6 Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

Benefits of forgiveness

Everyone needs forgiveness.  On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too. And as you well know,  ‘everyone’ here includes you!

“If there is no offence, there will be no forgiveness,” they say. And if someone offends you, you have the choice to either forgive or hold a grudge. Either way, there is always at least a benefit or a consequence.

Giving forgiveness to your offender may not be easy, but it is worth your while to extend it wherever it is needed.  Other wise, you would be shooting yourself in the leg if you hold on to the offence, without forgiving.

Here are 5 simple reasons you should learn to forgive others and let go of that vengeful feeling you may have against anyone who offended you:

  1. God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too.

We have all fallen below God’s standards. But by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, He is no longer holding our sins against us; we have been forgiven.

By the same token, you should no longer hold anyone’s offence against them: forgive them! It is more beneficial to give forgiveness than to hold it back.

  1. Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it.

Some offences against you may appear too terrible and hard to forgive. But guess who suffers more when you refuse to forgive others? You! That’s right, you!

I once heard someone say that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting another person to be hurt by it. That’s absurd. Isn’t it?

You may choose to disagree with me but it is in your best interest to forgive anyone that offends you. The burden is too heavy to bear if you don’t forgive.

  1. Don’t you expect others to forgive you too?

No one is perfect – and that includes you! It is self-deception to think that you have never needed or will ever need forgiveness from anyone.

Meaning that if you ever expect to be forgiven when you do wrong to others, (which I know you will, because you are still human), then you must show the same gesture to others who wronged  or offended you.

  1. Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix.

Personal happiness is one of the most pursued goals in life. But a heart that refuses to forgive will never find true personal happiness and fulfillment; You reduce your chances of finding happiness if you deliberately fail to show forgiveness to others.

Offering forgiveness is a veritable avenue to let off some toxins impeding your emotional health. Just as tobacco smoking is injurious to your health so is unforgiveness unhealthy for your emotional well-being.

I AM FORGIVEN

  1. You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise. 

“I am unable to forgive,” you might say. That’s not true my dear. No matter how deeply you might have been hurt, you can still forgive if you chose to do so.

It is even easier if you allow God to work through, and in, you. By the power of forgiveness God has put in you, you can forgive any offence against you.

Use that power of love that is already in you to forgive others their offences. You will be happier for it.

  1. Forgive yourself to be able to forgive others.

Forgiving others entails forgiving yourself. If you can’t forgive yourself, neither will you be able to extent forgiveness to other people.

Do you love yourself? Then you must forgive yourself so that you can forgive others or even receive forgiveness  from other people too.

 

Is there any offence against you that you are yet to forgive? You would continue to be hurt if you choose not to forgive. But you will enjoy a sense of release and peace if you will decide to forgive that offence today. It might be a tough decision but you can take it.

Those who say revenge is sweet have not tasted the power of forgiveness. Has  giving or receiving forgiveness ever benefited you? Please leave a comment.

 

 

©CopyRight 2016| Victor Uyanwanne

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43 thoughts on “6 Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

  1. mimispassion June 22, 2016 / 9:57 pm

    Yes forgiveness truly brings liberation. Holding on to grudges is a sharp pain in the chest

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  2. Misggrace June 22, 2016 / 11:04 pm

    True…. more so, forgiveness is a divine nature.. and we are not ordinary people….

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    • VictorsCorner June 22, 2016 / 11:50 pm

      You are right, Misggrace. In Christ we have the divine nature that enables us to forgive.

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  3. Dehan Taylor June 23, 2016 / 6:16 am

    I agree with these six reasons Victor. We need to forgive to set our heart at peace. Thank you.

    Dehan

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    • VictorsCorner June 23, 2016 / 8:48 am

      Thanks Dehan for validating the points. And you are right that we need to forgive for us to have peace of heart.

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  4. kiki June 23, 2016 / 6:49 pm

    Forgiveness is a gift. Only a liberal heart can offer it…willingly… thanks for this reminder!

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    • VictorsCorner June 23, 2016 / 6:51 pm

      You are welcome Kiki. You are right. Thanks for reading.

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  5. Charlenekez June 24, 2016 / 1:14 pm

    I love this write up particularly because I’m still struggling with forgiving.
    What do you do when a person’s act permanently jeopardizes your emotional stability in such a terrible way that you have to constantly seek validation from all corners and even become anti social and repulsive. How do you easily forgive ’cause it keeps tying you down?

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    • VictorsCorner June 24, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      Thanks Charlene for your comment and openness. As per your question, I will like to respond as follows:
      1. Whatever the person might have done to you is not your fault but his;
      2. Forgive him/her (and also tell him/her you have done so, if still reachable);
      3. Recognise that what they did to you is in the past; rise above it and move on;
      4. See yourself as a new person; your future is brighter than your past;
      5. Build up your self-esteem to the extent that you feel good about you and who you are without having to wait on other people to validate you.

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      • Charlenekez June 25, 2016 / 9:29 am

        I’m very grateful for this indispensable piece of advice, It’s not all easy but I’d do my best to work it into my daily living. Thank you so much Victor!

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  6. VictorsCorner June 24, 2016 / 4:51 pm

    6. Pray and ask God to heal you of any emotional hangover from that experience;
    7. Open your heart to love and be loved. Living in love can take care of anti social behaviours.
    If you have further questions, pls feel free to let me know. Thank you once again.

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  7. ken riddles July 4, 2016 / 12:02 pm

    Good balanced treatment – I like the poison analogy. Thanks for this. Blessings

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  8. A good message and very True Victor, we are to Love our enemies and forgive them if we too want to be forgiven. We are to pray for them and do good to them, even making an opportunity to do so, but we are to rebuke those in the Church who hurt us, as you can see in the Scripture below or they will go on doing evil without a conscience of the wrong that they are doing and so Satan will get a foothold.

    Luke 17:3-5 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. And the Apostles said unto the Lord, Increase our faith.

    Not forgiving others leads to bitterness and resentment which are part of the flesh and must be put to death if we are to be perfected in Love, when we choose not to forgive regardless of the reasons, it is like mixing poison for our enemy and drinking it ourselves, it eats us away all the good in us just like Cancer does untreated. God tells us to live in peace with others as much as it depends on us, part of forgiveness is repentance and this is the same with God. He chooses to forgive us but until we come to heart repentance we can’t receive His forgiveness.

    To keep forgiving takes strong Faith in knowing and Trusting God to work all things out for good.

    Christian Love Always – Anne.

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    • VictorsCorner July 6, 2016 / 8:48 pm

      I do agree with you that trusting God helps us to forgive others.

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      • Freedomborn ... Aussie Christian Focus July 7, 2016 / 12:21 am

        Yes God does help us to forgive Victor, it’s the only way we can but He does not force us, we have free will, we first have to choose to forgive and this is the same when we Repent, put our Carnal flesh to death, aim to be Perfected in Love, to be conformed into the image of Jesus being Born again of God’s seed and to have His wisdom and empowering or any of His gifts.

        Blessings – Anne.

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  9. Lucky July 9, 2016 / 1:24 pm

    Youve made me think hard on who i need to forgive in my life..its not worth it carrying that burden..thanks for sharing 🙂

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    • VictorsCorner July 9, 2016 / 1:41 pm

      Really? That’s Good. We all need to forgive all our offenders. I agree with you that it’s not worth it carrying the burden of unforgiveness. It pays to forgive.

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  10. nyourownwords July 22, 2016 / 3:41 pm

    I don’t think we realize how unforgiveness holds us, the offended captive. The offender has moved on and still we’re in chains growing more and more bitter. Excellent article.

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