Stop Expecting Your Spouse To Fill The Void Only God Can Fill

In our last post in the towards a better marriage series, we dwelt on the need for you to give your best in order to make your marriage work. Let’s add to it however, that only God can meet your spouse’s deepest needs, and yours too.

I assume your spouse loves you very much and is fully committed to meeting your needs. But no matter how much he/she is committed to you, realise that you have needs that only God can meet. For such needs, never expect your spouse to play the role of God!

The same thing applies to him/her too; there are needs he/she has that you cannot meet, no matter how hard you try.

Inside everyone is a void that no other human can satisfactorily fill. That is why you need God.

It is only God that can meet your deepest needs; it is only God that can meet all your heart’s longings. Your spouse may try, but he/she cannot satisfy you completely.

Your spouse is not a miracle worker, so don’t expect him/her to do everything for you and be everything to you, every time. Just like you, remember that he/she is human, subjected to the various limitations of being a flesh and blood entity.

Meeting your spouse’s deepest needs is God’s job. Don’t place the burden on your spouse

Your spouse can make you happy sometimes, but he/she cannot keep you happy all the time. He/she may want to do it, but he/she simply is incapable of doing it every time.

You set yourself up for disappointment and your spouse up for failure if you expect him/her to do the impossible for you. Next time you want a miracle, ask from God, not your spouse. By that I mean you should stop expecting your spouse to fill the void only God can fill.

Let’s help one another, what do you think are the needs of spouses that their partners cannot meet, that only God can meet? Please enter your suggestions in the comment section. 

Thank you.

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne


11 thoughts on “Stop Expecting Your Spouse To Fill The Void Only God Can Fill

  1. Very True Victor, when we come close to Jesus we come close to each other and to fully know each others deepest needs we need to know Him first, He binds us together with His Love.

    God said it was not good for Man to be alone and so He created Woman to be Helpmates to Men and in this Role a Woman will feel complete. Man is to Lead and Cherise His wife, Loving her as Christ does the Church, His sacrificial Love will give him fullness.

    Thankfully when we are in Christ Jesus we are not just Human we are Superhuman because we no longer have the Carnal Nature it has been put to death and being perfected in Love, we have the indwelling Holy Spirit and the mind of Christ, as we see confirmed in the Scripture below. Yes we are a Royal Priesthood a Holy Nation, no longer worldly but belonging to God.

    1 Corinthians 2:16- But he that is Spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man. For who hath known the Mind of the Lord, that he may instruct Him? but we have the Mind of Christ.

    1 Peter 2:9-10 But ye are a chosen Generation, a Royal Priesthood, an Holy Nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvellous Light; Which in time past were not a People, but are now the People of God: which had not obtained mercy but now have obtained mercy.

    Ephesians 2:10 – For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

    Christian Love and Blessings – Anne.

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  2. rolerrol Oct 3, 2016 / 6:47 pm

    Great post Victor.
    As I trust God for a wife it’s Him I should be seeking and getting deeper into cause He is the one who will ultimately keep me and my wife together. Thanks for that insight…
    So deep


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