“I Hate Divorce” – God

“I hate divorce.”

As you may have noticed, those are not my words. They are God’s, as recorded in the Bible.You will read it directly yourself shortly.

When you hate something, you have intense dislike for that thing. I guess that’s how God feels over some of the things we humans do.

For instance, the writer of the book of Proverbs tells us about seven things God hates (6:16-19):

  1. Haughty eyes (a proud look).
  2. A lying tongue.
  3. Hands that shed innocent blood.
  4. A heart that devises wicked schemes.
  5. Feet that are quick to rush into evil.
  6. A false witness who pours out lies.
  7. And a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

If God hates the above things, it means He has intense dislike for them and He is not pleased whenever we engage in any of them. But that doesn’t mean He would stop loving us.

God’s love for us is without end; We can be sure that even if we are not perfect, He still loves us anyways.

One more thing God hates

There is one more thing we are told that God hates: divorce. And that is the focus of this post.

Divorce, “the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body,” – God says He hates it. In Malachi 2:16(NLT), we read the following words:

For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, ” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

In the preceding verse (15), we were given some hints on why God hates divorce. The prophet Malachi communicated that to us in rhetoric:

“Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”

If you read verses 15 and 16 together, the picture comes out even better. Although the emphasis is on men who divorce their wives, the warning would equally be applied to wives who divorce their husbands.

For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, ” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

In the days when Malachi wrote those words, the men were more likely to put away their wives than wives would their husbands. But in our day, it can go either ways.

In any case, the message is clear: God hates divorce.

Having said that, I am also aware that divorce is common place in the world we live in today. But that doesn’t make it right, neither does it stop God from hating it.

If you are contemplating divorce, you may want to reconsider. Before you think of divorce, think about your children.

No marriage is irredeemable, provided you are giving your best to make your marriage work.

And if your marriage is already broken and you are reading this, note that I do not mean to condemn you in any way. If I did, I would be playing God, which I’m not.

We are just talking about God’s perfect purpose for marriage: to be united as one till the end of their lives, because he hates divorce.

That is to say, God intended for a married couple (a male and a female) to be committed to each other in a lifelong loving relationship, reflecting God’s eternal love and commitment to us His people.

Is that an impossible task to achieve? I don’t think so!

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You have read my thoughts. Share yours in the comment section.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

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Why Share Your Testimonies?

Has God ever done anything great for you? If nothing (which I doubt), what about the testimony of your salvation?

That’s assuming that you have given the lordship of your life over to Jesus Christ. And even if you have not, it doesn’t mean God never been good to you.

The truth is that if you think well enough, you will find something in your life that you are immensely grateful for, that you should be thanking God for and also be sharing with people around you.

It is a good thing to stand before people and testify of the goodness of God in your life. David once declared, “I will praise you to all my brothers; I will stand up before the congregation and testify of the wonderful things you have done” (Psalm 22:22, TLB)

So why don’t you want to share your testimonies?

Is it fear or shame or pride that is hindering you  from talkingt about the Lord’s goodness in your life? Aren’t you grateful God came through for you when you needed His help?

Whatever is it, let nothing stop you from sharing your testimonies of what God has done for you.

Sharing your your testimonies will bring the following benefits:

sharing your testimonies

1. Sharing your testimonies brings glory to God

The purpose of your testimony is to draw attention to God, not to put you on a pedestal of some sort. It is to exalt the name of the Lord before your audience.

Provided that you do not lie or exaggerate your testimonies, you bring glory to God whenever you share or testify of what God has done for you.

When you hoard your testimonies (and that’s what you do when you refuse to share them with people), you deny God the opportunity to be glorified or exalted before the people around you.

Don’t hold back any more; Share your testimonies with people, because doing so brings immense glory to God and shame to the devil.

2. Sharing your testimonies strengthen your faith in God

It is a thing of joy for you to openly talk about what God has done for you. Apart from the emotional relief or satisfaction it brings to you, it also empowers your faith in God.

It gives you that feeling that the God who delivered you now will do so for you again next time.

In the dialogue between King Saul and the shepherd boy David before the latter when to fight Goliath, David testified,

“The LORD who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.” Saul said to David, “Go, and the LORD be with you” (2 Samuel 17:37).

It was this testimony that inspired David to confront and completely defeat the war veteran known as Goliath

Testimonies are part of your spiritual weapons. Remember the following words in Revelation, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony…” (12:11).

3. Sharing your testimonies encourages other people to trust God more

Apart from strengthening your own faith in God, sharing your testimonies can also encourage your hearers.

Let’s say you were in a pit and God delivered you from it. Right now many people are in the same pit you once were. Sharing the testimony of how God delivered you will inspire hope in them and strengthen their faith in God for possible deliverance as well.

Your testimony has the potential of revealing God to people or pointing to them to God. So it is a great disservice to people around you if you fail to share your God-given testimonies with them.

4. Sharing your testimonies slaps the devil big time

If sharing your God-given testimonies brings glory to God, it automatically has the opposite effect on the devil. It shames him and beats him up big time.

Understand this: if your pride stops you from sharing the testimonies of what God has done for you, you are in effect giving the devil opportunity to smile. I will assume that’s not what you want to keep doing.

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It is a good thing to share with people the testimony of what God has done for you. When you do so, you bring glory to God, you strengthen your faith in God, you encourage other people to trust in God more and you bring shame to the devil.

Do you find it easy or feel ashamed to share your testimonies? Leave us a comment or two.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

On The Resurrection Story And The Cover Up Conspiracy

RESURRECTION

It is unfortunate that some people in the modern world have chosen to dismiss the Biblical account of the resurrection story as a work of fiction or a product of deluded minds. But you see, anyone who denies that Jesus rose from the death does so at his or her own risk, one that has an eternal consequence.

Doubters may continue to doubt, but it does not change the fact that Jesus died and rose from the dead.  So He is no longer in the grave

In Christianity, the resurrection of Jesus Christ is considered the greatest event ever. In fact, it is the foundation of the Christian faith.

Without it, we would not have a solid foundation for our faith. Without it, what we would have is another dead religion.

Apostle Paul underscored this point when he wrote to the Church in Corinth saying, “And if Christ has not been raised, then all our preaching is useless, and your faith is useless” (1 Corinthians 15:14).

Gratefully, the gospel is not useless and our faith is not a useless one either.

Ther reason is that it is a historical fact (despite what some skeptics may say) that Jesus physically resurrected from the dead.

One thing about that is sure, the resurrection of Jesus was not a bolt from the blues. It was something that was talked about long before it actually happened.

There were several prophecies about it. For instance, here is a quote from the book of Psalms:

“…you will not abandon me to the realm of the dead, nor will you let your faithful one see decay” (16:10, NIV).

When God raised Jesus was the dead, that Scripture was fulfilled.

Jesus Himself talked about His resurrection well in advance. In Mathew’s Gospel, we read of the following account:

“See, we are going up to Jerusalem. And the Son of Man will be delivered over to the chief priests and scribes, and they will condemn him to death and deliver him over to the Gentiles to be mocked and flogged and crucified, and he will be raised on the third day” (20:18-19, ESV).

In essence, Jesus stated that the Gentiles (in this case, the Romans) would condemn and crucify him, but He would rise up on the third day.

Whatc be clearer than that?

Anyway, that was exactly what happened: Jesus was crucified and put in a grave. But on the third day, He came out alive by divine power.

By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also (1 Corinthians 6:14).

An Angel announced to the first women who visited the grave, “…Do not be afraid, for I know that you seek Jesus who was crucified. He is not here, for he has risen, as he said. Come, see the place where he lay” (Matt. 28:5-6, ESV).

Following this awesome resurrection story, the soldiers who were stationed to guard the grave went to town to narrate their experience. But they did it in away to make them look good.

That gave rise to the cover-up conspiracy as reported below:

And when they had assembled with the elders and taken counsel, they gave a sufficient sum of money to the soldiers and said, “Tell people, ‘His disciples came by night and stole him away while we were asleep.’ And if this comes to the governor’s ears, we will satisfy him and keep you out of trouble” (Matt. 28:12-14, ESV).

Despite this conspiracy, we know that Jesus rose from the dead; His disciples didn’t steal Him away as alleged. “… God raised him from the dead, freeing him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for death to keep its hold on him” (Acts 2:24, NIV).

Jesus resurrected and He is alive forever.

Centuries later, we are still celebrating the risen Lord. That proves that the conspiracy that His disciples stole His body could not successfully cover up the resurrection story. And it never will!


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Has God Heard From You In a While?

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I recently watched a movie that inspired the title of this post. It was about a best–selling author who suddenly began to face unexpected personal and financial challenges.

Missed writing deadlines, tax issues, relationship break downs, debts, etc. were some of the pressing issues she was seen to be grappling with. All these made her insensitive, irritable, rude, cold-hearted and unproductive – to the dismay of her friends and family.

The good part was that she knew things weren’t going on so well with her. So she tried to concoct various plans as quick-fixes for her nagging problems.

At one point she seriously contemplated ‘relocating’ to another continent (from America to Africa) to have more time for herself. But she never went through with the plan.

In another occasion, she tried selling off her father’s restaurant business in order to raise the needed funds to settle her outstanding tax and other financial obligations that threatened to have her being put behind prison bars. But her parents opposed this idea very strongly, assuring her that there must be better ways of handling the issues.

Now this is where I am going…

In the heat of her crisis and rejection, this protagonist knelt down in her room and began to sob and to pray saying, “Oh Lord, I know You have not heard from me in a while…”

In what seemed like a short but a heartfelt prayer to God, she poured out her confusion, fears, and problems before God. Although all her problems didn’t varnish all at once, it seemed that things began to work out better for her from then onward.

“Oh Lord, I know You have not heard from me in a while…” That opening line alone got me giggling aloud.

God hasn’t heard from her, or rather, she hadn’t talked to Him in weeks, in months or possibly in years. But now in her predicaments, she remembered she could still talk to God.

You see, it reminds me about people who once had a relationship with God but are now estranged from Him. God hasn’t heard from them in a while too!

May be you are even one of such people. If only you would get back to God like this woman in our discourse or like the prodigal son got back to the waiting embrace of his father. Things would be better for you again.

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Do you have any comment about this post? Let’s have your opinion in the comment section.


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Another Look At The Meaning Of Tolerance

What does “tolerance” mean to you?

I know the word is not new to you as people frequently use it. What I don’t know is how much of its real meaning you have understood and applied in your own sphere of influence.

You may probably have been tempted to think that tolerance strictly means to put up with something or someone with very nasty, horrible, terrible or poignant attributes. Not really!

Please take a good look at the definition below and compare it with what you already know about the meaning of the word:

Tolerance:

“Willingness to accept behaviour and beliefs which are different from your own.”

 

I don’t know about you, but the definition above opened up an entirely new vista to me, of which I am glad.

It shows for instance that tolerance doesn’t say we should put up with evil or bad things or bad people. But it clearly portrays “willingness to accept behaviour and beliefs which are different from [our] own.”

Now let’s take a closer look at the key aspects of the said definition:

• Willingness to accept…
• Behaviour and beliefs…
• Different from your own…

Tolerance would be required wherever there are inter-human relationships because you will always meet people whose behaviour and beliefs are different from yours.

That’s why tolerance may also be understood as “the ability or willingness to tolerate the existence or opinions or behaviour that one dislikes or disagrees with.

That means you can disagree with someone without going to war with him or her.

It means you should have an open mind towards someone even when he or she has an opinion that is completely different from yours.

Due to a number of varied factors such as genetic make-up, family background, religion, education, geography, exposure, life experiences etc, all of us believe different things and behave differently from one another.

That means that at any point in time in your chequered life, you will always see people who behave or believe differently from you; whose opinions about issues are not like yours. 

The question would then be, “how would you deal with such people?”

group of people standing on dock beside body of water

In order to coexist harmoniously with such people, you should be willing to tolerate them if you cannot change them.

Talking about changing people, experience has shown that many people are aware that some other people do not share their opinions, behaviour or beliefs.

But some times, they are unwilling to accept such other people who do not share their outlook. This is often the beginning of unnecessary conflicts in human interactions.

However, you may only try to effect some changes on peoples’ behaviour or beliefs if possible to suite yours; but you shouldn’t try to use force.

By the way, you can’t change anyone who doesn’t really want to be changed. You can only influence such person.

When it comes to changing someone’s behaviour or beliefs, influence should be the operating word, not force.

Otherwise, you must bring to bare the willingness to accept their behaviour and beliefs which you perceive to be different from your own and which you cannot change.

That, my friend, is the real meaning of tolerance.

Bear in mind that tolerance is a seed; as you sow it, you will reap the sweet harvest.

Don’t you realise that other people would have to tolerate you too?

I believe you know that not all your opinions, behaviour and beliefs are acceptable to everyone you come in contact with!

Although, I cannot guarantee it, other people too ought to be willing to accept your opinions, behaviour and beliefs which are different from their own. That is if they know what it means to practice tolerance.

There is no worthwhile relationships with people that do notnot requ tolerance in between.

Like all good habits, tolerance doesn’t just happen to us; it has to be cultivated deliberately and ‘open-heartedly’.

It is very important to cultivate it because you will need it if you desire to build a meaningful, harmonious and long-lasting relationship of any kind.

Here are a few areas where we can apply the principle of tolerance:

At home, between spouses , amongst siblings or other family members;
At work, between you and your boss, colleagues or direct reports;
In your neighbourhood, amongst co-tenants, etc
Amongst your friends, classmates in schools etc
In churches, with members and leaders alike;
In other organisations /relationships, etc

In fact, anywhere you come in contact with humans, tolerance is needed. As you well know, no body is perfect.

People are different. You are not everyone and everyone is not you. Therefore, there will always be differences in opinion, behaviour and beliefs between you and others.

There would be conflicts all the time in all kinds of human relationships if the principle of tolerance is not imbibed.

The extent to which you realise this differences and how well you are willing to accept and manage them depict your level of tolerance at any given period.

What does tolerance mean to you? Let’s hear from you in the comment section.

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Previously published on this blog in 2015 as “What tolerance really means.”

Mr. Know All

Because he is so bright.
He thinks all his ways are right.
So he went only his way.
But, alas, he went astray!

He feels he knows everything
He doesn’t want to be taught anything
But indeed he is truly short-sighted
He who doesn’t want to be guided

Whether in his aggressive action
Or in his cool but calculated inaction
If he doesn’t want to hear out any body
He might end up becoming a nobody

Portraits of Mr Know All

“It’s my life; this is my world”
Will always be his word
But he forgets to remember
That one alone is too small a number.

He’s been planting the seed of loneliness
Sure he will meet with shameful ugliness.
If he doesn’t change now his ways
He’s heading for the way that never pays.

If he never learns from the rest
His abode will soon turn into a forest.
Cos he’s standing on the sand that sinks
He’ll end up in a hole that stinks.

Already, he’s heading towards destruction
Because he completely abhors instruction.
Soonest will be his day of reckoning
Clearly, to him the devil is beckoning.

Had he loved good instruction
He wouldn’t go in the wrong direction.
Could we then say all is well?
He’s gone farther than we can tell.

There might still be a way out
If for help he’ll open his mouth to shout
But his pride reaches the imposing sky
Like the Everest standing so high.


First published in two parts as “Mr Know All 1&2” on my Wise Poems blog.

©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Three Lifelong Useful Skills You Should Start Developing Right Now

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The following is an outline of a 15-minute pep-talk I delivered at a breakfast meeting held by a small group of professional friends. I thought I should share it with you. Who knows, you might pick up one or two things from it.

1. Oratorial Skill 

Meaning

Ability to speak properly and eloquently.

Benefits:

  • Helps you to create the right impression
  • Enables you to be more persuasive
  • Enhances your leadership skill

Cautions:

  • Don’t talk too much.
  • Don’t say what you don’t mean.
  • Don’t manipulate people.

2. Negotiation Skill

Meaning

The process by which compromise or agreement is reached while avoiding argument and dispute: a method by which people settle differences.

Benefits:

  • Makes you less confrontational.
  • Helps you to save cost.
  • Increases your sense of satisfaction in any deal.

Cautions:

  • Don’t take advantage of people.
  • Don’t be mean.
  • Be fair; seek win-win outcomes.

caution wet floor signage on gray rocks in seashore

 

3. Selling Skill

Meaning

Ability to hand over or give something in exchange for money.

Benefits:

  • Boosts your self confidence.
  • Helps you to market your ideas, service or product better.
  • Increases your income or earning power.

Cautions:

  • Overcome the temptation to lie.
  • Don’t sell what is against your conscience.
  • Sell only what has value.

Ways to develop your oratorial, negotiation and selling skills

  • Desire
  • Observation
  • Learning
  • Preparation
  • Practice
  • More Practice

Ending Quote:

“I really believe that everyone has a talent, ability or skill that they can mine to support themselves and to succeed in life.” ~ Dean Koontz


©Copyright 2019| Victor Uyanwanne

On The 6 Jews Said To Have Dramatically Impacted All History

Greatest Jews ever lived
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In a sub-article , How Israel and the Jews have shaped history, Adrian Rogers observed that “As you study history, you learn that the indestructible Jew has left his indelible mark upon history. The Jewish people are not great in number. Of the world’s population, they are only 0.2%. That’s not two percent. That’s less than one-fourth of one percent. Yet did you know that 22% of Nobel Prize winners have been Jews? In 2013, six of the 12 laureates were Jewish…”

Rogers argument is that although the Jews are few in number, they have made tremendous contributions to the development of the world as we know it – be it “…in medicine, health, music, and public life.”

Buttressing his point, Rogers employed rhetoric by drawing attention to some of the useful inventions by Jews:

“Have you ever taken an aspirin? Friedrich Bayer, whose company developed aspirin, was a Jew. Were you vaccinated for polio as a child? The injectable and oral polio vaccines of Salk and Sabin were so effective, the disease has been all but eradicated.

Has the dentist ever deadened your tooth before he started to drill? Alfred Einhorn, who developed Novocain, was a Jew…”

You can head over to Crosswalk.com to read the full article. But here in this post we will further examine it’s concluding paragraph:

“All history has been dramatically impacted by six Jews: Moses, Paul, Karl Marx, Sigmund Freud, Albert Einstein, and above them all, the Lord Jesus Christ.”

There are many things we know about these people that make them great. Time and space will fail me to delve into how all six of them dramatically impacted history.

So let us take a little peep into three of them with Biblical history: Moses, Paul and Jesus:

1. Moses

There many things that are remarkable about this man referred to as the meekest man on earth.  As one source noted, Moses is “Universally recognised as the deliverer of his people, the Israelites, from slavery in Egypt, biblical and human history also credit him with establishing Israel’s judicial and religious systems.”

2. Apostle Paul

Paul has been described as the Apostle of Apostles and the writer of two-thirds of the New Testament Bible. As noted in the Encyclopaedia Britannica,  “Paul is often considered to be the most important person after Jesus in the history of Christianity. His epistles (letters) have had enormous influence on Christian theology, especially on the relationship between God the Father and Jesus, and on the mystical human relationship with the divine.”

3. Jesus Christ

Indeed, Moses, Paul, Freud, Einstein and Jesus impacted the history of this world as we know it. However, Jesus Christ is the greatest of all. He is the Saviour of the world. and you know what? He is my Saviour too!


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The Question About Knowing Your Final Destination When You Die

A reader recently commented on one of my posts. And I followed his trail to his blog where I read some interesting posts.

In Suicidal thoughts/In case tomorrow never comes, the author asked some amusing questions and suggested that we think or blog about them. I am taking up the challenge here by answering one of the many questions he asked.

Of all the thirty five questions on the list, this one (which was incidentally no 1) tickled my fancy the most:

“If you had the chance to find out where your final destination would be after you die right now at this moment, would you wanna know?”

My immediate response to that question was, “…I am glad that I don’t have to wait till I die to know where I would be when I die. As a believer in Christ, I know I will be with God when I die. Can one be sure about this on this side of the earth? Yes, but’s that’s a story for another day.”

Further to that impromptu comment of mine, this post is my humble attempt at addressing that question in detail. And I am speaking as someone who believes in God through Jesus Christ and accepts the Bible as the authentic word of God.

I reckon that we would understand the discussion better if I broke my ‘story’ into smaller units as follows:

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1. There is an “after life”

First of all, let me affirm here (as rightly presupposed in the question) that there is life after death. And whether you believe in it or not does not change the fact that an ‘afterlife” exists.

If you are a believer, we have an assurance from Jesus Christ that a place is being prepared for us to be when we die. “And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also” John 14:3.

Apostle Paul also made reference to the ‘afterlife’ in some of his Epistles. “If I am to go on living in the body,” he says, “this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far” (see Philippians 1:21-23).

So my dear reader, recognise that it is a fundamental human error – with an eternal consequence – to believe that we cease to exist when we die; that all we have in this life is all there is, that there is no life after death.

In the article What happens when we die?, Matt Slick points out, “Some people believe that when we die, we just stop existing. Biblically, this is not true. According to Scripture, we continue after death. But, if we stop existing we will never know it. Therefore, the only thing we could “know” after death is if we continue. Is it worth taking a chance on eternity in the afterlife by hoping you don’t exist anymore? It’s a huge risk to take.”

2. You don’t have to wait till you die to “find out where your final destination would be.”

If you have to wait till you to die to determine the question of the ‘after life’ then it would have been too late. Your time on earth is your opportunity to “decide” your final destination when you die.

If you don’t consciously decide on it before you die, you would have automatically decided that you would spend your afterlife without God. Continue reading to see ‘how’.

life after death

3. What the Bible teaches

We understand from the word of God that there are only two possible final destinations for man at the end of life here on earth. One is Heaven, and the other is Hell (Matthew 25:46).

I am sure that you have heard about heaven or hell spoken of from many perspectives. What I am not sure is whether you have firmly understood in your mind what they each stand for.

Suffice to say here that Heaven, is the presence of God, a place full of bliss. Hell, is a place without the presence of God, a place of damnation.

In Revelation 14:11, we are given a glimpse of the kind of torment that will be experienced by the occupants of hell – satan and everyone else who sides with him. “And the smoke of their torment rises for ever and ever. There is no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and his image, or for anyone who receives the mark of his name.”

4. Your destiny is in your hand.

When it comes to deciding where you will spend your after life, I would say it is up to you to decide. First, you have to ‘accept’ that there is an “after life.”

And there are only two possible places you can spend it. It will either be in heaven or in hell.

The only way to spend it in heaven is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour while you are still alive here on earth. “Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved” (Acts 4:12).

So it is in your best interest to not only acknowledge that there is an afterlife, but also to plan or prepare for it.

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Do you believe in the afterlife? What’s your view?


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Do Your Friends and Family Read Your Blog?

why we want our friends to read our blogs

One of the things I learnt from starting a blog was that not all your family and friends will be enthusiastic about your blog as you would want them to be. And there could be many reasons for that…

You know what they say, “A prophet has no honour in his own country.” So it could mean that some of your friends and family who do not read your blog do not believe in you enough to do so. After all, don’t they read other blogs on the internet?

If the answer is ‘no’, then I will exempt those of your friends and family who are not internet savvy or are not disposed to blog reading.

On the other hand, you might want to say they are very busy people and so could not make out sufficient time for your blog. That’s possible too, but don’t we all create time for what is important to us? I dare to say that if they considered your blog important, they would make out time for it.

Have you also thought of the fact that some of them could be jealous of you over your blog? Please forgive my frankness, but that’s the reality of our world.

Suddenly, you are doing something different (or even better) than all of them are doing. And you want them to heartily urge you on by checking out your blog and supporting it? I bet you that some of them might not want to do that wholeheartedly.

You have the freedom to expect that your friends and family members would be the most ardent followers/readers of your blog. But you might get to find out that they are not even interested. That awful reality should never discourage you.

Consider yourself fortunate if your family and friends are part of the ardent readers of your blog. I congratulate you on that too. But never you take them for-granted because they are giving you all the needed support.

There is nothing in this post that suggests that you should badger your friends and family into reading your blog. If it is okay by you, you may just let them know about your blog. But it is not okay to try to ‘force’ them to read it.

I don’t know what your experience is, but in my own case, it has not really worked out very well for me in trying to ‘get’ family and friends to regularly check out my blog. I have left that decision to them.

Let me even ask you: do you mind if your friend and family read your blog? For me, I don’t mind! But I know everybody is not like me. (Obviously!). There are some authors who don’t even want the closest people to them to read their blogs.

One of such people claimed that what she writes on her blog are things her family do not know are part of her life. So because of some kept personal secrets, she doesn’t want her family (especially her mum) to read her blog. I wonder what you think of that!

My take is that if you are not keeping personal secrets on your blog, there is no reason you shouldn’t want your friends and family to read your posts.

That brings me to the question in the heart of the post: Do your friends and family read your blog? We would like to hear from you in the comment section.


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Five Ways To Expand Your Blogging Capacity

To all new bloggers

Towards the end of 2018, I read a Keith Haney’s Five ways to expand your ministry capacity. As you can see from the headline of this post, it was that referenced article that inspired this one. Thank you Keith!

Although Keith’s post was predominantly about leadership, I reckon that the things he wrote about – confidence, connections, competence, character and commitment – could also be applied in the world of blogging. Hence, I will expatiate on them here – with the hope of deepening your blogging experience.

1. “Build your confidence”

Anyone who has been blogging for sometime now will admit that blogging is not a bed of roses, neither is it a piece of cake.

Apart from the joy blogging brings, there are also moments of self-doubt, of discouragement and of negative criticisms. Building your self-confidence will help you manage some of those less exciting moments better.

In what areas do you have to build confidence in? As far as your blogging journey is concerned, any area you feel a sense of fear is the area you should start building confidence in.

Have confidence that you can write and start writing. Do not be paralysed by fear. Have the confidence that your blog will be read and that someone out there will find your post beneficiary.

Without confidence, your blogging journey will be not too enjoyable.

2. “Expand your connections”

In blogging, you cannot afford to be an island to yourself. You have to connect with other bloggers, both on their blogs and on their social media handles.

Read other blogs apart from yours. Click the ‘like button’ on any post you have read and liked. Most importantly, engage the author in further interactions by leaving a suitable comment on the posts you read. Any reasonable blogger will not fail to respond to your comments.

Reach out to bloggers you admire. Deepen your connections with them. You have to admit that you will have a lot of things to learn from them, especially if you find that they have done what you want to do or have been where you would desire to be.

Another thing you can also do is to join a blogging community, particularly those in your niche area or share similar values with you. As I said, in another post, when it comes to blogging, you cannot afford to be a recluse.

Reaching to other bloggers

3. “Improve your competence”

Most people did not start out on their blogging journeys as pros. They were once amateurs like you and I; but they improved their game over time.

So if you want to expand your blogging capacity, you have to improve your competence – “the ability to do something successfully or efficiently.”

You may be a noob today but don’t remain that way forever. Learn. Grow.

Improve on your grammar, improve on your writing/editing skill, improve on your posts’ delivery style.

Whatever, you do on your blogging journey today, do it better that you did it yesterday. That’s how we know that your competence level is improving.

 Competence goes beyond words. It’s the leader’s ability to say it, plan it, and do it in such a way that others know that you know how – and know that they want to follow you – John C. Maxwell

4. “Strengthen your character”

To deepen your blogging capacity, it is also important you strengthen your character as a person as well. Your character is who you are, your distinctive moral qualities.  And just like your shadow, your character follows you wherever you go

Approach your blogging with a sense of honesty. Don’t deceive your readers. Don’t scam them. Deliver on your blogging promises to them  and apologise to them where necessary.

If you are a phoney person, it will eventually manifest – no matter how much you try to hide it. And once your readers discover that you can’t be trusted, you will lose their loyalty.

I am not requesting that you should be a flawless and perfect person. While being true to yourself, be a better version of yourself. The bottom line is this: do not sacrifice your character on the altar of success, fame or fortune.

5. “Increase your commitment”

Nothing worthwhile will ever be achieved without commitment. And that’s applicable in blogging too.

“Without commitment you cannot have depth in anything – Neil Strauss.

You cannot expand your blogging capacity if you are not committed to it. Just like a serious athlete commits to his or her daily exercise routine, you have to commit to your blog.

Whether you are blogging professionally or it is a pastime for you, you have to show some level of commitment to it. This is not negotiable.

By increasing your commitment, you will be able to write posts as and when due, respond to your readers’ comments and emails. You don’t want people visiting your blog only to find out that the last time you updated it was three months ago Do you?

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In what other ways can you expand your blogging capacity? Leave a comment.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

New Year Musings

Learn. grow

This is a new year. I know you know that already, but I said it anyway. So what are you going to do about that? Lash me? No way… Just humble yourself a little and read on…

This new year has come just like any other one before it. And it is already rolling away just like the ones before it had done. What you make out of it is your choice.

Last year, you had some plans, and made some new resolutions. How far did you go with them? How far did you run with those plans?

Are the plans still with you or they have left you? Or is it you that have left your plans and resolutions?

Either ways, last year is gone. This year is your chance to start again.

You are free to open a new chapter or continue from where you left-off earlier. Again the choice is yours.

It is not time to throw in the towel…

But if you want a different result, be sure to do things differently from the ways you have been doing them.

Remember Albert Einstein’s classic definition of insanity: “doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” You don’t want that to be your story this year!

Your goals are still within reach if you strongly set your mind on them. In case you have not made any plans at all for the new year, you can do that right away. Don’t say it is too late to plan. No, it is not!

Set your goals. Work out the strategies to achieve them.

The point is this: have an idea of what you want to achieve this year and write out what you will need to do to achieve them. And then get to work. Nothing will work until you work at them.

“If you don’t have any plans, it means you have planned to fail.” That’s not a new statement to you. But why have you been falling victim of its’ implication every time?

Forget about the previous years and let this year be different. Truly, this year can be remarkably different for you if you commit to doing things differently.

There are many areas of your life that you can do things differently. In your thought-life for instance. Stop the “stinking thinking” that has bedeviled you all these years. Think empowering thoughts this new year…

If you don’t want to end up the same way you ended up last year and the year before, stop thinking the same way you thought last year and the year before. You know what they say, “To change your life, change your thinking.”

That’s right! The outward change you desire has to start from within you first. Once that change revolution starts from within you, it is a matter of time, it will manifest around you.

Learn new things. Unlearn somethings. Relearn some others. Grow.

Knock on more doors than you did in the year before. Reach out to other people. Don’t be a recluse.

You know this is a new year. Don’t let it roll by just like that. By all means, make the most of it.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Dear New Blogger: 7 Things I Would Like You To Know

Advice to a new blogger

Many people will take the wonderful decision to start a blog this year. If you are one of such people or you have recently started a blog, I will like you to know some things which will help you in the blogging journey.

1. Your decision to start a blog is a step in the right direction

Some people would start a blog and then begin to wonder if they are doing the right thing. If you are thinking like that, then the following words are for you.

I wouldn’t know the reason you started your blog, but one assurance I can give you is that starting a blog is a good step you have taken. So don’t give in to self-doubt!

However, if you are not sure why you started a blog in the first place, take some time off to get that settled. You don’t want your blog to be directionless and purposeless. Do you?

Once you have defined the purpose of your blog, believe in it strongly. Having a firm belief in your blog’s mission will empower you, encourage you, enlarge you  and deepen your expectations.

When I started this blog, I saw it as an avenue to share my thoughts with the world and also to explore my writing skill which has remained latent over the years of my life. But I soon discovered that blogging is also a journey of personal development.

Apart from the many other benefits you will get to enjoy from starting a blog, you will get to discover that blogging will help your personal development in many ways. I don’t want to over-flog this point because as you know, the taste of the pudding is in the eating. So ride right ahead on your blogging journey.

2. Read and write extensively

As you have embarked on the blogging journey, know that you have headed in the writing direction. In other words, a blogging journey is largely a writing journey.

One notable thing that writers do is that they read a lot. So if you want to go far with your blogging experience, you have to read and write extensively. By so doing, you will gain more knowledge, have fresh ideas and improve on your writing skills.

If you have the dream to be a published author one day, know that your writing blog is a veritable platform to hone your skills. You get the point?

Promote your blog posts on social media.

3. Take some steps to make your blog more visible

Let me shock you with this little statement: despite all the efforts you have put in it, many people who should be reading your blog do not even know that it exists in the first place. That’s harsh, I know but it is the reality you are face with!

Your blog is new on the block hence I concede that it will take some time for it to gain due popularity. But if you think the world should read your blog because you have something valuable to share, I think it is worth it for you to take some steps to make the blog more visible than it is right now so that more and more people can discover it to read.

For instance, you should make sure your blog is indexed as ‘public’ rather than as ‘private’ to make it discoverable by search engines. Also when you publish a post on your blog, don’t go to sleep. Promote it on social media and encourage your readers to share it as well.

Those are just a few tips on how to make your blog more visible. You can find out others for yourself.

4. You need to interact with other blogs regularly

I already said you should read very extensively. Part of what you should be reading regularly are posts on other blogs – whether they are in your area of niche or not. I know from my own experience that there are many benefits of reading other people’s blogs.

Don’t be an island to yourself. Reach out and interact with other bloggers. Follow their blogs. Read their posts. Hit the like button on the posts you have read and liked.

Most importantly, leave meaningful comments on other blogs’ posts you have read. Both the writers of the blogs you comment on as well as some of their other readers may follow your trail to your blog to read your posts as well. And please, for goodness sake, don’t tell me you don’t care if no one reads your blog, because that would be a lie!

5.You will face some negative criticisms on your blog

Let no one deceive you, blogging is not a piece of cake. There would be times the feedback you get would seem like a bitter pill to swallow. But it is up to you how you would react to it.

Apart from the hard-work and personal discipline that your blog requires from you, know also that some people will harshly criticise you for it. There are those who will question your decision to start a blog. Some will dismiss your posts as irrelevant and some others will even attack your person.

Whatever kind of criticisms you may face, do not be discouraged and do not give up on your blogging mission. Just stay focused on your blogging objectives and use the criticisms to improve on your game. I tell you what, there are some good things about the negative criticisms you will get on your blog. Find them and use them.

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6. If you leave your blog, your blog will leave you

I don’t mean that to be taken so literally. But I do want to emphasise on the need to stay ‘close’ to your blog.  I have a personal rule that no day passes without me checking up on my blog. That way I am able to make draft posts, review pending posts,  or catch up with responses on  my readers’ comments.

I am not saying you should be like me; follow the pattern that works for you. The important thing is that you don’t leave your blog ‘unattended’ to for weeks or months. Your faithful readers will be left hanging if you do that!

In a way, having a blog is like having a baby. You have to nurture it, feed it regularly and ensure that it remains healthy. That’s what you should do to your blog too.

Respond to readers comments your posts. Write new posts regularly. If you choose to post daily, weekly or monthly as the case may be, please be consistent about it. To keep your readers coming back, you have to give them something good to regularly come back to.

7. You might see the need to start a second blog too

I already assured you that your decision to start a blog is a step in the right direction. So I take it that we are settled on that.

What about starting a second or even a third blog? That’s not a bad idea either. But you have to wait until there is a compelling need for it. Otherwise, your energy might be spread out too thinly across multiple blogs and you might stifle your main one to death.

When I started Victors’ Corner, I didn’t see the need for another blog until three years after. Being a personal blog, I had about six categories of posts I crammed into it. But I have recently seen the need to create a separate blog from the Poems’ Category. That has given rise to Living Poems blog.

As as you make progress with your current blog, you might sense the need to set up another blog, that’s okay. You are not doing that with the aim of shutting down your current blog but with the purpose of furthering another blogging objective.

Thank you for reading my suggestions to new bloggers. Let the conversation continue in the comment section. What will be your advice to a new blogger?


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

2018 In Review: Top 5 Posts

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As we draw the curtain on the year 2018, I thought I should do a recap of the five most liked posts on this blog. (You may click on each of the links to read the full posts):

Enjoy…

#5. ​Jesus: 8 Special Things About The Baby That Changed The World

In Jesus’ birth, divinity became humanity. It was the beginning of the unfolding of the grandest heavenly agenda in bringing salvation to mankind.

  • Jesus was miraculous conception by a virgin. His conception by a virgin and birth were undeniable fulfillment of divine prophecies…
  • Jesus got His name several centuries before He was born…
  • The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world…
  • Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection
  • He is the only One giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him…

#4.  Six Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

Everyone needs forgiveness.  On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too.

  • God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too…
  • Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it…
  • Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix…
  • You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise…

#3. Eight Simple Reasons I Do Not Follow Your Blog

Part of the joy of blogging is having people following your blog, regularly reading your written thoughts and sending you feedback through their comments, likes, emails, reblogs etc. If you have ever wondered why people are not following your blog, these may just be some of the reasons:Why people follow your blog

  • They don’t even know that your blog exists in the first place…
  • You are not following their blogs…
  • People get to your blog, but find out your posts care less about their core values…
  • You did not join any blogging community…
  • No one has recommended your blog to them yet…

 

#2. Blogging for personal development

Beyond sharing my thoughts and being a source of inspiration to my readers, blogging has become a journey of personal development for me. I have learnt new things, improved on my writing skills, acquired new skills, met and interacted with different kinds of people from different places around the world.

I have inspired some people and I have also been inspired by many other people. I have defended my faith, read several insightful posts, gained vast knowledge in many areas of life and so on and so forth

#1. Racism in America Vs Tribalism in Nigeria

Racial discrimination and prejudices wear attires in Nigeria different from the ones they wear in America. While racism exists as a result of differences in colour of the skin, tribalism hinges on differences in birth-roots. Both are common societal evils that must be dealt a decisive blow in order for us to have a better world.

No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background or his religion. People learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite – Nelson Mandela.

Thank you for reading and happy new year in advance.


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

The Greatest Birth Ever

Born to be king

He is God

But He consented to be born of woman

Born of a virgin lady

He became flesh and blood

Taking on the nature of Man

But as He is the seed of the Holy Spirit

He wouldn’t inherit the sin-nature of man.

His birth was not a happenstance

It was a fulfillment of divine prophecy

Part of Heaven’s grand design

To redeem mankind from depravity.

 

In a time like this, yearly

We celebrate the greatest birth ever

The Son of God

And the Son of man

Born to be the Saviour

Immanuel – God with us

Jesus, King

Wonderful, Counsellor

The everlasting Father

The Mighty God

The Prince of Peace

All hail King Jesus!

 

Merry Christmas everyone


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

 

3 Kinds Of People To Make Peace With This Christmas

Christmas is the season we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, the baby that changed the world. As we celebrate, we should not lose sight of the real essence of it, chief of which was to restore the broken relationship between God and mankind.

Remember that at the birth of Jesus, some angels proclaimed to the shepherds saying, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests” Luke 2:14. Because of Christmas, peace was proclaimed to those who would come into a relationship with God.

So let us celebrate Christmas with a heart of peace towards God and an attitude of peace towards fellowmen. Towards that end, here are my simple suggestions on the

Three Kinds of people you should make peace with this Christmas:

Making peace with God

1. Make peace with God

When God sent Jesus Christ to be born on earth and also gave Him up to die for the ultimate redemption of mankind, He made peace with the world. You can say the war between God and the world is now over.

On a personal level, God has made peace with you by the atonement of Jesus Christ for your sins. He is no longer at war with you over your sinful nature.

But the question now is, “Are you at peace with God?” Being at peace with God means that you have spiritual peace. It means that you have been reconciled to God through Jesus Christ.

If that is not your story yet, let this Christmas season be that opportunity you have been waiting for to be connected back to God. Without having spiritual peace, or simply put, without being reconciled to God, peace in other areas of your life may continue to elude you.  Therefore, “Yield now and be at peace with Him; Thereby good will come to you” Job 22:1.

2. Make peace with yourself

Once you have made peace with God, the next natural experience you should have is peace within yourself. Being at peace with yourself means that you have emotional peace – inner peace.

The main reason you are not at peace with yourself is because you are not at peace with God. But if you have made peace with God, it is high time you allowed the peace of God to rule your heart.

Be at peace with yourself because God is at peace with you now. Forgive yourself of your shortcomings because God has already forgiven you.

Peace at Christmas

3. Make peace with other people

If you make peace with God and you are at peace with yourself, there is no reason you should not seek to be at peace with other people around you. Seize this special season to forgive the people who might have offended you. 

I know you cannot force other people to be at peace with you. But you can at least ensure that you are at peace with other people, within your own capacity.

Free yourself! Free your mind of grudges towards people around you!

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” Romans 12:18. That’s the extent of your responsibility.

“As far as it depends on you…” – that’s the pivotal phrase – live at peace with people this Christmas and beyond.

Above that, you can trust in the promise of God for relational peace which assures us that “When a man’s ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him” Proverbs 16:7.


© Copyright 2018| Victor Uyanwanne

8 Things Every Christian Man Should Regularly Give His Wife

When I shared Seven Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband, I thought it would be a one-off post. But one of my readers raised the valid point of the need to always ensure there is a counter-balance in a loving relationship.

In response to that apt observation, I am writing this post to highlight some of the expectations from the husband as well. While the former post was for a predominantly women audience, this is directed mainly at men.

That not withstanding, if you are a (married) woman reading this, be sure to continue reading to the end. I assure you, you will not regret it.

Now here are:

8 Things Every Christian Man Should Regularly Give His Wife

What husbands should give to their wives daily.

1. Love

  • This is the first thing a Christian man should give his wife. It is commanded of him by the Lord.
  • The wife expects her husband to love her wholeheartedly and unconditionally. Your wife is not perfect, but you should love her still!

2. Provision

  • A husband should ensure that the wife’s (emotional, physical, financial, spiritual) needs are provided for.
  • Not providing for the woman will leave her feeling stressed, frustrated and insecure.

3. Protection

  • The husband should provide protection to the wife against the harmful effects of the elements, hurtful people and other harmful things;
  • The husband should provide security to the wife so she has “freedom from, or resilience against, potential harm (or other unwanted coercive change) from external forces.”

4. Leadership

  • The christian husband should provide all kinds of leadership, including spiritual leadership, to the wife.
  • The wife may be disillusioned if the husband fails to show or lead the way.

5. Commitment

  • Commitment in marriage is a journey not a destination. The husband should daily demonstrate his commitment to his wife.
  • The wife expects her husband to be committed to her and only her. The commitment is not for a short while, she (rightly) expects it to be forever.

6. Fidelity

  • The Christian man should not share his affection with any other woman; he should continue to demonstrate continuing loyalty and support to his wife only.
  • The man should emotionally and intimately commit to being faithful to his wife. He should not seek sexual gratification from anyone other than his wife.

7. Help

  • The wife is called the help-meet for the husband. But that doesn’t mean the husband cannot be a helper to the wife too.
  • A wife expects her husband to help out (especially with the chores) around the house.

8. Empathy

  • The husband should seek to understand and share the feelings of his wife.
  • He should give a listening ear to his wife, be patient with her and forgive her a million times in a day.

Remember what the Bible says:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Ephesians 5:25-27 NIV.

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Thank you for reading my thoughts. Feel free to tell me what you think in the comment section.


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

I was recently invited to be part of the discussants in a church’s women’s end-of-year conference. But I sent them my apologies because I had another engagement billed for the date and time they chose.

However, the organisers requested that (since I could not be physically present at the event) I sent in my contribution in writing on Things Every Christian Woman Should Give Her Husband.  I obliged their request by sending them a written short note as I thought it out.

The feedback I got after the programme was that my note was a blessing to them in that meeting. So in this post, I have decided to share with you the same thoughts I shared with those church women in their conference. I hope you find something useful in it.

Like I said, I drafted the write-up for a predominantly women audience, but that does not mean that you should not read it if you are a man. So let’s go there…


7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

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1. Respect

A husband expects his wife to respect him in two ways:

  • By words – what she say to him and about about.
  • By action – how she treats him at home or outside the home.

2. Sex

  • A Christian wife should understand that intimacy and sex is very important to the husband, as this is a need only she can meet;
  • A wife should not deny the husband his right over her body.

3. Food

  • A wife should provide good food, timely and regularly for the husband/family;
  • A wife who doesn’t know how to cook good food should go and learn.

4. Appreciation

  • A husband expects the wife to appreciate him for providing for the family.
  • A woman should have an attitude of gratitude, not grumbling, not complaining.

5. Trust

  • A wife should show trust and confidence in the ability of the man to lead the home;
  • A wife should support her husband’s vision or project. She should not use her mouth to tear it down.

6. Peace

  • The man will never feel peaceful at home if the wife is always nagging.
  • If a wife fails to create a peaceful home, the husband will not feel happy returning home.

7. Neatness

  • A husband expects his wife to take good care of herself.
  • She should maintain good personal and family hygiene.

Remember what the Bible says:

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Prov. 14:1.

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Thank you for reading my thoughts. Feel free to tell me what you think in the comment section.


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

Your Wife Is Your Reward

Ecclesiastes 9:9

The Sun was already going down for the day. And there I was seated by the window side on our staff bus being driven home after work.

The vehicle was filled with other staffers who like me had equally earned a living for the day. We were all eager to get back home to our families and to have a well-deserved night rest.

But the ever busy Lagos traffic was hampering our speed; we were moving at snail’s speed. We are used to that kind of experience!

At the moment, I was gazing blankly at the evening sky through the window screen of the vehicle. And suddenly, I perceived in my spirit something I now consider a personal revelation from Above: Your is your reward.

Really? I should have known that a long time ago!

“Your wife is your reward,” I reechoed under my breath.

But how come those words have never formed part of my regular vocabulary? After all, I have always called my wife a “Gift From Above.” And I believe that with all my heart.

Something was happening here: the eyes of my understanding were further being enlightened, with a clear message out from the blues or better put, from the Spirit of God.

Your wife is your reward! It struck me so much that I knew there must be more to those words than I had previously known. So immediately, the researcher in me was called to work; I pulled my smart phone and did a quick Google search of “Your wife is your reward.”

Instead of a preponderance of web articles being thrown up, a Bible reference was atop the search result. And I wasted no moment in opening it to examine.

I was pleasantly surprised to find that these same words, “Your wife is your reward,” are in the Bible (Ecclesiastes 9:9). I took that as a confirmation that it was God that spoke those words directly to my heart moments earlier.

Since then I have read the verse over again from different versions of the Bible. The translation in the New Living Bible helped me understand it better:

Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly. Ecclesiastes 9:9, NLT.

By ordinary meaning, we know that a reward is “a thing given in recognition of service, effort, or achievement.”

And there in the Bible verse we just read, we have it that your wife is your reward for your earthly toil.

I wouldn’t know what you think of that. But As God is the One who said “Your wife is your reward,” we can be sure that He cannot be mistaken about it.

What do you think?


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

Bartimaeus: 9 Inspirational Lessons From A Blind Man

the story of blind Bartimaeus

The unstoppable man

Bartimaeus was blind but he could hear. He didn’t have the sight to see Jesus, but he had the ear to hear that he (Jesus) was passing his way.

At a certain time in His ministry, Jesus and His disciples visited the city of Jericho. And as they left the metropolis, they  were thronged from behind.

In the process, Bartimaeus, a blind roadside beggar who heard that Jesus Christ of Nazareth was passing by began to call out to Him as loud as he could, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”

The people around him tried to shut him down. But the more they tried to make him keep quiet, the louder he shouted. He eventually got the attention of Jesus who healed him of his blindness (Matthew 10:46-52).

You cannot read the story of this blind man without being inspired by his persistent attitude. As I looked at the story again, I realised that there are many things we can learn from him.

The story of Bartimaeus was one of a beggarly  blind man, who could hear, who had faith, had courage, had focus, had a voice, who proved to be unstoppable, and who got his desired miracle: restoration of sight when he encountered Jesus Christ.

The event might have happened over two thousand years  ago but there are life lessons from it that we can apply today in our lives today.  And that is why I am writing this post, with the hope that you will pick a lesson or two.

Here is the account of the story of blind Bartimaeus as recorded in the Gospel of Mark:


Mark 10:

46And they came to Jericho: and as he went out of Jericho with his disciples and a great number of people, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the highway side begging.

47And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.

48And many charged him that he should hold his peace: but he cried the more a great deal, Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.

49And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise; he calleth thee.

50And he, casting away his garment, rose, and came to Jesus. ” He began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

51And Jesus answered and said unto him, What wilt thou that I should do unto thee? The blind man said unto him, Lord, that I might receive my sight.

52And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole. And immediately he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.


9 Good lessons you can learn from blind Bartimaeus (and apply in your life right now)


1. Bartimaeus had information that Jesus was passing by

“...When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth…”

As I observed in the introduction, Bartimaeus might have been blind, but he could hear. And he used his hearing sense very well. He had correct and timely information that Jesus was coming around.

Whatever situation you find yourself, you need the right information to bring about the desired change.  For Bartimaeus, all he needed to hear was that Jesus was passing through his territory and he knew what to do with that information…

Do you have timely and accurate information at your disposal? Do you have the kind of information that will positively impart your life? Are you even actively seeking for relevant information that will make you live healthier, happier or even wealthier?

You might be shocked that the change you need right now is in the information you haven’t heard yet. Seek information.

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2. Bartimaeus used the information on Jesus presence to his advantage

“He began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

It is one thing to have the correct information at your disposal. It is another to use it to your advantage. Bartimaeus got it right on both spheres.

He had the correct information that Jesus was passing by, he capitalised on it to get healed. Even if it meant creating a scene,  he was not bothered.

Based on the information available at his disposal, Bartimaeus cried out and he got helped. He was not the only blind person in Jericho who might have heard that Jesus was passing by. But he did not only hear, he also acted proactively based on what he heard.

I have no doubt that blind Bartimeaus must have heard about Jesus healing the blind, the lame, the deaf and the dumb before. He had to do whatever he had to do to get the attention of Jesus, so that he too could be healed.

Bartimaeus recognised an opportunity and he took it; He knew that it was not enough to have Jesus come around his vicinity.  It was his one-in-a-lifetime opportunity to get healed of his blindness. So he called out to Jesus for the help he so badly needed.

What good information do you have at your disposal right now that you are not using? It is not enough to have the right information. You have to make appropriate use of it – to your advantage. Bartimaeus would have remained blind if he had not used the information he had to meet Jesus.

3. Bartimaeus had a revelation of who Jesus is

So Bartimaeus called out to Him, “Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

In Matthew 1:1, we have it recorded, “The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham…” But He is more than that: He is the long-awaited Messiah, the Saviour, the Deliverer.

Blind Bartimaeus did not only recognised Jesus as the Son of David, he also knew that the mercies of God are with Him. Hundreds of years before that time, God had promised David that He would never withdraw His mercies from him.

but my steadfast love will not depart from him, as I took it from Saul, whom I put away from before you. And your house and your kingdom shall be made sure forever before me. Your throne shall be established forever. 2 Samuel 7:15-16

Now Jesus has become the custodian of all grace… And Bartimaeus knew it!

What revelation do you have about Jesus? Is He your Saviour, healer, deliverer, helper, lover, provider, protector, master? The revelation you have about His identity will often determine how you relate with Him, or call out to Him for help like Bartimaeus did.

4. Bartimaeus showed courage in the midst of intimidation

And many charged him that he should hold his peace: but he cried the more a great deal, Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

Bartimaeus was a very courageous man. Or how else can you explain the fact that he refused to be intimidated into silence by the many people who tried to shout him down?

Strong able-bodied men who had their sense of sight intact wanted to stop this blind man from asking Jesus for help. But, thankfully, he proved to be unstoppable; the more they tried to  silence him, the more he shouted out loud. “Son of David, have mercy on me.”

Think about it, how many times you have abandoned a good project simply because everyone went against you! Learn from this man, and show courage no matter the level of intimidation you may face.

So long as you are on the right path, don’t allow anyone intimidate you into oblivion. Like blind Bartimaeus, shout if you need to!

5. Added to his courage, Bartimaeus showed persistence till he got Jesus’ attention

“And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise; he calleth thee.”

Bartimeaus persisted in the pursuit of what he wanted. The people wanted to stand in his way, but he went past them. They shouted him down many times, but he refused to be cowed until Jesus got his attention.

At long last, Jesus got to hear Bartimeaus’s call and responded,  “And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise.”

I like that expression, Jesus stood still ! Why? Because of Bartimaeus’s importunity. An interesting twist to the story is that the same people who were trying to shout Bartimaeus down were the same people who were now telling him, “cheer up, Jesus is calling you.”

Don’t you think Jesus would have moved on without stopping if this man had not persisted in calling out to Him for help? You see, persistence pays! So you have to keep doing the right thing until you get the result you desire.

For instance, when you pray once and you do not see any visible result, what will you do? Quit? No – pray again, until your change comes.

6. Bartimaeus had to shed ‘excess weight’ to move closer to his goal

And he, casting away his garment, rose, and came to Jesus.”

What is that excess weight that may hinder you from reaching your goal faster? For Bartimaeus, it was his garment. I don’t know how heavy it was for him to carry but the fact that he had to cast it aside to answer Jesus’s call meant that it was obstructing his free movement.

Mind you, a garment was a necessity for Bartimaeus. But at that time it was coming between him and his quest to receive his sight back, so it had to be dropped.

What is that ‘important’ thing that is holding you down? What necessity are you carrying right now that is slowing your pace of progress? It is time to cast it aside in order to move faster and closer to your goal.

7.  Bartimaeus knew exactly what he wanted. 

“And Jesus answered and said unto him, What wilt thou that I should do unto thee? The blind man said unto him, Lord, that I might receive my sight.”

Why was Bartimaeus calling out to Jesus? He knew what he wanted!

Why did he refuse to keep quiet when the people told him to shut up?  He knew what he wanted!

Why did he run as fast as he could to meet Jesus once He invited him on?  He knew what he wanted!

It is not that Jesus didn’t see that Bartimaeus was blind. He wanted to afford him the privilege of making a specific request, and having it granted to him. So Jesus asked, what do you want me to do for you? Our man who already knew exactly what he wanted, replied, “that I may see Lord.”

Do you know exactly what you want in life? If you have been praying, are your requests clear and specific? It is high time you did some personal reevaluation in that regard.

If you don’t know what you want, find out. As someone I know used to say, “If you don’t define, you won’t find.”

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8. Bartimaeus had faith to be healed

“And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole. “

We see in Bartimaeus, a man of courage, a man that knew what he wanted, a fearless man. An unstoppable person. A man with with a voice. All well and good.

But in addition to all that, Jesus himself lets us know that Bartimaeus was also a man of faith. He had the faith that Jesus could make him receive his sight back and it worked!

“And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole.”

Faith without works is dead. Bartimaeus’s faith was not dead. It was active, vocal, proactive and well-directed. And it produced result – restoration of sight.

Faith, that’s what it takes to please God. That’s what guarantees that you will have what you asked for.

Whenever you come to God, never forget to apply your faith. It is what will make you whole!

9. Bartimaeus became a follower of Jesus at once

“And immediately he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.”

You might say that Bartimeaus’s decision to follow Jesus once he got his sight back was a natural response just like some other people who began to follow Jesus after He healed them. But he was not forced; it was a personal decision he made.

If you check the Gospels, you will see that there were people who were healed by Jesus but never bothered to follow Him.  There were also healed people who offered to follow Jesus immediately, but He didn’t oblige them.

For Bartimaeus, everything seemed to be going for Him. Although Jesus had told him, “Go your way,” he still stayed with Jesus and Jesus allowed him.

“…”Immediately, he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.” We were not told how long he followed Jesus. But he followed him all the same!

When you are blessed, you should not run away from God. If the blessing of God upon your life –  be it healing, prosperity, deliverance, or whatever else God does for you – drives you away from God, it means you have handled the blessing wrongly. God does things for us to win us to His side and not to lose us.

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What other lessons can we learn from the story of blind Bartimaeus?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

The House Girl – A Book Review

Books by Ufuomae

Quite recently, I ordered a copy of The House Girl, alongside two other titles by the same author. It was a privilege to have the mentioned books autographed and delivered to my door-step by the author herself.

During my meeting with the author, I had promised her that I would read the books and give her a review. (In case you missed it, you may read From a Blog friend to a true life friend, being the post I used to share my face to face meeting with the author on that fateful day).

What follows in this post will be my review of the first of the three books I purchased from her stable which I have read completely so far. Subsequent reviews will follow once I have finished reading the other titles.

Ufuomaee, the brilliant author of  The House Girl,  is “a young professional, a social entrepreneur and the Founder/CEO of Fair Life Africa Foundation, a charity that supports under-privileged children” in Nigeria. She is the author of Ufuoma series blog where she shares about her faith in God, and also writes “Christian romantic fiction, with lots of drama and scandal, that challenges all to think about their lifestyle and choices.”

Her blog is worthy of your visit or follow if you are interested in reading very insightful posts on faith, life and living.

About The House Girl.

The book is about a village girl who was taken to Abuja city to work as a domestic staff for a rich interracial married couple who have also promised to send her to school. While in the employ of the family, the girl discharged her house-duties as expected. But much time passed and she wasn’t registered in any school as promised to her parents.

That made the girl to feel very unhappy and this caught the attention of the man of the house. As a result, both of them began to have short but secret conversations that made them more familiar with each other. Soon enough they each began to have unholy ideas…

With their hearts burning for each other already, “all that restrained them from doing what they both desired to do was self-will and self-control. And that thing called conscience.” But they could only hold out for a little while, as it did not take long before the spirit of lust took the better part of the duo, leading to numerous consensual sexual encounters between them.

Unsurprisingly, the madam of the house soon began to suspect that there was something clandestine going on between her maid and and her husband. It was only a matter of time before her worst suspicions were validated and the aftermath shook her marriage to it’s deepest foundations.

Thankfully, in the end, the marriage narrowly survived from the brink of complete collapse. But not until after all the parties involved in the unfolding drama had been to hell and back.

In more ways than one, I found the book easy to read and the characters largely credible.  Anyone who reads the book objectively will admit that that the personalities represented by each of the characters are ‘things’ that are not so far-fetched in whatever society we may find ourselves.

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Victor with Ufuomaee, proudly displaying some of the books authored by her.

The main characters

Each of the characters, just like any mortal alive, has his or her strengths and weaknesses. And it is how they are managed that determines the results or consequences.

For the protagonist, Chinyere, as vulnerable as she was, she could be considered a victim of her own circumstances. At the same time, it may not be wrong for one to say that she was all too willing to engage in unwholesome canal encounter with the man of the house.

For a teenage girl whom it was implied was without a previous experience in that area, she could have exercised a bit of constraints – may be out of fear or respect, but she didn’t. So instead of one saying that Chinyere was taken advantage of by Donald, the man of the house, one can  safely say that she was a willing participant in igniting the fire that almost completely engulfed her life and existence.

Donald, although a seeming gentleman became overcame by lust and exercised no sustained power of restraint in cheating on his wife  again and again… May be that’s one of the consequences of his never having to acknowledge that there is a God to whom we are all accountable to.

Besides, even though he claimed he didn’t plan on cheating on his wife with their house maid, he shamefully admitted to “not being strong enough to resist [the beautiful] temptation” under the same roof with him.

The emotional and mental trauma, bribery, blackmail and risk of imprisonment that followed Donald’s misadventure remind everyone that our actions have consequences.  And infidelity, like the Bible points out, is like fire. You cannot put it in your bosom and expect not to be burnt (Proverbs 6:27).

As for Osinachi, the madam of the house, at a point she was more or less an absentee wife. Her frequent trips outside the home contributed in creating the vacuum that her husband exploited to begin cheating on her with the house maid.

She also made some avoidable choices that blew up in her face. For instance, in her desperate bid to become a mother after she could not  carry a baby to full term, she went on a misguided  journey of adopting a child without her husband’s consent, leading to a further alienation from him.

Even after the husband had accepted the new reality of becoming a dad by force (thanks to his wife’s desperation), the adoption was later reversed contrary to their expectation and they found themselves back to square one.

Couples should endeavour to agree on issues of strategic importance in the family. If either party goes solo on such issue, it may not augur well for them at the end.

My favourite character

If I were to choose a favourite character in the book, it would have to be Mrs. Oji, Osinachi’s mum. I like the way she put things in proper perspective for her daughter, when she was seriously heart-broken over her husband’s serial infidelity.

I consider her advice and pep-talk as one of the key things that empowered Osinachi to fight to save her marriage.

“If you don’t know God for yourself…,” said Mrs Oji to her heart-broken daughter, “If you are not walking in His will, how can you lead another to Him? You are in this situation first because of your own sin! When you address that and learn from God what His will is, then you can make corrections in your life. Whether or not your marriage survives is secondary! You just have to get right with God, Osinachi.”

It was this friendly hard-knock that jolted Osinachi to reality.  At that moment, she came to realise that “She has been practicing religion all these years; she didn’t know God for herself. No wonder her life could not influence her husband’s.”

Mrs Oji might have been advising her daughter over her husband. But I feel many wives around the world who love their husbands and want to save their marriages could use her other advice too: “Don’t relent in praying for him. Don’t stop forgiving him. Don’t hold back love and respect for him.”

Final thoughts

In  The House Girl, the author did a good job in telling a relatable story in such a way that vivid life lessons can be drawn from it. Each character presents a different angle to the lessons of life that can be gleaned from the book.

I found that that the following themes were covered in the book: The vulnerability of the girl child (especially the one from a less privileged background) to sexual exploitation, making an interracial marriage work, issues around child-bearing, challenges with child adoption, teenage pregnancy, living with a mental health issue, secrecy in marriage, love and commitment, forgiveness, personal relationship with God, role of parents in-law in saving a troubled marriage, rape, infidelity, blackmail, bribery, to mention but a few.

I liked reading the book and I would not hesitate in recommending it to you as well. I think that irrespective of one’s age or experiences in life, anyone that reads that books will definitely find a lesson or two to draw from it for personal application.

In closing, I will leave you with the following quotes from the book:

“It takes strength to give grace to others.”

“We are only as strong as our minds, not even our bodies.”

“We have to make sure we are working in faith and obedience if we want God’s best.”

“In service to others and in simplicity, there is so much joy to be found in life.”

“Never close the book on anyone, nor underestimate what you or anyone can be[come] tomorrow.”

“Never miss an opportunity to make impact in some one else’s life. Even if they never pay it back, they will pay it forward through the contribution they will make in the world.”

“Do not be afraid to challenge the system you enter. Do not be afraid to be the difference. All life is growth and change and you are the change the world is waiting for.”

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The House Girl is available for purchase on Amazon.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

5 Blog Comments Turned into Full-fledged Posts

 

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In a previous post, I suggested that you could turn some of the most outstanding comments on your blog into full-fledged posts.  The idea is that turning outstanding comments on your blog to full-fledged posts will open up the comments for more visibility, further discussion and more impact and penetration.

To show that I have already walked the talk, please allow me to briefly share 5 of my readers’ comments that were turned into full-blown posts on this blog. (Clicking on the highlighted titles will lead you to the full version of the post).

#1. Racial Discrimination in Southern Africa: A True Life Experience

This particular post captured the true-life story of one of my blog readers who experienced racial discrimination in Southern Africa. It was her  personal response to an earlier post of mine, namely Racism in the US Vs tribalism in Nigeria.

In the reader’s words,

“Discrimination is something that really pricks me because I have experienced it. For the life of me, I just cannot understand why people choose to look down on other people because of intangible attributes/features.

“The funny thing is that you don’t have to go as far as America to witness and feel the effect of racism. Come down to the southern part of Africa, you would see and feel it yourself. It’s more transparent in South Africa and Namibia than in other Southern African countries.”

#2. Prejudice Comes in Different Forms – A Reader’s Perspective

Racial injustice.

As the discussion on racial discrimination continued on the blog, another reader introduced a different perspective saying,

“…Being prejudiced comes in many forms and it isn’t just restricted to those who have a different skin-colour – although that is one of the more obvious forms. …All of us are prejudiced in some ways; it could be education, upbringing, intelligence, success or failure and a host of other “particulars”.

But does that mean racism is justified? The answer is No!

As the reader further expatiated, “Racial prejudice is wrong in all of it’s various forms but I fear it is a condition of the human heart regardless of our skin-colour, regardless of our education or upbringing or success or failure…

“We all are creations of our Creator, made in His image and we [are in] error if we think otherwise. And most importantly, we all need the saving Grace that God in His wisdom holds over to us, namely the acceptance and saving shed blood of His Son, Jesus Christ, to make us new.”

#3. Conversations With Atheists 2

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This post captured some of the most interesting conversations I have had with some atheists on this blog. One of them claimed nature has helped his understanding of life more than the ‘man in the sky.” But he would not acknowledge that the man in the sky, so-called, is the Architect of the Universe, the One whom it was that put the natural world in place.

“God is out of touch with the world” claimed another so-called atheist. To that I responded, “It is even more appropriate to say that it is the people of the world that are losing touch of God. All men, including you, need to get know God better.” How can someone who doesn’t exist lose touch?

Yet another self-professed atheist got carried away during one of our conversations and he kept saying, God is wicked, God doesn’t love humans, God enjoys to see people suffer, etc. Really? I couldn’t hold back asking him, “How can the God you say doesn’t exist be wicked and loveless?

All these led me to surmise that many atheists are living in self-denial when they say that God doesn’t exist, because deep in their hearts they know that they are wrong.

#4. Pornography: Setting Up Defences In Our Daily Lives And Taking Them Seriously

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In this post, I shared the comment of a reader, who in a very frank manner, identified with the pervasive personal struggle against lust and pornography, as well as the ways to overcome them.

According to this reader, we must all understand that pornography has harmful effects on our lives, careers and family. Therefore, it should not be accepted as a normal thing in our daily living.

To deal with addiction to pornography decisively, the reader recommends that we must identify the things that trigger the desire in us and set up adequate defences against them.

Worthy of mention, is the readers suggestions that “we need to spend quality time with GOD every day, not as a to-do-list or a good christian checklist. But because God wants a relationship with us, and how do we have a relationship with anyone we never spend time with?”

#5. Being a Loving Leader Does Not Mean You Shouldn’t Hold Your Team Accountable

Being a loving leader

As a leader, you should love your team members, even when things do not go according to plan.

As one author observed, ”If you are leading anything of significance then you will regularly run into many uncertainties, obstacles, and failures. And it is the way you deal with these situations, how you handle things going wrong, that truly defines your leadership.”

And when things do go wrong, you as the leader should build a shared understanding of the root-cause of the problem through what the reader called “exploration conversations” without demoralising any member of your team.

“This approach doesn’t preclude a leader from holding people accountable for their actions. In fact, it is the opposite. If you don’t hold people accountable then you aren’t really being a loving leader.”

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You have read some of the blog comments on this site that I turned into full-fledged posts. You can click on the embedded links to read the complete posts.

Have you ever turned a reader’s comment into a full-fledged post on your blog? Feel free to leave a feedback or reaction in the comment section below.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Turning Your Readers’ Comments To Full-Fledged Blog Posts

Treasures are useless if they are buried away in the earth. But once they are brought to the surface, they can be appropriately harnessed and put into meaningful uses.

That’s how it is with your readers’ invaluable comments; they will not be so useful to your other readers if they are not given the optimum attention they deserve.

Let me state categorically that it is very important you don’t fail to peruse your blog’s comment section. That way, (apart from responding to all the comments as appropriate), you can sift out the gems in your readers’ thoughts or the feedback left for you in print, and then give them maximum exposure.

Talking about maximum exposure, that’s what you should give to your readers’ most outstanding comments. You can do that if you would use some of your readers’ most impressive contributions to write full-blown posts on your blog.

My point is that as you explore your readers’ comments, you might come across veritable comments that could be converted to full-fledged posts.

As you already know, not everyone who reads your blog posts has the patience and time to go through all the other readers’ comments one by one. But you, as the blog author, should not fail to do that.

I strongly believe that there are many other benefits of looking at the comment section of your blog. For instance, if you thoroughly explore your readers’ comments, you will definitely be able to pick up some fresh ideas for new posts.

You may even find some comments on your blog that can be directly lifted and turned into full-fledged posts. And that’s the reason I am using this post to drum that point home.

Needless to say, I have been able to convert some of my readers’ comments into full-fledged posts a number of times on this blog. And the experiences have been great. So I will not hesitate to suggest you do the same thing on your blog.

Turning outstanding post comments to full-fledged posts opens up the comments for more visibility, further discussion and more impact.

One advantage of turning a good blog comment into a full-blown post is that the valuable information or insights shared by your readers will not be not buried or lost deep down there in the comment section.

It would be great if you can have everyone who reads your main post to also read all the blog comments generated by the post. But as I already pointed out, not all your readers will be able to quarry through the depths of the many comments on your blog to extract out the hidden gems.

You can help out occasionally by turning some of those invaluable comments into full-fledged posts. Doing so will make it more accessible to more of your readers.

In a subsequent post, I will highlight some of my readers’ comments that I successfully lifted and turned into full-blown posts on this blog.

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What do you think of the idea of turning some outstanding comments on your blog into full-fledged posts?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

If You Are Blind, But Can You Hear?

Lessons from Blind Bartimaeus

You are not perfect – no one is. What you lack in one area of your life, you gain in another.

Just as all men do, you have some strengths and some weaknesses. But which ones do you focus more on?

Often times, you focus mostly on your weaknesses rather than on your strengths. By so doing, you fail to celebrate or properly harness your strengths to your fullest advantage.

How do I know you are not focusing on your strength?

  • You constantly think of what you don’t have instead of what you have.
  • You always bemoan what you can’t do instead of doing what you can.
  • You intentionally begrudge other people’s talent instead of harnessing yours.
  • You are regularly unhappy about the places you haven’t visited instead of celebrating the places you have visited.
  • You complain that you can’t ‘see’, but you forgot that you can ‘hear’.

While you are doing all that, you forget that time is not waiting for you. Opportunities are passing by that you could have harnessed to make your life a little better.

If that is you, then you have something to learn from the blind Bartimaeus in the Bible.

An account in the Gospel of Mark chapter 10 verse 46-47 has it that:


… and as [Jesus Christ] went out of Jericho with his disciples and a great number of people, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the highway side begging.

And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.


And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth… 

Did you see that?

When he heard…

That’s the pivotal phrase.

Victor Uyanwanne writes on lessons from blind Bartimaeus

This story wasn’t about Jesus Himself per se. It was the story of Bartimaeus, a beggarly  blind man, who could hear, who had faith, had courage, had focus, had a voice, who proved to be unstoppable, and who got his desired miracle: restoration of sight.

As you can see, there are many good things about our man Bartimaeus. But for many years, he failed to harness his strength, dwelling on his weakness (blindness).

Consequently, he became a despised roadside beggar until this documented encounter with Jesus Christ that completely turned his life around for the better.

In the mean time, I will chip in the following counsel:

  • Focus on your strength. If you use it very well, the resultant gains may cover your weakness.
  • Focus on doing what you can do and stop being so unhappy about what is beyond your capabilities.
  • Use the talent you have, and don’t kill yourself over the ones you don’t have.

Bartimaeus was blind but he could hear. He didn’t have the sight to see Jesus, but he had the ear to hear that Jesus was passing his way.

With that information, he activated his faith and his voice. And He called out to Jesus, “Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.” And he got his sight back.

So I will ask you, if you can’t see, can you hear? Harness the power of your hearing first. Who knows, like Bartimaeus you will have your sight back in the process.

1. Photo by novia wu on Unsplash.

2. Photo by Stephen Arnold on Unsplash.


Have you ever let opportunities pass you by because you were focusing on your weakness rather than on your strength?


© Copyright 2018| Victor Uyanwanne

Because We Have The Greatest Love

Love Poem by Victor Uyanwanne
Photo by freestocks.org on Unsplash

When I saw you the first time.
It felt like you were an angel.
Though I didn’t have much dime.
I knew our relationship will gel.

From that very day on wards
Up, everything went towards
Being with you seemed so right
And our future colourfully bright.

Together we set out on this journey
Though it may be rough and thorny
It is guaranteed us we will make it
If we have our trust in God every bit

People will see us and marvel
As God’s favours on us unravel
We will wave at them and say
It is the Lord’s doing all the way

Sure, it is marvellous in our eyes
Not because we are strong and wise
But because we have the greatest love
Poured in our hearts from high Above.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

First published on Living Poems

7 Benefits Of Reading Other People’s Blogs

Why you should read blogs

The whole experience of blogging is not about you churning out posts after posts for people to read, to like, to comment on and to share. It is also about you reading other people’s blogs and interacting with them as much as you can.

There are many benefits you will derive by reading other people’s logs. In this post, I will highlight seven of such benefits.

7 Benefits of reading other people’s blogs


1. You learn from other people

People share ideas, experiences and insights on their blogs. They do so not for self-amusement but for you to read them. You will learn as you read those sites.

As one of my readers once stated, “What I love about blogging is taking the time to read other people’s thoughts about faith stuff as its important to get perspectives different from my own.”

Every opportunity you have to read is an opportunity to learn something new or remind you of something’s you have forgotten.

Be honest with yourself for once: you don’t know everything. That’s why you should read what other people have written on their blogs so that you can know what they know.

2. You discover new blogs to follow.

People follow your blog and you should follow other people’s blogs too. Reading other blogs will help you determine whether or not to  follow such blogs.

There are many reasons I may not have followed some blogs. But reading other people’s blogs helps me to discover suitable ones to follow.

Although there were some blogs I followed at first sight (especially the ones recommended to me), my guiding principle is that I would need to read two or three posts on any blog before I make the affirmative decision to hit the follow-button.

3. You sharpen your writing skills.

Writers do not only write, they read a lot as well. By extension, as a blogger, in addition to updating your own blog, you should also read blogs other than yours and learn from the writing styles employed by the authors of such blogs.

Personally, I learn a lot from reading other people’s posts. Just like many WordPress users, I did not attend any training on blogging before I got started. Everything I know, I have learnt from reading what other people have written and putting them into practice.

getting people to read your blog

4. You attract more followers to your blog.

“One good turn deserves another” they say. If you want people to read your posts, you too should read other people’s posts.

There is a great chance that if you add value to a blog as you read it – by leaving a comment for instance – you are likely to attract more followers to your own blog.

5. Opportunity to interact with fellow bloggers.

For you to comment on a post, you have to read it first. I would expect that you don’t want to comment on a post you haven’t read.

Essentially, a post is someone’s idea or opinion about something, somebody or some place. Your comment on the post will be your own response to it.

You could also respond to other people’s comments on the post, thereby expanding the sphere of interactions.

6. Community, fellowship and friendship.

As you interact with other bloggers, you form a kind of bond and friendship that might prove valuable to you. Some of your online or blogging friends may eventually turn into your friends in real life.

And when someone becomes your real life friend, the opportunities become limitless. I shared my little experience in this regard when I published From a blog friend to a real life friend.

7. Source of blog ideas

Apart from the new things you learn by reading other blogs, you might also receive inspiration for new posts on your blog. I have experienced this several times.

As I read other people’s blogs, there seems to be a spark of inspiration that comes from it. And I have developed many of such thoughts into full-fledged posts on this blog.


What other benefits do you get from reading blogs other than yours? Leave a comment.


© Copyright 2018| Victor Uyanwanne

From A Blog Friend To A Real Life Friend

Ufuoma E Ashobon's books
Victor with Ufuomae, proudly displaying some of the books authored by her.

I started this blog because I believed (and still believe) that I have something good to share that would be a blessing to someone out there. I also wanted to use the blogging platform to hone my writing skills.

To a very large extent, both objectives are already being achieved. But I will be the first to acknowledge that there is always room for improvement. And as I communicated in an earlier post, blogging has helped my personal development in many ways.

Over all, blogging is helping me become a better version of myself.

Another side benefit of blogging is the opportunity it has afforded me to interact online with people from across all continents of the world. In the process, I have forged many beneficial online relationships with people I am yet to meet physically.

And I know I am not the only one who has had that beautiful experience. There are bloggers who have been able to turn their blogging friends to real life friends. And it looks like I am joining that league now. Hang on, I will tell you about that in a moment…

Ufuomae (in the picture with me above), author and founder of Grace and Truth and Ufuomae’s Series Blog and Fair Life Africa was one of the earliest followers of this blog when I came on the blogosphere three years ago. Since then our interactions have continued and remained online. But all that got to change (for the better) during the week.

I have been aware that Ufuomae had published a couple of books in e-books and paperback formats. So finally I decided to place an order online for three of her books on paperbacks: The Church Girl 1&2, The House Girl and Perfect Love.

The Church Girl by Ufuomae

I was expecting the books to be delivered to me through a courier service. But I was pleasantly surprised when she contacted me to say she would deliver the books to me in person.

“Are you home today?” she asked. “I was thinking of bringing the books in person.”

Ostensibly, she only recently realised that we have been living in the same city all along.

“Oh really, you will bring the books in person?” I enthused. “Wow, it will be such an honour to finally meet you in person.”

Being someone I admire a lot, it had crossed my mind on several occasions that I would one day meet this passionate Christian blogger in person. But I had thought I would be the one to go look for her.

You can now see why I was feeling so excited to have her come look for me. The experience was wonderful for me. It would not be wrong to say I count it as one of the most important moments in my blogging journey.

And at the end of the day, this was how Ufuomae herself on her Instagram handle captured her experience of meeting me physically for the first time:

It was really lovely to meet you in the flesh @Victor_Uyanwanne! Wow 😎 This world is small… I think I first discovered your blog, VictorsCorner in 2015, and I was super pleased to find another African representing Christ on the blogosphere and doing it so unashamedly 😉 It was a while before I realised that you were Nigerian too 😁

The biggest surprise came when you ordered three of my books, and I learnt you actually live and work in Lagos!!! But the biggest biggest surprise was realising that you’re actually a BIG FAN of mine 😲 Wow, you made me feel like a real celebrity today 😎 thank you! It was nice getting to know you in the flesh, and I hope to learn more from you too.

Shout out to your office colleagues! Let them head over to books.ufuomaee.org and start ordering their own books.

(Yes, she met with some of my colleagues at work too. And they were pleased to meet with her as well).

Let me end this post with my response to Ufuomae’s Instagram post shown above, with the assurance that she and I have moved from being just blog friends to real life friends.

You made my day. It was my pleasure meeting you… in real life. Wow… Thank you so so much for everything. You are as fantastic in real life as you are online, even more.

Yea, it’s true I ordered your books.. The good part, noooo, the great part is that you graciously autographed them for me. You are doing great [in your blogging journey]. And I know you will do more. Just keep the flag flying. I will be there to cheer you on.

Victor Uyanwanne


Have you ever had anyone you met through your blog become your real life friend? I look forward to reading your experience in the comment section.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Prayer For My Country

Prayer for my country

I felt patriotic on my nation’s 58th Independence Day celebration. Here is my prayer for the country as she turned another page in history.


Nigeria my country, may you arise and shine. May your divine purpose on earth be established and may you overcome all hindrances to your greatness.

May your strength increase and may you take your deserved place in the comity of nations.

May you be delivered from the chains of corruption and may responsible leaders rise up from every part of you to pilot your affairs.

May terrorism within your borders be consigned to your past and may your people dwell in safety.

May peace and tranquility rain in every of your quarters.

May you grow in leaps and bounds in physical and infrastructural development. May your inhabitants be filled with milk and honey.

May your citizens seek and know you in truth and in spirit. May all your sons and daughters be called blessed.

May all those who are against you be defeated before your eyes. May nations come to you for help and may your store house never run dry.

May your latter glory surpass the former. And may you shine and shine brighter till eternity.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Finding The Courage To Move On

You said you loved me with all your heart.
And you made me many promises for a start.
So I loved and trusted you as a thorough-bred.
Having faith in the future I thought we shared.

But before the very future began to unfold.
Before our relationship became months old.
Many ugly things about you began to surface.
One after another, right before my innocent face.

I thought I could handle them very well at first
Wishing that what we shared would not waste.
But you consistently proved to be irredeemable
For awful reasons that still remain inscrutable

“I am human after all,” you always claim
That I know, so I apportioned no blame
Thinking that since…

Continue reading via my Living Poems blog.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

6 Good Things About The Negative Criticisms You Get On Your Blog

Negative criticisms of your blog
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You will get criticised whatever you do. Blogging is not an exception to that fact of life.

You cannot stop people from criticising you in your blogging journey. But while constructive criticisms are good and welcome, negative criticisms are bitter pills to swallow.

And no matter how bitter the pill of criticisms can be, there are times you have to accept and swallow them as they are, even if it means frowning your face doing it.

The truth is, there is always room for improvement. That’s why you should assess every criticism to extract whatever might be good in it, with a view to improving your life.

As much as you love what you do, not everyone will love you for it. While some people may be indifferent  about your blogging activities, there are some other people that will come against you with harsh criticisms as feedback. But that you face some negative feedback doesn’t mean you should quit on your blog’s mission.

It certainly means you should find the best ways to handle the negative criticisms that confront you in such a way that they become beneficial to you.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Charles R. Swindoll

The question is, can there be anything beneficial in negative criticisms? I will say yes!

In this post, I will show you six good things about the negative criticisms you get on your blog:

1. Criticisms show you are being noticed.

There are millions of blogs out there. So if someone takes the time to pass a critical comment on your blog, it shows that you are gaining some visibility. Or would you rather be ignored?

2. There is some thing to learn from every criticism.

No matter how cantankerous your readers get while commenting on your blog, try not to be offended. Put a positive construction on whatever criticisms you get, because you will learn something good from it if you handle it properly.

Criticisms may cause your emotions to flare up. Learn to avoid that trap and you will be better positioned to learn something from the criticism that will make your blogging experience better.

3. Criticisms are part of your personal growth process.

You have heard the saying that if people throw stones at you, you should gather them to build a monument. You can apply that principle in blogging too.

When people throw the stones of negative criticisms at you, use them to build up yourself. In order words, don’t allow criticisms to tear you down. And specifically, do not quit on your blogging mission simply because you are being criticised.

4. Criticisms give you opportunity to be nice.

Some people have never been kind in their lives. So don’t expect them to start with your blog. When they attack you with harsh words on your blog, don’t respond to them fire for fire. Show them you are made of better stuff by responding to them as lovingly and as nicely as you can be.

Some bloggers will go the easy way of deleting negative comments on their blog, but if you do so, you would lose the opportunity of responding to someone in a way that might influence his or her life positively.

5. Criticisms make you not to rest on your oars.

Complacency may set in if you never get criticised in what you do or if all you get are only praise words.

The points of criticism you receive, if properly evaluated can be helpful to you in attaining higher grounds.

6. Some critics come as friends in disguise

Ultimately, you will get to realise that not everyone who criticises you are against you. Some are friends who wanted to help but didn’t know to frame their words better.

In dealing properly with negative criticisms, you will get to learn that some people who oppose you might turn out to become your allies.


So don’t scare people off when they leave comments you don’t like on your blog. Try your best to follow them to their own blogs. Read their posts and make valuable comments. Sooner or later, you will earn their respect.


Do you think the criticisms you receive on your blog are beneficial?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne