The curtain will soon be drawn on what someone has called a treacherous year or what some other people have termed the worst year ever. But is it? I’m wondering what you think of that.
We all know the year 2020 has been a difficult year not just for you but for many people around the world.
Irrespective of whatever you’ve been through in 2020, would you term it a bad year?
I will suggest you don’t term 2020 a bad year.
That position may be contrary to what you may have heard but it is a good position to take.
If you hold 2020 in an objective review, (you should do that, if you haven’t already done so), you will dig out what you may call your defining moments.
Forget what majority of people are saying about the year. Do your own assessment and come to your conclusions.
What you will find may or may not surprise you.
What would you say defined the year for you?
Let me guess: you are thinking of at least one of the many negative experiences that happened during year. But I wouldn’t blame you for that, because the outgoing year has been full of many rough patches.
You don’t need anyone to tell you that because you experienced it first-hand, except you were living on another planet for most of 2020.
No one was spared. The rich, the poor – everyone everywhere was impacted by the events of the year, chief of which was the covid-19 pandemic.
I’m sure the future generations will read the events of 2020 and wonder how we survived it. But we did survive it.Tweet
You will remember 2020 for many things
Historians are documenting the events for posterity not to forget these unpalatably defining moments of 2020:
- Or may be the loss of friends and family to the pandemic, or other forms of death.
- The massive loss of jobs in many countries of the world.
- Rising personal debt profile.
- The public outcry against police brutality resulting in the “I can’t breathe” protests in top cities across the world.
- The #EndSARS protests (a localised version of the end police brutality pretest) in Nigeria.
- The postponement of the Tokyo Olympics to 2021.
- The suspension of major football leagues around the world.
Those were some of the events that happened in 2020 that you will continue to talk about for a long time to come.
You will live to tell the story to your grandchildren, and – if you live long enough – to your great grandchildren.
But it’s not all gloom and doom
I’m sure future generations will read the events of 2020 and wonder how we survived it. But we did survive it.
You know what, a defining moment doesn’t have to be so negative.
There must have been some good in 2020. What do you say?
No matter how small it may be, I’m sure you experienced something special this tough year.
Yes, it’s been a rough year but you are alive. That’s why you are reading this piece right now.
Or aren’t you happy to still be on this side of life?
This is what matters most
No matter what you have been through in 2020, you are still alive – that’s what matters. So you can hope for a better year ahead.
But before we draw the curtain on the year 2020, think back for a minute to the good things that happened to you during the year. I’m convinced the year 2020 isn’t all about gloom and doom.
Whatever it is, every one of us must have had a sweet moment during the year. For instance, a friend who has been out of paid employment for three years just landed a lucrative employment as the year is about to end.
2020 hasn’t been the best year ever for me. But I have plenty of reasons not to term it a bad yearTweet
I’m convinced you have your own sweet story too – even though it may not read like that of Elon Musk whom according to a Bloomberg report added $100.3billion to his net-worth this year.
And thanks to Tesla’s skyrocketing share price, Musk is officially the second richest man on earth.
Your bank account balance may not be in the billions but there must be something that made you smile in 2020. Focus on that as you round up the year.
Why I won’t term it a bad year
Just like you, 2020 hasn’t been the best year ever for me. But I have plenty of reasons not to term it a bad year.
It is a good thing that I’m still alive to share this post with you. And that’s very important.
But beyond that, I’m grateful that this year saw me become a dad for the third time. The baby girl made a grand entry into the world in the early hours of 1st October, my Country’s independence day anniversary.
Call it a coincidence, but I will call it providence.
That the baby was born on a public holiday in Nigeria afforded me the opportunity to be with my wife in the labour room at the private hospital that took the delivery.
I was there live when the girl arrived into our lives and into the world – a privilege I never had with my two boys. That was a defining moment of 2020 and I will cherish it for a very looooong time.
And Perhaps you are wondering where I’m coming from, I will tell you in a moment.
A baby girl in the mix
It’s been six years since my wife and I had our last baby. And for some personal reasons we had thought two boys are enough children to have together in our life time.
However, things changed when the ‘desire’ to add a baby girl to the mix began to creep on us. So finally we decided to make room for a third child – as we planned before we got married.
My earnest prayer from then on was “let it be a girl and let me be there when she would be born.” And gratefully, everything eventually worked out as desired.
Prior to that time, we didn’t know there was going to be a pandemic in 2020. So before the Corona virus total lockdown was announced in my country in April, my wife had become three months pregnant.
But the restrictions in movement occasioned by the ravaging covid-19 pandemic turned out to be a blessing in some ways.
As a couple, we had more family time like we have never had in a long while.
I was able to emotionally support my wife during the pregnancy period. So from out-of-the-three times we had our kids, I could truly say “we were pregnant” in this last one.
We experienced it together!
With my wife’s prior pregnancies, I was always away from home due to the exigencies of my work at that time. In my physical absence, she always had to take care of both herself and the children. That was emotionally demanding, if I may add.
But with the pregnancy of our baby girl, we went through it together. The emotional nights and days, the antenatal visits to the clinic and everything in-between, till the day the baby girl was born.
Schools being closed meant that the boys were at home with us. So the journey was a shared responsibility of bearing the pains of the lockdown and enjoying many moments of great family bonding and happiness.
See what I mean?
Even if your story is different from mine, don’t conclude that 2020 is completely a bad year for you and for everyone else.
It is true that many bad and ugly things happened in the course of 2020, but you don’t have to term it a bad year. That may not be a popular opinion, but it is definitely a good one.
I say so because in the midst of the treachery that 2020 has come to represent, you can still find some good and beautiful things to be grateful for.
In hindsight, how would you describe the year 2020?