Everyone needs forgiveness. On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too. And as you well know, ‘everyone’ here includes you!
“If there is no offence, there will be no forgiveness,” they say. And if someone offends you, you have the choice to either forgive or hold a grudge. Either way, there is always at least a benefit or a consequence.
Giving forgiveness to your offender may not be easy, but it is worth your while to extend it wherever it is needed. Other wise, you would be shooting yourself in the leg if you hold on to the offence, without forgiving.
Here are 5 simple reasons you should learn to forgive others and let go of that vengeful feeling you may have against anyone who offended you:
- God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too.
We have all fallen below God’s standards. But by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, He is no longer holding our sins against us; we have been forgiven.
By the same token, you should no longer hold anyone’s offence against them: forgive them! It is more beneficial to give forgiveness than to hold it back.
- Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it.
Some offences against you may appear too terrible and hard to forgive. But guess who suffers more when you refuse to forgive others? You! That’s right, you!
I once heard someone say that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting another person to be hurt by it. That’s absurd. Isn’t it?
You may choose to disagree with me but it is in your best interest to forgive anyone that offends you. The burden is too heavy to bear if you don’t forgive.
- Don’t you expect others to forgive you too?
No one is perfect – and that includes you! It is self-deception to think that you have never needed or will ever need forgiveness from anyone.
Meaning that if you ever expect to be forgiven when you do wrong to others, (which I know you will, because you are still human), then you must show the same gesture to others who wronged or offended you.
- Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix.
Personal happiness is one of the most pursued goals in life. But a heart that refuses to forgive will never find true personal happiness and fulfillment; You reduce your chances of finding happiness if you deliberately fail to show forgiveness to others.
Offering forgiveness is a veritable avenue to let off some toxins impeding your emotional health. Just as tobacco smoking is injurious to your health so is unforgiveness unhealthy for your emotional well-being.
- You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise.
“I am unable to forgive,” you might say. That’s not true my dear. No matter how deeply you might have been hurt, you can still forgive if you chose to do so.
It is even easier if you allow God to work through, and in, you. By the power of forgiveness God has put in you, you can forgive any offence against you.
Use that power of love that is already in you to forgive others their offences. You will be happier for it.
- Forgive yourself to be able to forgive others.
Forgiving others entails forgiving yourself. If you can’t forgive yourself, neither will you be able to extent forgiveness to other people.
Do you love yourself? Then you must forgive yourself so that you can forgive others or even receive forgiveness from other people too.
Is there any offence against you that you are yet to forgive? You would continue to be hurt if you choose not to forgive. But you will enjoy a sense of release and peace if you will decide to forgive that offence today. It might be a tough decision but you can take it.
Those who say revenge is sweet have not tasted the power of forgiveness. Has giving or receiving forgiveness ever benefited you? Please leave a comment.
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