Adultery Will Cost You!

Fidelity in marriage

Marriage is a special institution established by God for His glory and for the enjoyment of mankind. And we are expected to treat the institution honourably.

Unfortunately, many people have been dishonouring their marriages by not protecting the sanctity of the marital unions as necessary.

Infidelity destroys marriages – don’t be deceived

Part of the requirements for safeguarding the sanctity of marriage is marital fidelity. Be faithful to your spouse.

I do not mean to suggest that fidelity in marriage guarantees that a marriage will be happy and successful. But I can state categorically that marital infidelity is a sure way to destroy a marriage or make it fail.

It is required that in marriage, spouses should be faithful to their partners with their bodies. But what do we see sometimes amongst married people? Adultery, adultery.

Meaning of adultery

Adultery – willful sexual relationship with someone else other than your spouse!

Adultery is a grievous sin first before God and then before your marriage partner. Yet, some people engage in it without caring about the consequences.

Beyond the seeming pleasure derived from adultery, a lot of pain is caused by it. It is foolhardy, to think that will bear no consequences.

Anyone who commits adultery is playing with fire, and should not be surprised if the fire consumes him or her.

Biblical warnings against adultery

As a follower of God, you will have known from the Bible that adultery is a serious sin, with eternal implications…

But beyond that, no one will deny that adultery has terrible consequences here on earth to the perpetrators and to the people along their paths.

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Here is a burning question from someone who seriously contemplated the danger of adultery, and then advised against it:

Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?

Proverbs 6:27

The answer is no!

You cannot put the fire of adultery on your lap and expect not to get hurt!

That means you can commit adultery and expect not to get hurt in some way. It’s that simple but many people are not paying attention.

Here are additional warning against adultery from the book of Proverbs (NLT):

26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life

28 Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? 29 So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife. He who embraces her will not go unpunished…

32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself (Emphasis mine).

Marital infidelity

Other consequences of adultery

  • Loss of reputation
  • Fear of being caught
  • Emotional pains
  • Divorce
  • Financial liability
  • Death
  • Sexually Transmitted Diseases
  • Unwanted pregnancy
  • Unwanted Child
  • Distrust
  • Guilt
  • Loss of job, etc.

A University professor in Nigeria lost his job to ‘adultery’

Talking about loss of reputation and job due to sexual related offences, that was what happened recently to a university professor in Nigeria. He was dismissed by his employers over a confirmed allegation of sexual misconduct.

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Earlier in the year, a recorded conversation between the professor in question and one of his female students went viral in the social media circle in the country.

The report was highly circulated, not only in the academic world, but in religious circles as well. Even the legislative arm of Government showed interest, calling the matter to be thoroughly investigated.

On that leaked audio, the randy professor was caught on tape soliciting sex from the post-graduate student in exchange for pass marks.

Think twice before you commit adultery because it will cost you!

Following the public outcry over the sex-for-mark scandal, the school authority launched an investigation into the allegation. And the preliminary investigation found the professor guilty of the allegation, prima facie, and this led to the accused professor being suspended.

However, the professor was later sacked upon the conclusion of all necessary investigations. You will agree with me that the life of the professor would no longer remain the same after that.

One reputable media source reported that the Professor “was found to be liable for all allegations of [sexual] misconduct levelled against him… This led to the dismissal of the academic from the services of the university, to serve as a deterrent to others.”

Apart of the loss of job, there is loss of reputation. Disgrace to his family, friends and other relations.

The extent of the damage caused by adultery on his relationships can only be imagined.

Adultery damages nearly every relationship around it, including the extended family. Forgetting the goodness and mercy of God by giving in to immediate impulse and physical passion brings self-inflicted consequences to the body and soul…

Ross Rhoads, Adultery – A Heartbreaking Sin

The need for strict safeguards

The guilty-as-charged professor was dismissed “to serve as a deterrent to others.”

That’s one of the reasons I’m writing this post as well, to discourage any contemplation of adultery. And you know it’s in your best interest.

It is my believe that if you realise the inherent danger in committing adultery, you will guard against it; you will set up necessary defenses to prevent you from falling into it.

Even your own is addition to pornography, it is still okay to set up defenses against it.

In as much as it is convenient to claim that you fell into adultery, you would usually see it coming only that you failed to take necessary precautions to prevent you from falling into it.

Here is my final advice: Think twice before you commit adultery because it will cost you!

As David Boehi noted in an article on adultery published on Family Life website,

“…All of us [should] realize the need to set up strict safeguards to ensure that we are faithful in our marriage commitment[s]. If I am convinced of what adultery would do to me and to my family, I will watch my wandering eyes, guard my thought life, and avoid any situations that could put me in harm’s way.”

What’s your perspective on the consequences of adultery? Leave a comment in the comment box.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

9 thoughts on “Adultery Will Cost You!

  1. Downing Jul 2, 2018 / 1:53 am

    I am a strong believer that adultery destroys marriages and all those attached to it. It breaks up families. It brings separation upon homes. And most importantly shows how weak a person is. Adultery is a selfish sin, committed by weak individuals.

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  2. VictorsCorner Jun 28, 2018 / 7:38 pm

    You are welcome Sharon. You are right, adultery…. is sad. For ease of reference, kindly paste here the link to the post you referred to. I promise to leave you a feedback after reading it.


  3. beatdepression776 Jun 28, 2018 / 7:18 pm

    It’s an interesting topic because although we all know adultery relates to a married person having sex with a third party, I think God views many other things as adultery too. I’m not trying to be heretic, it’s just that the man described in my latest blog is loving so many other things over his wife and she is so rejected and neglected and dejected, that it is as if he may as well have another woman. Thus, deliberately and selfishly putting other things before your spouse – loving those things to the point of worship and adoration is also like a form of adultery. The mind has rejected the spouse to the point of revulsion while the mouth is hypocritically claiming to be a follower of Christ. How sad for anyone to be in this position – to have lost the fear of God and be adulterating whether sexually as mainly described by Jesus or in other areas.

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    • VictorsCorner Jun 28, 2018 / 7:25 pm

      No, you are not being heretic. Your argument is valid because even the Bible supports your position. So I quite agree with your perspective here, even though the post tended towards the sexual side of adultery. Thanks alot for the beautiful contribution.

      Meanwhile I will check out your last post that you referred to.

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      • beatdepression776 Jun 28, 2018 / 7:31 pm

        Thanks Victor for seeing what I was getting at. It is so sad. Your opinions on the situation will be greatly appreciated.

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