving and understanding, yes He cried with people, He deeply cared for them, He stood up for His Father, He was real, He got angry, He showed disappointment and frustration.

        Many worldly people Laugh and Joke, they also have no shame for the wrong they do, it has been said … Laugh and the world Loves with you cry and you cry alone, Jesus tells us the opposite …He says; Come to me you who are heavy burdened ….

        When I suffer pain, I show it and if I have not had enough sleep, I find it hard to even reason straight, sometimes what causes our anxiety, depression or fear is physical not Spiritual.

        To rejoice in the Lord is not about being Happy Clappy, although we don’t grieve as the World does because we have God’s Eternal Hope but we still miss Loved ones, if we don’t we didn’t Love them in our hearts, the Disciples longed for Jesus’ return as we do too, I also long to be reunited with my Children, Steve whom you prayed for longs to see his Parents again and in remembrance there is sometimes tears.

        If your Happy and you know it clap your hands , if your sad don’t be afraid to let others know it, your free to show it, yes there is a time for everything even tears.

        Christian Love Always – Anne.


        • Victor Uyanwanne Feb 8, 2016 / 12:11 am

          You are right Anne. The joy of the Lord is our strength.
          We do not grieve like those without hope.
          We show compassion to those who are hurting because we want them to overcome the hurt. Thanks.


  1. Jesus was known as a Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief, it’s not all about being Happy Clappy all the time Victor it’s about being real.

    Do you think I should have been happy to hear at a Bible Study that my 7 Babies had gone to Hell and than to be slandered by the Minister behind my back because I did not agree with him and I had Scripture to confirm they didn’t go to Hell and he had none that confirmed they did, only what he had wrongly understood as others do.?

    Do you think I should have also been Happy when I was than told to leave another Church because the Minister had listened to his slander and never gave me a chance to explain.

    Do you think I should have been happy to be abused and neglected as a Child by my Mother and Molested and raped from the age of 3 because I was not protected.?

    Do you think I should have been Happy when my husband bashed and tortured me even when I was pregnant.?

    Do you Think Jesus was talking to those who were Happy Clappy when He said; Come to me all you who are troubled and burdened.? Matthew 11:28 – 30

    Do we Comfort those who are hurting and seek to help them as God tells us to do or do we blame them for being unhappy and send them away. ?

    2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.

    Galatians 6:2 Bear ye one another’s burdens and so fulfil the law of Christ.

    Romans 12:15 Rejoice with them that do rejoice and weep with them that weep.

    Am I unhappy Now? Yes when I see the evil in this World increasing including lack of Love and Compassion for others and God grieves about this too but I have inner Joy because I know I belong to my Abba Father and that His Mercy and Grace saves all of us who repent showing we believe in Jesus our Lord and Saviour and because we do we show we do which includes crying with those who cry and rejoicing with those who rejoice.

    “Christ”ian Love Always – Anne.


    • Victor Uyanwanne Feb 7, 2016 / 9:23 am

      Anne, it is bad when people mistreat us. That i know. I am not suggesting that we should be happy when evil prevail, no far from it.

      It is said that how we react to what happens to us is our responsibility….

      No matter what we go through, God’s grace is sufficient for us. To be happy or not to be is our individual choice.

      If we leave our happiness completely in the hands of other people, we may never be happy Because people will always offend us and do what we don’t like.

      Anne, as Christians, We have fruit of the Holy Spirit, Joy, in us. Shouldn’t it show in our attitude?

      I àgree with the spirit of the scriptures you referenced. I don’t think any of them encourage us to remain unhappy or blame other people for our unhappiness.

      In this wicked world, its hard to be happy clappy as you put it. But it doesn’t mean we should allow anything take our inner joy that comes from God, which doesn’t depend on our outward circumstances.

      It is important what happens to us or what people do to us. What is more important is how we handle it all.

      Thanks Anne for your time.


    • Victor Uyanwanne Feb 6, 2016 / 2:54 pm

      Bill, you got me smiling. Change, they say, is the only constant thing in life. We can’t do what we have always done, and expect not to get what we have always got. We change, we grow. We grow, we change. Thanks for your comment.

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  2. savvybookkeeping Feb 6, 2016 / 8:26 am

    Great list. It is very easy to blame anyone other than yourself when things aren’t going your way or you are just plain unhappy – sometimes you just aren’t thinking clearly. I think you have to consciously take a step back and try to think your way out of your situation so that you can have a positive outcome. Doing something nice for someone else always turns things around for me (even if I don’t really feel like it at the time).

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