Birthday offering: How I met my wife

Where I met my spouse

Last March was my fifth wedding anniversary. As I continue to celebrate the privilege of being married to one of God’s special princesses, it is my pleasure to let you in on how, or better still where, I met her.

You can consider it my birthday offering to you on this special day of mine. Today is my birthday. Ooops, I guess I had to let you in on that!

I have always known that I would one day write about how I met my wife. But I didn’t know that that day would come so soon.

Something happened that made it come sooner than I had thought. During an online search recently, I stumbled on a comment I had made in the past on a Nigerian online forum.

The comment was my response to the topic of the post which was simply a question entitled, ‘Where did you meet your spouse?’ To be honest, I was pleasantly surprised to read the response again.

Here we go:

I met her in church. We became friends. Just friends, serving God faithfully in [the] youth ministry [of our church].

Later, my heart began to skip a bit for her. The mere thought of her brought smiles to my heart.

At first, I felt concerned that I was taking the friendship [further] more than I had thought.

“What is wrong with me?” I asked myself.

I prayed about it. I got the assurance that all was well. I told her I loved her and would want to marry her. [It] turned out she was convinced about me too.

Two years later, she became my wife and has been so [five] years now. We have been happy ever after. I thank God for everything.

Although it was an impromptu response I made back then, reading it again now made me feel that I gave an appreciably good summary of where and how I met my wife. This it was that precipitated this post.

So allow me to delve a little more into the full story.

We met in church

I have heard stories of people meeting their spouses in all kinds of places. Even though my mind was open as to where I could meet my would-be-wife, I would consider it a blessing that I met her in Church.

There was this joke back then that if you are looking for a decent girl for a wife then look for her in the church. Whether that’s necessarily true or not, I leave that to you to decide.

Then, I wasn’t particularly sure about where I could meet my would-be-spouse. But I was very sure about who she should be.

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I was convinced she would be someone who had made a strong commitment to God, through a personal relationship with Jesus as Lord and Saviour. Someone who was committed to living her life on Earth to the glory of God and for the benefit of mankind, with eternity in view.

Of course, there were other things I considered, but the above mentioned were not negotiable. It is possible to find such a blessed lady in any possible place around the world. But as God would have it, my church in Lagos was my lucky place.

Our Friendship was healthy

We were individually actively involved in the Lord’s service.  I was the Bible Study coordinator of our Church’s Youth Fellowship and later the Vice President of the group. On her part, she was an active voice in the Youth choir as well as in the main Church choir.

Our friendship developed gradually and blossomed into a very close one. It flourished on a platonic level or what we could describe in Nigerian parlance as just “a brother and a sister in Christ” relationship. Nothing more until love began to set in….

We moved from friendship to love.

Oh the innocent ‘boy’ has fallen in love. You know that feeling of fallen in love? I felt it strongly then. But I was a bit concerned.

“Why would I want to bring ‘love’ into our heavenly friendship and ruin everything?” I had asked myself.

We had mutual respect and trust for each other. We knew the boundaries we set for ourselves. Besides, I never thought I would marry a friend.

But instead of the awesome feeling of love going away, it became strengthened in my heart and louder in my ears. I was glowing! But I was careful not to let her know how I was feeling yet.

“I must do something about it,” I challenged myself.

I cross-checked everything with my Father in Heaven. I believe in prayer; it helps me clarify my thoughts.

“Oh God my Father, do you have a hand in this strong splurge of love I feel in my heart for Your daughter, Jenny?’ I had asked God in prayer.

‘Yes’ was the answer I received in my heart from the still small voice. Once, I knew God was involved, my worries ceased; peace and divine assurance filled my heart.

“One more thing Lord, she is your daughter too.” I pointed out to God – as if He didn’t already know. “Please speak to her about ‘us’. Prepare her heart for this eternal love you have told me I am going to share with her.”

The feeling was mutual.

Not long afterwards, it became clear to me that my prayers had been answered. God had put my love in her heart just as He had put her love in mine. We were ‘flowing’ with each other.

We each knew where God was pointing us to, and we were ready to go with Him all the way to the marriage altar.

The proposal.

I waited till I perceived the time was right to pop the question.

‘Will you marry me?’ I asked her after 9 months down the line.

‘Yes, I will’ was the heavenly response I got from her.

Thus, our courtship officially began. I am grateful, she didn’t make me wait any longer before giving me her consent.

“Give me some more time” some other lady may have said to me. But not my sweet Love, she was prepared for me as I was ready for her. Fifth wedding anniversary

Marriage altar here we come.

Two years afterwards, we both stood before God’s holy altar and echoed “I do, I do” to each other, as we were pronounced husband and wife.

It’s been five years since then. And we are still counting …

I met my wife in Church. I have no doubts that God arranged it that way. That’s my story.

Would you share a little about how you met your spouse?


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39 thoughts on “Birthday offering: How I met my wife

  1. joseyphina May 10, 2016 / 8:20 pm

    Congratulations, Victor. Wish you all the best in your marital journey. Stay blessed.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Peaceful Journey May 10, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    It’s always refreshing to hear from a male perspective about his special mate. Thanks for sharing.

    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner May 10, 2016 / 8:54 pm

      You are welcome Yvonne (Peaceful Journey). I thank you for the comment.


  3. Fatai Jimoh May 10, 2016 / 9:15 pm

    What an interesting episode! May God continued to strengthen your Union. Happy birthday and happy married life

    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner May 11, 2016 / 6:20 am

      Thank you very much Fatai. I am so happy to see you on this platform. See more of you here.


  4. chuks May 11, 2016 / 7:18 am

    What a reminiscence of trajectory of love! Happy birthday my guy. May God continue to bless your marriage and family.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Femi Akinnubi May 11, 2016 / 10:25 am

    May you continue to enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage in Jesus name. Happy birthday once again.

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Faith Ubogu May 11, 2016 / 11:31 am

    Happy birthday! A greater you emerges by this time next year in Jesus name. wish you God’s best in your Family in Jesus. AMEN

    Liked by 1 person

  7. Mrs Adesuyi Oluwatumininu May 11, 2016 / 11:39 am

    So happy for this wonderful family.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. Funke Ajayi May 11, 2016 / 4:45 pm

    Whao! what a model of Christian relationship (i was there when it all began).
    I pray your testimony would continually be relevant and your family continue to be a role model in this generation.
    God bless your marriage IJN.

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  9. VictorsCorner May 11, 2016 / 5:30 pm

    Funke, you got me smiling. That’s true, you were there when we started. Thanks for the comment.


  10. Rhoda May 11, 2016 / 5:54 pm

    I am so inspired .Victor may your marital bliss be endless IJN.

    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner May 11, 2016 / 5:57 pm

      Amen. Rhoda, I am happy to hear that our story inspired you. Thanks for the comment.


  11. Babafemi Adebayo May 11, 2016 / 6:23 pm

    Ngwanu ! No be small thing! Happy married life and best of times together.

    Liked by 1 person

  12. Deo May 12, 2016 / 5:36 am

    Happy birthday Victor! May God bless and keep your family in Jesus name!

    Liked by 1 person

  13. Freedomborn ... Aussie Christian Focus May 12, 2016 / 11:41 am

    Blessings Victor both for your Birthday and your wonderful Marriage, may the Love, Commitment and Joy that you both share continue to be a shining light to others.

    Its True for a Man and Woman to really know each other fully, they have to know Jesus first, so very good you both do.

    “Christ”ian Love – Anne

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    • VictorsCorner May 12, 2016 / 11:46 am

      It is true Anne. Knowing Christ has been our greatest privilege. Thank you for the wonderful comment.


  14. Jennifer uyanwanne May 12, 2016 / 8:27 pm

    Our story my love,very inspiring. May God continue to raise more families with Christ as their foundation

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Blessing Oyelami May 12, 2016 / 8:28 pm

    May God continue to bless and strengthen your union…

    Liked by 1 person

  16. Paul Olanegan May 14, 2016 / 12:04 am

    This is one of the best pieces I have read about love in recent times. I wish you the ‘Heaven on earth’ experience as long as the Lord lives. “Happy Married Life,” I’d first say. . . and now; “Happy Birthday.” T’will be Jesus for life. Jenny, I congratulate you for finding such a man after God’s heart. Enjoy.

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    • VictorsCorner May 14, 2016 / 7:39 am

      Paul, thanks for the beautiful comment. Jenny and I are truly grateful.


  17. Emmanuel Samuel May 15, 2016 / 12:30 pm

    Victor, my friend and course mate, I met you in our day attending classes back then in hot afternoon of Auchipoly. You have been an inspiration of success without looking right or left. I am most gracious meeting with you. May the light of the lord continual b your guide. I wish you happy birthday and happy married life. Just as you are celebrating your wife today, I will implore you to remember to pray to for my wife for God to turn her sorrow to joy and give us reasons to be able to celebrate openly the joy of our marriage. HBD LLNP

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    • VictorsCorner May 15, 2016 / 3:44 pm

      Thank you for taking me down memory lane. Your comment is appreciàted. I pray that God’s power will come through for you in any area of your need. It is well with you in Jesus name.


  18. Dehan Taylor May 29, 2016 / 11:55 pm


    This is so refreshing. May God continues to pour his blessings on you and your family. Your wife is very beautiful too, God didn’t make a mistake.


    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner May 30, 2016 / 12:01 am

      Thank you Dehan. I appreciate your warm comment about my wife and I. Yes, you are right: God doesn’t make mistake. You are blessed too.

      Liked by 1 person

  19. Healing Secrets June 3, 2016 / 6:00 pm

    A happily married man who speaks about his new wife is a beautiful thing to see. Rare, yet beautiful. I pray that you 2 are together forever. Thank you for sharing this. O, Thank you for visiting me, 😃

    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner June 3, 2016 / 6:08 pm

      Thanks for visiting and commenting. I really appreciate your warm comment about my family.


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