Some Side Reasons You Are Negatively Criticised

Whatever you do in life, criticism is one of the ways some people will ever respond or react to you. There is no one who is reading this post right now that may not have faced criticisms in one way or another.

It is okay if the criticisms are positive, because positive criticisms give room for process or self improvements. However, it is another kettle of fish if the criticisms are largely negative.

positive criticisms

No matter how nice you are, not everyone will be happy for you when you succeed. Naturally​, because they are not happy at your good fortunes, the next thing they will try to do is to churn out negative criticisms against you.

Negative criticisms are not sweet pills to swallow, but you will keep getting them. That is because you cannot control people’s thoughts, words and reactions towards you.

The best thing to do is to learn how to how negative criticisms when they come so that you don’t have to be so frustrated by them. Understanding why people criticise you negatively, will position you better to be able to handle the unpleasant and such inconveniencing situations when they do arise.

One of the ways to appropriately manage negative criticisms is to know why people harshly criticise you in the first. So let us consider the question,

Why do people criticise you negatively?

In a recent post I made on Facebook, I opined that “The fact that some people criticise you does not mean that they hate you; they might just be jealous.”

It was my little way of saying that negative criticisms can stem from pure hatred or concealed jealousy. Obviously, there could be other reasons.

To expand the discussion, I asked the question across my social media handles, “Why do some people criticise you negatively?  Any ideas please?”

A follower who responded to the post via my Instagram handle, suggested that some people may criticise you because either they feel intimidated by you or they are afraid of you.

Thanks to that respondent, because in addition to hatred and jealousy, we can see that people may also criticise you because they feel intimidated by you or are out-rightly afraid of you. Positive criticisms

Responses from Facebook

I received some responses via Facebook comments as well. In the following paragraphs, I will share with you the thoughts of some people that commented:

“They [criticise me negatively in order] to bring my morale down. They also know they don’t know and have what I’ve got.”

“Negative criticism is an excuse from a lazy person. Because he cannot attain that level which you are, the only encouragement he gives to himself is to criticise u negatively.”

“Some criticise you out of jealousy and some due to lack of understanding.”

“Complex, self defence, jealousy and ignorance I think.”

“Just out of envy and jealousy and  hate.”

“They do so Primarily out of envy, ignorance & lack of understanding.”

“Sometimes they may not understand me. Sometimes they may be misinformed about me. Sometimes is in their nature . Sometimes they just want to get my attention. Sometimes it just happens like that.”

“Some criticise you out of mere jealousy, while  some others criticise you based  on what  they have  heard about  you.”

Let us hear your thoughts as well. Why do people criticise you negatively?

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Ideas For Open Letter: The OffShoots

Open letter ideas

Have you ever written an open letter? was a post published on this blog to sensitise readers on the need to consider writing open letters. This was later followed by 20 simple ideas for open letter as the offshoot.

In that post, a list of 20 possible areas you could write an open letter on were suggested, with a challenge to readers to explore the topics by writing open letters (on their blogs).

Amongst other things, the post had suggested that you could write an open letter to:

  • Your future spouse (if you are not yet married)
  • A friend with whom you have lost contact.

These two areas of suggestions have been further explored by some of my readers who took up the challenge and acted upon them. In this post, I am sharing those posts and their author’s blogs with you for your further engagement with them.

First to respond was Lisa, who thought the ideas I suggested for open letters were good. As she stated in her comment-response to the open letter post, she journals every night. And as a result of the open letter challenge, she has decided to start writing some journals specifically for her future spouse as well.

“… I will keep a separate journal” says Lisa, “for my future husband – letting him know I am praying for him . For his joys , for his sad days & his dreams.”  You can visit Lisa’s blog, The Whisper Within blog for more interactions with her.

Just like Lisa, another follower, Tikeetha of A Thomas Point of View, was also thinking about her future husband when she read the 20 simple ideas for open letter. But she is not keeping a daily journal for him like Lisa did. Rather, as recommended, she went the full hog by writing an open letter, 5 Things I need Babe, to her would-be spouse. I enjoyed reading the post and so would you, if you would check it out.

As an introduction to her said post, Tikeetha had graciously informed her readers that “… my friend Victor at Victor’s Corner wrote a post encouraging you to write an open letter and describing the different types of open letters you could write and I decided to do one. I thought about what kind of letter I would write and I knew that I wanted to write an open letter to my future husband…  I wanted to let you (and him) know the 5 things I need for our marriage.” So feel free to visit Tikeetha’s blog, for more inspiring posts from her.

Another offshoot of the open letter challenge was a piece titled, open letter to the girl who left us for her (not so great) boyfriend by Mikayla. In that post, she expressed a loving concern for an estranged friend of hers whom she said had left her and her other friends to pursue a relationship that might not augur well for her.

Although Mikayla is a newbie on WordPress, her written words are deep and thoughtful enough to teach you one or two things. You may follow her at Miksbullshitblog .

As I conclude this post, I’ll like to express my profound appreciation to my followers mentioned above for taking up the challenge to publish an open letter along the recommended lines. By doing so, they have expanded the conversation and also enriched the reading experiences of their blog followers.

In case, there is another offshoot post to the open letter challenge by any reader that I have not acknowledged, kindly bring it to my attention so we can also give our support too by engaging in the conversation.

 

© Copyright 2017| Victor Uyanwanne

Have You Met The Only Heart And Kidney Doctor In the World?

Have you met the only heart and kidney surgeon on the world?
Dr. Olurotimi O. Badero / Picture Source: financialnigeria.com

Through one of my social media handle feeds recently, I saw a picture post which suggested that there is only one heart and kidney doctor in the whole world. Further research carried out online before writing this post did not find anything contrary to the claim. In fact the claim was 100% validated.

Only one heart and kidney doctor in the whole world? That’s a surprising fact, isn’t it? May be not to you, but you can take that fact from me or do your own findings and give us a feed back here. Right? Yes, thank you.

Otherwise, allow me to introduce to you Dr Olurotimi Oluyemi Badero (pictured above) said to be the only doctor in the world to have full specialist trainings and certifications in both cardiology and nephrology.  Forget about those two medical jargons. The last sentence simply means that our man here is the first and only person in the world to become a combined heart and kidney doctor.

Country of Origin

Another interesting thing about the named doctor is that he is from Nigeria, my home country.  But he has now attained international acclaim with numerous awards and recognition along the way. For instance, Ed Towns, a US Congressman from New York, while speaking at the US House of Representative to honor  Badero, was reported to have said, “…Dr. Oluyemi O. Badero has reached the highest levels of medicine in our country, all the way from Nigeria and he has used his expertise to improve the lives of his community.”

I suppose the things you have heard about Nigeria do not include the fact that she gave the world her first and only Cardio-nephrologist. But that’s an issue for another day. Today our focus is on meeting this rare gem of a doctor.

During an epic interview in November 2015, with Jide Akintunde, Managing Editor, Financial Nigeria Magazine, Dr. Olurotimi Badero introduced himself to us: “By training, I specialised in internal medicine, cardiovascular medicine, invasive & interventional cardiology, nephrology and hypertension, interventional nephrology & endovascular medicine, nuclear cardiology as well as peripheral vascular interventions. Putting all that together, I would like to think of myself as an interventional cardio nephrologist as well as a peripheral vascular interventionalist.”

Specialist in 7 areas of medicine?

In that interview, Dr Badero also stated that he specialised in seven different areas of medicine. If that is not impressive, you tell me what is!

Education

Dr Badero is currently based in the United States of America. But his journey to the world of Medicine began from right here in Nigeria at the University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University), Osun state, where he first studied medicine. Thereafter, he proceeded to the US where he also studied at the State University of New York Downstate Medical Center, Brooklyn, Emory University School of Medicine in Atlanta, Georgia and Yale University School of Medicine.

“Altogether,” says Dr Badero, “I spent ten years of continuous post-graduate medical training which I later found out was unprecedented. I currently specialise in seven different areas of medicine.”

Dr Badero
Source: Alibaba’s Instagram page

Combining Cardiology and Nephrology

On why he chose to become a combined heart and kidney specialist, Dr. Badero explained that, “The heart and the kidneys are very closely interrelated… The heart pumps blood all over the body to supply basic metabolic needs. Twenty percent of that blood volume goes through the kidneys… whatever happens to the heart, affects the kidneys and vice versa.

“While I was in training at Emory University School of Medicine as a kidney specialist… I quickly found out that the commonest cause of death for the patients that died was heart disease and not kidney diseases. And we were doing a great job taking care of these patients but ultimately they died from a disease I didn’t have much control of as I would have loved to. That was a challenge I had to embrace being someone, whose decision to be a physician was to make a difference. I realized it was very difficult for me to make that difference, albeit we were taking care of patients and they were living longer.

“So that set the stage for me to decide if I wanted to explore ways of becoming more effective. I started toying with the idea of going back to specialise in cardiology because I really wanted to get to the bottom of the problem.” In the final analysis, “My training in cardiology as well as nephrology gave me a 360 degree view of a patient with a near total approach to their disease state. I think it puts me in a better position to actually treat these patients.

“Dr. Olurotimi Badero is  the only fully trained and board certified cardio-nephrologist (combined kidney and heart specialist) in the world today. And he is currently board certified and a consultant in:

  • Internal medicine
  • Nephrology & Hypertension
  • Interventional Nephrology & Endovascular Access
  • Cardiovascular Medicine
  • Nuclear Cardiology
  • Invasive & Interventional Cardiology.”

For more, see: Meet World’s Only Combined Heart and Kidney Specialist Doctor

 

© Copyright 2017| Victor Uyanwanne

3 Easy Ways To Make Your Day Completely Useless

How to be productive.

There are some days you don’t feel like doing anything productive. Right? If yes is your answer, then I am constrained to provide you with these 3 easy ways to totally make your day useless:

​1. Have no plan for the day.

One way to use your day very well is to plan for it by the night before. But if you don’t want to use the day well, there is no need to have a plan for it or draw up a reasonable ‘to-do-list’ ahead of time.

Don’t worry your self at all with all that stress. Don’t set goals for the day, just hope that things will take care of themselves. Wait till the day will be over and count your gains (I mean losses!).

2. Wake up very late

It is a brand new day, but why should you wake up early when you really don’t want to achieve anything for the day? Stay in bed as long as you want to. If possible spend the preceding night watching movies so that you can feel too weak and tired to step out of your cosy bed in the morning.

l mean have an unusually prolonged sleep; wake up very late. By the time you will eventually stagger out of bed, the day will already have been irredeemably far spent.

3. Spend most of the day entirely on social media.

Have all your smartphones, tablets and laptop devices ready. Fall in love with each of them all over again and focus on them by the second. But don’t think of doing anything productive with any of them.

Visit all your social media handles, respond to, and like, every post you see. Write no meaningful piece. No need to read online professional articles, just concentrate on posting pictures and minor updates on how much time you have to waste.

Fellows like you will soon notice and engage you in an unending chat. By the time the day will be over, you will have wearied yourself out from keeping up with the unproductive demands of social media.

What are your own suggestions?

© Copyright 2017| Victor Uyanwanne

My Name Is on Facebook And On Jesusbook Too

Facebook just shared with me a ‘thank you’ message and a video they made for me highlighting some of my activities on the social networking site. The message reads, “Facebook is now a community of 2 billion people and we’re so glad that you are part of it. We have made you this video to share the good that happens when we all come together”Thank you message from Facebook

I was elated as I streamed that video on my smart phone device. I want to believe that I was not the only person that received that kind of video this time around. Besides, this is not the first time I have received a similar video from them. But that’s not where I’m going to with this post.

The interesting thing for me was the important statistics that accompanied the video. According to the report, Facebook now has 2 billion users on their platform. And they announced to me that they are happy to have me as one of the two billion people in their ‘kingdom.’

Of course, as you can see in the quote, they didn’t use the word ‘kingdom’ in the message but I am using it here for my own reasons. Hopefully, you will get a clearer picture as you read along.

Look at it this way: I am one in two billion people on Facebook, and so are you if you are a user. That may seem insignificant to you, but toone in 2 billion. think that two out of the seven billion people on earth are on Facebook is not a small thing. That means that about 2 out of every 3 human being in this world have Facebook presence. How I wish people are enlisting for the Kingdom of God in that magnitude!

On the whole, it is a great historical feat for this generation that one social network is able to have 2 billion people in their world. Who will doubt that one of the greatest innovations of our time is the emergence of social media networking services which advancement in technology has helped to drive. And of course, with such a massive number of active users, Facebook has easily become the leading social media platform on planet earth today. All of that became achieved within just a little over a decade time frame.

I joined Facebook a little less than ten years ago. I can vividly recall how unwilling I was at first to get on board the platform. Apart from presupposing that it was a waste of time, I also feared that people would not use it responsibly. And naturally, I didn’t Thank you from FBwant to be ‘entangled’ in it. But once I understood that there are embedded security settings on the social network that would allow me manage the ‘relationships and communication’ activities on the social network, I decided to opt in. And since then, I have been using the platform to my advantage without any regrets whatsoever.

If you can read and write and you are not on Facebook, I think I should ask you, “where have you been?” I am not suggesting that it is compulsory to be on Facebook. If you are not there, you must really have  a strong reason not to be. May be you can let us in on the reason you are not there.

Bottom line, I joined Facebook willingly and I don’t intend to exit the platform anytime soon except of course something beyond my control happens. On the other hand, I do respect your decision not to get involved if Facebook holds no such appeal to you.

But I hope you will be interested in Jesusbook as I am! While I will not be able to tell you categorically that it is the will of God for you to join Facebook, I can tell you without any iota of doubt that it is the will of God for your name to be written in Jesusbook.

Facebook Vs Jesusbook

But “what is Jesusbook?” you may want to ask. I will tell you in a minute. Just read on…

Jesus Christ once said to His disciples, “… Do not rejoice that the spirits submit to you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven.”

Therefore, whatever you are able to accomplish on earth – whether in spiritual or secular things – should not be your greatest joy. Neither should your joy be in what this world can offer you. Rather your greatest joy should be that your name is written in the book of life in Heaven.

Similarly, while it is my pleasure that I am on Facebook, my greatest pleasure comes from knowing that my name is in Jesusbook. Beyond the temporary benefits of having a presence on Facebook in this world, I do not lose sight of the everlasting gains that will accrue to me in the world to come for having my name in Jesus’ Book of life.

You can now see that by Jesusbook, I refer to what the Bible calls the Lamb’s book of life, which is the heavenly register containing the names of all the children of God, dead or alive. “Those whose names are written in the book of life are those who belong to God, those who have attained eternal life.” Your lifetime is your only opportunity to get your name in this Book.

Facebook provided me the platform to join their online community and I did join by registering my personal account there. In the same way, by accepting Jesus as the Son of God, as my Lord and personal Saviour and by trusting in the benefits of His sacrificial death, I have got my name written in the Book of life. That is why I am saying that my name is on Facebook and on Jesusbook too.

 

© Copyright 2017| Victor Uyanwanne

Why Christians Should Be Wary Of Secular Materials On Sex

Why Christians should be wary of secular materials on sex.

You are a committed Christian, a good disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ. You love the Lord with all your heart. To the best of your abilities, you want to please Him in everything and in anything you do.

You are married to a spouse who is equally commited to the Lord as you are. You both trust God for the best in all areas of your marital union.

Most things have been working out pretty fine for both of you. But there is an aspect of your marriage you have not enjoyed maximum fulfilment: the bedroom department; you are convinced there is more pleasure available than you do presently enjoy.

I mean you have had moments of mutual ecstacy during lovemaking with your married partner. But they are too far in between to be completely satisfied with. Your heart aches for more…

You fear God, so you don’t want to cheat on your spouse by exploring other avenues for sexual satisfaction outside your marital union. Hence you are committed to finding workable solutions to the conjugal discontentment you have been having with your spouse.

You have been praying about it. “There is nothing prayer cannot do,” you assure yourself. Thankfully you have some evidence that it is working…

In addition to prayers, you have been exercising your faith too. You are well aquainted with Hebrews 11:6 which tells us that “without faith it is impossible to please God…” So in that essential area of your life you have not ceased trusting in God, expecting things to turn out for the better between you and your spouse.

You are also a practical person who knows that every thing does not depend on prayer and faith alone. You have to do some work too – after all, “faith without work is dead,” says the Bible.

You suspect that if you are armed with the right kind of knowledge and the wisdom to apply it, your fortune in marital bedroom affairs could improve tremendously. Off you go looking for possible solutions from whatever sources you can find.

You have in the past attempted to have frank discussions with your spouse on these matters, which yielded some good results and some negative feedbacks too. Over all, you are making some progress, but you are not ‘there’ yet…

You are hesitant in asking a few of your friends for guidance because you do not want to bring the private events in your bedroom to the public square. Besides, some pieces of  advice from some of your friends in the past have not been so helpful.

Some even had the audacity to tell you to “look outside” your marriage for sexual satisfaction, just like they have done. But as a good follower of Christ you are, you refused such an advice and decided to stay faithful to your marital vows. Your sexual satisfaction would be from your spouse and no other, you maintained.

Unwholesome sexual behaviours
Source: Dennis Prager, PragerU YouTube Channel

To a large extent, you understand the place of sex in marriage and you are convinced about its significance in all ramifications.

You have read as many Christian literatures on sex in marriage as you could find. But you still have some areas of concern that have been left unaddressed: a detailed practical act of lovemaking in a Christian home, satisfying to both parties.

Seeking For More Help

You are welcome to search for whatever help you can get but be reminded that not all available helps out there are in your overall best interest.

Why did I say so?

Apart from the fact that the sexual act in most secular media is presented in a way you may not find very comfortable with, the context of the practice of it also falls below Biblical standards.

As you already know, most secular materials you will find do not approach sex from the perspective of a committed holy matrimony. The sex practice is presented from the angle of other relationship frameworks – mostly between unmarried partners.

Simply put, not many people will disagree with the observation that secular media seem to portray more of premarital sex, homosexuality and adultery than they do of marital sex. But as a Christian you know better and you deserve better…

You must know that any form of sexual activity promoted outside the context of a marital union should not constitute a good example for you to learn from. Therefore you should be wary.

God created sex to be experienced and enjoyed only within the confines of marriage. Any thing outside that is an aberration. Therefore all forms of pre-marital sex, extramarital sex and all other forms of sexual behaviour outside marriage are not God’s perfect plan for you and His other children.

The people of the word may think otherwise but you have chosen to stand with God and His word.

Your comments are welcome.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Happy Democracy Day To All Nigerians

Democracy Day in Nigeria, May 29, every year.
Democracy Day in Nigeria. Picture credits: Facebook

As most of you probably know, I write this blog from here in Nigeria where I was born, live and also work.

Today is work-free in the country because today is Democracy Day. Except for those on essential duties or are involved in private businesses, most people will have family fun time-out or get-together today to mark the once-a-year holiday.

This Democracy Day commemoration is different from the International Day of Democracy pronounced by the United Nations General Assembly to take place every 15 September around the many countries of the world.

Democracy Day in Nigeria is celebrated every year on 29 May, in honour of the country’s return to democratic rule in 1999 after many years of tortuous military rule.

By October this year, the country will be 57 years as an independent nation. But today, we are recording 18 straight years of democratic governance, without any military intervention like before.

Given the country’s chequered history of multiple military interventions in government, achieving 18 straight years of democratic governance is not a mean fit. And despite our numerous challenges, we give thanks to God for all His mercies over the country and her teeming populace.

Congratulations Nigeria. And happy Democracy Day to all my fellow citizens of Nigeria.

Wherever you are around the world, please join in the celebration. God bless Nigeria. God bless all of us.

Kindly leave a message in the comment box for all my fellow Nigerians.

Making A Turn Around From The Wrong Road

Not too late to retrace your steps.
Making a turn around.

The above infograph by Charisma Bible College, Colorado showed up in my Twitter time line this afternoon. I thought I should share it with you because it summarised what I have been thinking about for a while now.

“No matter how far you have travelled down the wrong road, you can always turn around.”

If you continue in the wrong direction, you will end up in the wrong destination.

Continuing on the wrong path will never turn it into a right path.

It is foolhardy to remain on the wrong road once you have realised where you are.

Remember the prodigal son: he retraced his steps once he realised that he was on the wrong path.

A new beginning awaits you if you would make a turn around from following the wrong road to the good.

It is never too late to turn from following the wrong road to the good one. But now is the best time to do so.

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

How About Working HardSmart?

Hustle hard and smart
Recipe for success.

What is the one greatest recipe for success that comes to your mind? You will probably say it is hardwork or working hard.

You may be right. But some other person would say it is working smart. That is not out of point too.

In order words, success is not just about working hard but working smart as well. I hope you will agree with that?

If yes, then we may as well say for short that success involves working ‘hardsmart,’ meaning to work hard and smart, together.

Therefore to be successful in life, work, work hard, work smart. That’s to say, you should work ‘hardsmart.’ 

 

P.S. ‘Hardsmart’ came from a discussion I had with a few friends recently. Seems like the word makes some sense… What do you think?

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Six-Day Quote Challenge – Day One

the only way to God
The Only Way to God

Let me begin by appreciating Anne for choosing me to be part of this Special Challenge. I have decided to participate in it because I love quotes and secondly the process of participation is pretty simple when compared with some other challenge invitations I have received in the past.

Incidentally, this will be the very first post challenge on WP that I have accepted to take part in. All thanks to Anne who invited me to participate. Anne herself has been a very faithful follower of my blog, always contributing her views to most (if not all) of my posts.

Here is the link to Anne’s blog: Freedomborn…Aussie Christian Focus

The words in the quote, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me” from the lips of Jesus is perhaps one of the most audacious claims by anyone in the history of mankind. And Jesus either meant every word in that statement or He was an imposter. But you can be sure that Jesus was not and could never be an impostor: He is the One He said He is: the Only Way to God!

For me, that claim is a huge assurance that as a follower of Jesus Christ, I am on the right path to God – the ONLY one at that. As a believer in Him, I have believed the Truth and not a lie and also that I have the abundant life since I have given my life to Him and have accepted Him as my Lord and personal Saviour.

For this special quote challenge, I am nominating two of my top followers below to participate in it:

Tikeetha T – A Thomas Point Of View

David Ettinger – Ettinger Writings

I look forward to reading their inspiring quotes if they would accept to participate in the challenge …. at their own convenience.

Guidelines for Posting…..

1. Thank the person who Nominated you.

2. Share a Quote you find inspiring and try to explain how it inspires you.

3. Nominate at least one person or more on your first post to do the Six-Day Quote Challenge (you can but you don’t have to Nominate anybody else on the other posts).

Thank you.

P.S.What does the quote in focus above mean to you?

So You Are A Life Coach?

Are you a life coach?
What does a life coach do?

Just like everyone else, I have encountered many kinds of coaches in my lifetime. And they come in different colours and shades towards a given end.

I am sure you remember your math coach, dance coach, music coach, swimming coach, basketball coach, football coach, chess coach, business coach and any other kind of coach you might have come across in your life.

As far as I know, people who answer to any of the coaches above possess some identifiable, specific, special skills and experiences with which they impart other people who learn from them.

I do understand those ones…But I am a bit curious about those who call themselves a life coach. Those are the people this post seeks to understand better.

A life coach!

So you are a life coach? That sounds too enormous a title to me, and I am making some efforts to wrap my mind around it. That’s why I am asking these questions.

Are you a life coach? Can anyone, including you, fill that shoe properly?

Coaches are experts in something. Are you an expert in life? Have you mastered all about life itself in all areas to qualify as a life coach?

Can you give impeccably useful direction, guidance, instruction, training, support, to anyone and everyone in life that comes to you for help? Do you have the global picture?

Life coach…

Are you really comfortable using that term to refer to who you are and what you do? Can you let me into your world please?

Just how did you come about being refered to as a life coach? Is it a divine calling or a training, or both?

So you are a life coach, or is it just a nomenclature? Are you well rounded in all areas of life? Or shouldn’t you be?

Who certified you as a life coach? Is it God? If it is not Him, then who is the mortal that can take up that responsibility?

Speak to me! What exactly do you mean when you call yourself a life coach? I ask because I do not want to misunderstand you anymore.

You are a life coach? Is that not what they call you? Or am I the one that did not hear well?

Have you known, seen, experienced and understood life in all its ramifications? Have you been to the highest heights or descended to the lowest depths, and covered all the breadths of life?

Please don’t say I am pushing it too hard on you. I am not… I just want to know about you.

Can you help people in all areas of their lives? Can you meet people’s needs at the “spirit, soul and body” levels?

Can you excellently direct people in business, in politics, in religious, in sports, in health, in education, in entertainment, in aviation, in construction, in computing, in communication, in relationships, etc? Doesn’t being a life coach entail all of the above?

I just don’t understand you when you say you are a life coach. Should I say you might be a coach in an aspect of life and not life as a whole?

May be you should come to my aid and explain to me exactly what you mean when you say you are a life coach.

I am waiting…

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Remembering The Fools Around The World

What are you if you say there is no God?
Who is a fool?

Every 1st April is marked as fools’ day around the world. Many people celebrate this day by playing different so-called harmless pranks, called April fool.

But this post is not going to be a prank, neither am I going to shout “Äpril fool” at you to show that you have fallen victim.

The post is going to touch on an important matter that reveals the identity of a person you are already familiar with, or at least have heard about one way or another – a fool!

In remembering the fools around the world today, let us begin by asking this simple question:

Who is a fool?

And then provide the answer:

A fool is someone who is unwise, lacks sense, and lacks judgement. Fools don’t want to learn the truth. They laugh at the truth and turn their eyes away from the truth. Fools are wise in their own eyes failing to take in wisdom and advice, which will be their downfall. They suppress the truth by their unrighteousness…. Fritz Chery, Biblereasons.com

The above is a familiar definition of who a fool is, and I will agree with you on that. But beyond that obvious meaning, let us look at it from another perspective, a better perspective I should say.

In exploring a better perspective on the topic, it is good we refer to the Scriptures for the perfect answer. Does the Bible tell us who a fool is?

Yes it does. Let us see it in Psalms 14:1(NLT):

Only fools say in their hearts, “There is no God.” They are corrupt, and their actions are evil; not one of them does good!

The Bible passage is quite clear. But in case you missed it, let us say it again: anyone who says there is no God is a fool. So the next time someone tells you there is no God, please do not take offense. Just remember that person has just revealed who he is: a fool, a big one at that.

Read: 16 sobering things every atheist should know

If you are one of those fools who have said there is no God, and you happen to be reading this post, I owe you no apologies. In the first place, I do not even expect you to be offended that you are called a fool. Why should you?

Since you are comfortable saying boldly that there is no God, in the same vein, you should be comfortable answering your Biblical name: a fool.

Today is your day. Enjoy it. But remember that one day, you shall stand face to face in judgment with the God whom you fail to acknowledge here on earth.

You have read my take on remembering the fools’ day today. What is yours?

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

8 Simple Reasons I Do Not Follow Your Blog

Why your blog doesn't have many followers.
Reasons I do not follow some blogs

I have found out through my own experience that part of the joy of blogging is having people following your blog, regularly reading your written thoughts and sending you feedbacks through their comments, likes, emails, reblogs etc.

I take it that you too do not mind sharing in the joy of blogging as it were. But as you already know, it is not always easy getting people to follow your blog. And there could be many reasons for that.

As far as I am concerned, here are 8 Simple Reasons I am not following your blog:

1. I don’t even know that your blog exists in the first place.

Your blog does not show up on the first pages when I do specific key word searches on Google. Neither do you leave a trail on other people posts by liking them or putting in some appropriate comments.

Without having any of the above leads to your site, how am I supposed to know that your lovely blog is tucked away in one hidden corner of WordPress?

2. You are not following my blog

I do not mean to say that if you do not follow my blog I will not follow yours. In fact my blog stats show that as at now, I follow twice as many blogs that follow mine.

Just that like an average blogger (I’m not sure I am up to that yet😀), once I notice that anyone has followed my blog, the next natural thing I do is to head to the person’s blog to see what is on offer.

I cannot guarantee that I will follow you back once I see that you have followed my blog. But I guarantee to always checkout any blog that follows mine to enable me make up my mind on whether or not to follow back.

When you don’t follow me or leave a comment or a like on my blog posts, it becomes a bit harder for me to discover and follow your blog.

3. I got to your blog, but your posts care less about my core values.

Sorry if that is you, I will not follow your blog. For instance, I stumbled on a blog one time. I saw that all the posts I managed to read thereon seem to have centred on promoting ‘unwholesome’ sexual behaviours.

I am not judging that blog, but I could not follow it because I did not want to be receiving posts bothering on promoting sexual perversion.

My point is that it is much easier for me to follow blogs whose values I share than to follow those whose values are completely different from mine. Please raise your hand if you are with me on that!

4. The first three posts I read on your blog did not make much sense to me.

Some blogs make sense but the contents are in conflict with my values. Some others I have come across did not make much sense for me to opt in.

Usually, when I encounter a new blog, I would try to read three posts on the site (usually the last three). I may not follow the blog if I did not derive any value reading them.

To follow you, I will have to like at least one of the first three posts I read on your blog. Is that too much to ask?

5. Your picture is not on your profile.

This point may seem inconsequential to you. But believe it or not, it matters to me and to some other WP users too.

I find it easier to follow blogs that have the profile pictures of their authors than the ones that do not have or have inanimate objects instead of a real person’s face. You know that faceless individuals on the internet are usually troublesome. Engage them if you want, but sometimes one would rather avoid them.

6. You did not join any blogging community.

I have found out that by belonging to a specific community of bloggers (on Facebook for instance), I have discovered and followed new blogs. If you do not belong to any of such community of bloggers and actively participate there on, the odds against discovering your blog have just increased.

7. Your blog language is totally different from mine.

Needless to say, English is my blog default language. If your blog is set to another foreign language, I am sorry I cannot follow you. This is because I do not not understand your language, so it is of no use to follow you.

I know one can reset the default language on your WP blog, but that means I will have to spend extra time and energy doing that.

Usually, it is easier for me to move on to other blogs written in English than to be involved in the task of changing your blog language so I can read it.

8. No one has recommended your blog to me yet.

I have followed some great blogs simply because they were recommended to me by some other bloggers. Just like in advertising, word of mouth (or written) recommendations on WP promotes blogs too. That means, at least in part, that I am yet to follow your blog because no one has recommended it to me yet.

Why are you not following some blogs yet? We will like to hear from you.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

One Special Kind Of Love You Should Embrace This Valentine

The greatest kind of love.
Experiencing the love of God.

Everybody is looking for love. And to love and be loved is one of the greatest feelings in life.

What kind of love are you searching for this Valentine? What kind of love have you experienced before? You might have experienced a form of love in the past. But  I will like you to experience the greatest kind of love there is.

Whether it is the love for the members of your family, love for a partner, friendship kind of love, none of them can last forever. But there is one special kind of love that will never pass away. That is the kind of love that supersedes all other kinds of love.

It is called the agape, the God-kind of love. It is the kind of love that made God give His Son for you. It is the kind of love that made Jesus Christ go all the way to the Cross for you.

More than anything else, you need to experience the God-kind of love. It is the kind of love you should live by. In it you will find true meaning for your life.

If you are yet to experience the love of God, you are not safe yet, either in this life or in the one to come. The good part is that God’s love is already given to you – made available in Jesus Christ to everyone.

All you need to do is to accept it and let it transform your life. No one can receive it for you.

The love of God is the only kind of love that can change your life forever. It is the love you should embrace.

3 reasons you should embrace God’s special kind of love

1. The love of God is unconditional

God loves you as you are. But He will never leave you as you are. He will make your life better than He met it. He is the greatest Lover there is.

2. There is security in the love of God

God is not a kind of lover that will love you today and jilt you the next day. His commitment to you is forever.

You have an assurance in His word that nothing can separate you from His love. In other words, there is an eternal security in the love of God.

3. You will have what it takes to love yourself and love others.

If you embrace the love of God you will be empowered to love yourself and love other people too. Those who neglect the love of God will never ever be able to truly love. It is God who gives you the capacity to love.

As you celebrate this Valentine’s Day, remember there is no greater love than the one God offers you. It is the most special kind of love you should embrace.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

A Dream That Never Came Through!

What was once my dream car

Time changes things. Dreams do change over time too. The things you cherish today can become obsolete in no time. That’s what I found out about having a dream car.

Obsolescence is the state of being which occurs when an object, service, or practice is no longer wanted even though it may still be in good working order. Obsolescence frequently occurs because a replacement has become available that has, in sum, more advantages compared to the disadvantages incurred by maintaining or repairing the original…;Typically, obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity… Wikipedia

That last sentence from the above quote “…obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity,” captures in part the spirit of this post. Read on, you will see why.

As a result of the passage of time, what was once a dream car for me has (well, expectedly) declined in popularity, leaving nothing but only unfulfilled memories. It is not that I am sad about the unfulfilled childhood dreams. But I am glad that I had dreams as a child that once in a while pop up in the physical reality of my adult life.

For instance, on my way home from work recently, I saw something that brought back memories that made me smile. It is the car you see in this picture above. I was caught up right behind it in a very slow moving traffic. So I had the ample chance to take that photo shot.

“Why did I smile,” you may ask? I smiled at the sight of the car because right then I remembered when that same type of car used to be my dream car. That was about 28 years ago… when yours truly was just a boy.

Then, I was still in primary (elementary) school. I had a strong liking for the referenced model of car. And I had imagined that I would one day drive it when I grew up, had become an undergraduate or a bachelor.

“How wonderful it would be to cruise around in such a nice ‘sport’ car” I had envisioned. Yes, right or wrong, I had the thought that the car was ‘sporty’ yet classy for me. But that pre-teen dream of driving it or owning it never came through. In fact, I didn’t even get to own any car as an undergraduate.

But much time has passed since then… As you might rightly expect, the once-upon-a-time dream car now looks so obsolete to me; so much so that I can’t even desire it any longer.

I say so because it is like nothing I want now. I drive a ‘nice’ car now, alright. But it is not my dream car yet.

Of course, when it comes to having my dream car, the bar has been pushed higher over time. From dreaming about having something simple and classy, my idea of a dream car has now metamorphosed into having something more fantastic than the one I had as an elementary school pupil.

I now desire a sophisticated vehicle properly fitted with appropriate functionalities, better than the modest one I currently own. But then I ask myself, why have a dream car, when the one you desire today can easily become out of fashion tomorrow?

New models of cars are churned out each year, with better fittings and functionalities. So why continue to have a dream car without having the strong economic power required to make the dream come through?

But keep in mind, this is not just about dream cars only. It is about all our pursuits as human beings. The things we cherish so passionately today gradually will usually decline in popularity over time. Sooner than later, we find ourselves back to where we started – feeling unsatisfied and wanting for more.

In the final analysis, only dreams of eternal value are worth pursuing. Only things that will count in the light of eternity should truly count for us.

What’s your take on this?

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

2016 In Review: Top 10 Posts On This Blog

 

10 most liked post
10 Most Liked Posts On Victorscornerdotorg.wordpress.com in 2016

Based on the posts with the highest number of likes, here are the summaries of the top 10 posts on this blog in 2016:

 # 10. Towards A better Marriage: 6 Simple Reasons You Should Not Blame Your Spouse

  • When you blame your spouse for everything that goes wrong in your marriage, you paint the false picture that you are perfect.
  • You hurt your spouse’s feelings when you heap the blame on him/her every time, without taking any responsibility yourself.
  • You risk being resented by your spouse if you continue the blame game.
  • As you already know, you will not be able to build a happy and healthy relationship with anyone if you blame or resent him/her a lot.
  • Blaming your spouse does not solve the problem in your marriage.
  • Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated.

# 9. Can Unhappy Parents Raise Happy Children?

I want to be a happy father to my children and a happy husband to my wife. After all, a grumpy man would not make a good companion to anyone – family or not family. This is part of the reason I have realised that I should strive to always have my emotions under control…

It seems logical to think that unhappy parents may not be able to raise happy children. And I don’t want to be caught in that web.

#8. How You Can Know God At The Friendship Level

Distinguished and best-selling Author, Rick Warren, in one of his devotional articles, stated that there are three levels of knowing God: recognition, acquaintance, and friendship.

To know someone deeply, you have to regularly talk to, or spend time with, him or her. Knowing God deeply is not different from that. Except you are willing to regularly fellowship with God, talk to Him as a friend and let Him talk to you too, you may never get to know Him at the deepest level possible.

#7. Communication in Marriage: 4 Super Lessons In A Surprising Way

Various situations could arise in your marital relationship that may want to force a communication gap between you and your spouse. But don’t allow for a breakdown in communication between you both. If communication fails, many other things will fail along.

  • In a thorny situation in your marriage, know that your spouse is not the thorn.
  • If your spouse wears an unusual outlook, you as the other half should show persistent care (by asking) to find out what the problem is.
  • If your spouse slows down in communicating with you, that’s not the time for you to withdraw from him/her.
  • Be strong for your spouse by whispering to him/her that you are there for him/her

#6. Jesus: 8 Special Things About The Baby That Changed The World

Jesus was more than a baby. He is the God-incarnate. As the Saviour of the world, in Him lies the eternal hope of mankind. Here are some special things about Him that set Him apart from any other man in recorded history:

  • Jesus’ miraculous conception by a virgin.
  • His conception by a virgin and birth were both undeniable fulfilment of Prophecies.
  • He wasn’t born to earthly royalty, but angels heralded His birth.
  • The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world.
  • Jesus was born to die.
  • Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection.
  • He is the only one giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him.

#5. Finding The Friend That Sticks Closer Than A Brother

There’s one thing I have come to know.
Many friends will always come and go.
Their going away may not be caused by strife.
It is a normal phenomenon of this life…

We can always find a friend in the Lord Jesus,
Who has promised He’ll always be there for us.
Whatever we go through in this time and space,
We can get succour by looking unto His face

#4. Towards A Better Marriage: Your Spouse Is Not The Problem

A problem is a problem and your spouse is your spouse. Please don’t mistake one for another.

Next time you have any marital issue, be sure to remind yourself that your spouse is not the problem. Identify what the issue is and focus on tackling it.

#3. Sixteen Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know

If you don’t want to end up in the wrong destination, you should not continue on the journey in the wrong direction. The prodigal son found his back to his father, so can you! If you are an atheist, here are 16 sobering truths I wish you to know:

  • God exists – whether you believe it or not.
  • To know God, check the Bible
  • God loves you, I thought you should know.
  • God is not angry with you.
  • Jesus Christ is the only Way to God.
  • You are not the first person to doubt the existence of God.
  • The Bible has a word for anyone who doesn’t believe there is God…FOOL.
  • There have been people who turned from atheism to God and so can you.
  • Your lifetime is your only opportunity for you to know God.
  • Whatever misgivings you have about God can be handled.
  • God has numerous children and He has room for you too.
  • If you die today, where would you spend eternity?
  • The problem of sin cannot be solved except in Christ Jesus.
  • You are accountable to God, now or later.
  • There is a future reality called Hellfire, for everyone who rejects Jesus.
  • Very far from God is not too far yet.

#2. A Broken Piece of Heart

For many years, I went about my life
With a broken piece of heart, bleeding.
No one could fill the great void I felt
Or mend the awfully shattered part of me…

But then I met the greatest Friend and Lover
Who truly loved me as I am, unconditionally.
The One who gave up His life for me
And gave me a brand new heart too.

#1. Six Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

Everyone needs forgiveness.  On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too. Here are 5 simple reasons you should learn to forgive others:

  • God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too.
  • Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it.
  • Don’t you expect others to forgive you too?
  • Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix.
  • You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise.
  • Forgive yourself so you can forgive others.

 

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to comment.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

10 Suggestions to Still Be Happy While Reviewing Your Goals In The Past Year

Now that the year is ending, you can choose to focus on the things that made you happy on dwell on things that made you sad during the year.  I will urge you to choose the former.

At one point or another during the outgoing year, just like anyone else, you might have experienced what someone described as “the good, the bad and the ugly.” But that doesn’t mean you should ‘kill’ yourself.

It is time to move on…

You have survived the year 2016, and 2017 is there for you to conquer. Do not jeopardise your interests in the new year by dwelling so much on the mistakes of the previous year.

There are more opportunities awaiting you in the coming years than the ones you might have lost in the past. Stay focused… you will get to the promised land.

So as you review your goals for 2016, here are some suggestions I will like to give you:

  1. Find more reasons to be cheerful than you can find to be tearful.

  2. Count your blessings, not your losses.

  3. Focus on your gains rather than on your pains.

  4. Be thankful for everything, and regretful for nothing.

  5. Appreciate people and begrudge no one.

  6. Be grateful for the answered prayers rather than be bitter about the yet-to-be-answered ones.

  7. Think of the faces that smiled at you more than the ones that frowned at you.

  8. Celebrate the positive developments in your life rather than continue to regret over the negative ones.

  9. Be positive about life, not negative.

  10. Embrace the new year with renewed hopes and vigour.

Whatever might have happened to you in 2016 is now in the past. There is no use crying over spilt milk if things didn’t work out well – the way you expected them to. It is now time to be ushered into the new year with new hopes and new aspirations.

Happy New Year!

Finding The Friend That Sticks Closer Than A Brother 

When I thought I had reached an awful end.
I came to know a faithful and true Friend.
Who completely loves me as I am.
And never causes me any kind of harm.

Many a friend have come my journey way.
But some of them would not afford to stay.
Many were willing to help but were unable.
A few unwilling to render help, but capable.

There’s one thing I have come to know.
Many friends will always come and go.
Their going away may not be caused by strife.
It is a normal phenomenon of this life.

It’s okay when some friends go away for good.
Especially if they can’t stand in your ‘hood’.
When that happens, I’ll try not to feel too sad.
Because I’ll soon find out it’s not all that bad.

Indeed, there is a friend that sticks closer,
Than the most loyal biological brother.
But that will be a very difficult kind,
That only a few will be privileged to find.

I may find one friend that stays longer,
That gives me a kind of support stronger,
Than anyone else has ever given me.
But what if that never comes to be?

We can always find a friend in the Lord Jesus,
Who has promised He’ll always be there for us.
Whatever we go through in this time and space,
We can get succour by looking unto His face.

He is the friend closer than a brother.
I am staying with Him forever and ever.
He is the truest Friend I’ve ever met.
He is known as Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Proverbs 18:24

 

©CopyRight 2016 -Victor Uyanwanne

Beautiful and Talented: Who, Me?

Talented, beautiful, handsome

If you are asked to mention #talented people, don’t count yourself out.

If you are asked to mention #beautiful / #handsome people, don’t count yourself out.

You are beautiful / handsome and you are talented .

You may not feel like it sometimes, but you are still talented.

You may not feel like it all the time, but you are still beautiful / handsome.

No matter who you are and where you are from, take it from me: You are beautiful / handsome and talented!

I know this because I know you were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Have you ever had that feeling of not being talented or  beautiful / handsome enough? How did you handle it?
©2016 CopyRight | Victor Uyanwanne

2 Missing Treasures Found in The Midst of Chaos

Lost but Found

It’s been my desire to build a private library in my bedroom for a while now. To that effect, I have been acquiring scores of books covering many areas of interest such as leadership, productivity, parenting, character and talent development, faith, prayer, prosperity, evangelism, business, public speaking, and so on.

But as I am yet to build the appropriate shelf to arrange the books away as nicely as they should be, I have them temporarily stacked up on an average sized table placed at a far corner of my bedroom.

From there I can always take any book to read as often as I am able to do so. One obvious constraint I have with this arrangement is that the retrieval of any specific book is always difficult.

Most often than not, the title I want to read is always tucked in the middle of the others, or so it seems. Therefore, I always have to scatter a few others in order to get to the one I want.

This was the situation I found myself during the penultimate week of June 2016. I had scurried through the stack to fish out a nice book to read during the few days I took off work. In the process, I had inadvertently strewn a few other unneeded books here and there on the floor around the table, with the hope that I would rearrange them back later.

Little did I know that this was a sufficient invitation for my energetic 2 and 4-year old boys to help do further unsolicited scattering. I came back to the room several hours later only to find all the books scattered everywhere on the floor. Instead of the usual stack, what I saw was an empty table with all the books sprung everywhere on the floor.

I stood there dumbfounded. “What type of chaos is this?” I asked myself, without expecting any meaningful explanation from the two toddlers who obviously had a nice time scattering the books on the carpeted floor.

I quickly drove them out of the room and called my wife to see what these boys had done in the bedroom. She too could not believe her sight….

Chaotic mess of books

I was obviously not happy with the chaotic situation I met on the bedroom floor. But I would not ‘kill’ the children for it. I simply abandoned the room partly for a few days… I had more important things to do… It wasn’t until the third day before I returned to arrange the books back on the temporary ‘shelf’. And it took me almost three hours to get the job neatly done.

But I discovered to my utmost surprise that I had tremendous fun doing it. I skimmed through all the titles and had the books sorted according to their authors (I read authors as much as I read titles). In the end, I had all the books back and stacked neatly on the table till when the proper bookshelf would be provided.

Here was the most interesting part of the exercise of bringing order out of the chaos: I found two precious items that made me so grateful.

One was a diary I had kept about 8 years ago, which I didn’t know its whereabouts. As I flipped through its pages, I found poems, songs and other thoughts I had personally written down previously, which I had never shared with anyone. I came to realise that many of them would be suitable for posts on this blog in the weeks to come. Honestly, it will be my joy to share them with you.

The second thing I found was the last updated manuscript of a book I had written over 10 years ago which I am yet to publish. Our home computer then had crashed and unfortunately I couldn’t  recover the soft copy. So the surviving print out meant everything to me. But I couldn’t trace it until that day, due to a change in our accommodation then.

All I had before I found this one was an older version of the manuscript. Now I am grateful that I can now revisit the newest version, have it reviewed again and then hopefully have it published someday.

Although I was initially annoyed that my children scattered my books into a chaotic mess, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. And out of what I perceived to be a disorderly situation, I found two treasures I thought I had previously lost. All things worked out together for my good, I might say!

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Please leave a word or two in the comment section.

©CopyRight | Victor Uyanwanne

3 Solid Things That Will Make a Christian not Suffer Identity Crisis

The real you is not the one that stands in front of the mirror every morning. The real you is inside of you. The word of God is the mirror that will reflect your true identity. As a Christian, your true identity is in Christ. It is only in Christ (the Word) that you can discover your true identity….

(Victor Uyanwanne in 11 Powerful reasons you should improve your interest in the Bible).

I know who I am.

Your identity is who you are. And as a Christian, who you are is important, but who you are in Christ is far more important.

That brings me to this important question: Do you know who you are? Or better still, do you know who you are in Christ?

You should know who you are! If you don’t:

  • You will go through life not maximizing your full potentials;
  • You will suffer from identity crisis; being unsure of yourself, unsure of why you exist in life;
  • Your self-esteem will not be at the right level;

You will end up being unhappy or depressed, emotionally. And of course, you deserve better than that! That’s why I am writing this post.

I know who I am.” That’s the title of the monstrously successful hit song by popular Nigerian worship gospel singer, Sinach.

There is no time I play that song that I don’t get inspired by its lyrics, which are deeply rooted in the word of God. I could never be depressed or unhappy with a song like that on my lips.

But just like many other Christians, there were times I wasn’t so sure about who I am in Christ. I would often ask myself questions such as Am I really saved? Are my sins truly forgiven?

Does God love me personally? Am I completely acceptable to God? Does He have a purpose for me? Am I Sure I am qualified for Heaven?

Looking at myself back then, those were not easy questions to resolve. But once I began to look more in the word of God than in my feelings, the pictures became clearer. As I began to see myself in the light of God’s word, my doubts began melting away.

I am not saying I’ve got everything figured out yet. But at least, I am not where I used to be; I now have a firmer grip of my real identity in Christ than before.

Having said that, I don’t deny that it is possible for a Christian to suffer an identity crisis. But you don’t have to, or why should you?

Many of the identity issues you might face as a Christian will arise if you continually focus on something different from what God says you are. Whatever you might have gone through in the past or you may still be going through presently, they should not make you confused  about your true identity.

Who God says you are is your true identity. At any point in time, you ought to be able to say “I am what God says I am.” That is to say, you have to always align who you think you are with who God says you are.

How can this be achieved?

As a Christian, here are 3 three sure ways out of the problem of identity crisis:

  1. Knowing who you are in Christ.

It is good to have a very firm grasp of who you are in the Lord. Who you are by your spiritual birth is far more important than who you are by your natural birth.

In other words, who God says you are matters more than who others, or you, define you to be.

At a crucial point in His lifetime, Jesus was cross-examined by the authorities of the day. “Are you the Messiah, the Son of the Blessed One?” They asked him.

“I Am” was Jesus response. No mistake about it. He knew who He was and He embraced it with all His heart, even though it carried a fatal consequence – He was condemned to death! (Mark 14:61-64).

Jesus Christ never suffered an identity crisis, why should any Christian for that matter?

  1. Embracing who you know you are in Christ with all your heart.

It is one thing to know who you are in Christ and another to completely embrace it with all your heart.  Sometimes you may not feel like you are what God says you are. But it doesn’t depend on how you feel about it. It is a matter of the integrity of God Himself.

You have to apply faith and accept that you are who God says you are. Stand on it even if your senses try to tell you otherwise.

Embracing your identity in Christ is the key to guaranteeing that you will not be caught up in the quagmire of an identity crisis.

  1. Living your life according to your revealed identity in Christ.

In Christ, you are a new creation, old things have passed away. The point has been made that who you are in Christ is your true identity. And that’s the identity you should live by.

“But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light: Which in time past were not a people, but are now the people of God: which had not obtained mercy, but now have obtained mercy.” 1 Peter 2:9.

I know you are familiar with the things spelt out in that quoted scripture above. If you embrace them with all your heart and live by them by faith; If you see yourself in the light of who God’s say you are, you will never again suffer from identity crisis as a Christian.

I know who I am in Christ.

Let’s take a further look at who you are in Christ:

  • A new creation. Old things have passed away in your life. You have been reborn.
  • Disciple of Christ. You are not a ‘nobody’. You know and follow Jesus Christ, the Son of the living God.
  • Light of the world. You show the way; you are a trailblazer. Your light shines forth even in darkness.
  • Ambassador of Christ. You are a VIP (very important personality); an approved representative of Heaven on earth, with full benefits attached.
  • Salt of the Earth. The world needs the flavor God has put in you.
  • Son of the most-high God. You are valuable. It cost God His only begotten Son to get you to become His Son too.
  • Royalty – You are a royalty, you became one when you got born again.
  • Holy and righteous – God has declared you guiltless. Your sins are completely forgiven.

The Bible didn’t leave us in doubt about who you are in Christ.

Knowing, embracing and living by the revealed identity you have in Christ are solid things that will make you not suffer the issue of identity crisis. And your life will take on a new meaning if you can get to the point where you can boldly say: I know who I am!

How does knowing  who you are in Christ help you overcome any problem of identity crisis? Please share your thoughts in the comment section.

 

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

16 Powerful Benefits of Asking Questions You Should Know

Written by Victor Uyanwanne

16 powerful benefits of asking questions

Leaders ask questions. Followers too need to ask the right questions to move ahead.

Whoever you are, everyone should develop the habit of asking the right questions. Whatever position or occupation you may find yourself in, there are appropriate questions you should ask to get the clearest pictures of things or about people.

The essence of asking questions is to get answers. If you don’t have the answers you need, then you should ask the questions you have. There are some things you may never know or understand, except you ask the right questions.

Let me ask you: Are you ashamed or afraid to ask questions? You shouldn’t be!

A Chinese proverb I came across reads: He who asks questions remains a fool for five minutes. He who does not ask questions remains a fool forever.

There are many things you stand to gain if you will dare to ask the right questions.

Here are 16 powerful benefits of asking questions you should know:

  1. Assists to clarify your thoughts – Asking questions will help you to clarify your thoughts and those of others too. If someone says something to you and you don’t understand it, it is more honourable to ask questions for more clarifications than to make unsafe assumptions.
  1. Helps to elicit interest from your audience – Don’t you know a few people who won’t talk to you until you ask them questions? You can use questions to break the ice! On many occasions, I have used questions to start conversations with people I met for the first time. It works with me!
  1. Demonstrates your interest in other people/things – who/what you ask questions about reveals whom/what you are interested in. The questions you ask reveal what matters to you. The questions you don’t ask but you should ask also communicate some things about you.
  1. Clears or reduces your doubts – You can sometimes deal with your suspicions and doubts by asking the right questions. If you get the right answers to your questions, they will either dispel or validate your doubts.
  1. Improves your knowledge – Naturally, questions can be used in the quest for knowledge. What you don’t know that you should have known is probably what you haven’t asked about. You can ask Google if you are afraid to ask people.
  1. Enhances your understanding – If you don’t understand something, ask questions until you grasp it well enough. I used to have a very funny teacher that would tell the class: If you don’t ask any question, that means you understood everything I thought you today. Otherwise, ask now!
  1. Enhances your communication skills – communication is not complete until there is an understanding and feedback. Asking relevant questions will help you to achieve better understanding of any subject matter in discourse.
  1. Enhances trust – Asking the right questions and getting appropriate responses may promote good communication and friendly communication builds trust. You need trust to build any meaningful relationships.

Are you asking the right questions?

  1. Helps you to solidify relationships – As trust level increases through the good answers you get to your questions, the cord of good relationship toughens.
  1. Tool for sifting information – Asking the right questions helps you separate relevant information from irrelevant ones. Not all information you get are useable. You can use questions to separate the grains from the chaff.
  1. Promotes better decision making – Good information is the heart of a good decision making process. The answers you get from asking questions will affect the quality of the decisions you make.
  1. Saves time and other resources. Have you ever tried to locate something or some place on your own for hours without finding it? And then you decided to ask someone about it and you got immediate help that showed you what you were looking for? Imagine the amount of time you would have saved if you had asked the question ab ni tio!
  1. Removes or reduces prejudices – If you ask the right questions and you get the right answers, you will soon get to discover that there is no need to hang on to some previously held misconceptions about some things and especially about some people.
  1. Promotes personal confidence – Believe it or not, your ability to ask the right questions is a kind of pointer to your level of confidence. Confident people ask questions. Don’t wait to boost your confidence before you begin to ask questions. Boost your level of confidence by asking questions.
  1. Clarifies direction – “He who asks questions never misses his way,” so says an African proverb. If you don’t know where you are going, ask questions to get the needed direction.
  1. Enhances your personal effectiveness – Knowing what to do and achieving results thereon could partly be a function of the questions you ask and the answers you get. What you don’t know, ask! Once you know, act!

Have you ever gained any benefits from asking questions? Please share your experience in the comment section.

P.S. Adapted from a previous post on this blog: YOU NEED TO ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS, THIS IS WHY

What Is The Best Way To Appreciate A Blogger Who Inspires You?

Thank You

There are many ways God speaks to us as His children. One of the ways is that He uses men and women to carry a specific message of hope, encouragement, inspiration or blessing to us.

I can honestly say that God has been using some blogs to speak to me. One of such blog is  CHRISTian poetry by Deborah Ann.

God has used Ann to bless and inspire me through her beautiful Christian poems. Every morning, Ann waits upon God by meditating on the Scripture until she is able to get a message out from it.

The message is then packaged and delivered to us on her blog in the form of rhymes. That way, she has written a good number of inspiring Bible-based poems which are always a blessing to read. Any ardent follower of her blog can attest to that.

One cool morning recently, as I read one of her posts May Peace Rule Your Heart, I found myself flowing in an appreciative poetic anointing. So I left her these comments:

Ann, I cannot thank you enough
For all the wonderful lessons
I have learnt from your poems
Which are always inspired blessings

Every morning you get from God
Poems that leaves us greatly inspired
Reading them makes me smile
Indeed, you are greatly admired.

Ann, may the grace of God
Overflow more to you
So that you will always for us
With beautiful poems come through

May our glorious God in Heaven
Give you good health and longevity
Fill you with strength, joy, peace
And fulfilment without brevity

Please keep the flag flying
Keep your light shining bright
And to the God who inspires you
Keep holding on to Him tight.

That was my humble way of appreciating a humble woman of God who has consistently demonstrated that we can tap into the wisdom of God when we fellowship with Him through His word.

 

When I penned the words of that poem into the comment section of the post, I wasn’t sure if she would like it or not. But thankfully she did like it!

Here was her comment after reading my comment:

WOW [Victor], you have blessed me so much with “your poem.” I was not expecting anything like that and have never received anything like it before.

Each day I pray for the Lord to inspire me and that He should send me something from time to time to quicken to my spirit that I am indeed doing this all for His glory and His purpose. Every now and then I get a word of encouragement from someone that confirms I am using my gift for Him. This not only confirms it but it solidifies this is w[h]ere God wants me.

Thank you again for giving me such a huge blessing. ~ Have a wonderful day with Jesus ~ Deborah Ann

Of course, Ann, I know you weren’t expecting it. But I had to do as I felt led to do. So I thank you for liking it. 

Your poems always make my day. And I pray that your gift will continue to used for the blessings of mankind and to the glory of God.

I decided to share my experience with your blog here so that my readers can be blessed and inspired too. I hope that one day you will publish a compilation of all your poems into a book for us to have.

Indeed, the Bible is right: he that blesses us is blessed. And when we bless others we are blessed too.

Is there anyone whose blog posts have greatly impacted your life? Why don’t you reach out and say a thank you to such one? You will make his/her day by doing so and also bring glory to God.

 

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What Happened to Trusting God in Your New Year Resolutions?

Every year people make new year resolutions. But they always end up not keeping most of them.

Instead of focusing on making new year resolutions, Christians should find out out what the will of God is for them and follow it. Please read more….

NOW THAT THE YEAR IS ENDING

NOW THAT THE YEAR IS ENDING

Written Victor Uyanwanne

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A few hours from now, we will all be bidding farewell to the year 2015 and embracing a brand new year 2016.

Just like anyone else, I know you have plenty of hopes and expectation for the coming new year. But before we finally draw the curtains on 2015, I thought we should have a few things to reflect on over the outgoing year.

I am sure there are milestones that took place in your life this year that you would not want to forget in a hurry. I for one, will remember 2015 as the year in which this blog was ‘accidentally’ started. If the feedback I get on the posts here are anything to go by, then I can gladly say that I have enough reasons to be grateful as the Sun sets on 2015.

For an average person, irrespective of the geographical location, the year 2015 presented them with opportunities for celebration or for mourning or for anything in between. No one of us is unfamiliar with such… At one point or another during the outgoing year, we all experienced the good, the bad and the ugly.

But whatever might have happened to us in 2015, let us put a positive construction to them.  That way we will not be depressed and we would be better prepared to face the challenges of the coming year. 

I said that because I am aware that not all things that happened in our lives in 2015 were all bright and beautiful. For instance, I lost my aged mum in the course of the year. So effectively I have became an orphan in this year 2015 (pushes back tears!).

I miss my mum; that need not be said. But rather than continue to wear a mournful look over her demise, I have decided to focus on the great life she lived. That way I am able to cope with the irreparable loss as I began the new journey of my life without her. (You may want to look at the Tribute To My Mother).

Likewise, the remaining hours of the outgoing year should afford you the opportunity to begin to refocus your gaze rather than having to regret over your not-so-fruitful chase in the course of the year.

Now that the year is ending, here is from me to you:

  • Find more reasons to be cheerful than you can find to be tearful.
  • Count your blessings not your loses.
  • Focus on your gains rather than on your pains.
  • Be thankful, not regretful.
  • Say ‘cheers’ rather than cry ‘jeers’.
  • Appreciate that one person that made a difference in your life rather than begrudge the multitude of people that may have disappointed you.
  • Thank God for the answered prayers rather than be bitter about the yet-to-be answered ones.
  • Think of the faces that smiled at you than the ones that frowned at you.
  • Celebrate the positive developments in your life rather than continue to regret over the negative ones.
  • Put a positive construction on the not-so-bright and beautiful things that happened to you in the outgoing year.
  • My point is: No matter how hard, find a reason to be grateful for the outgoing year 2015. That way, you will be bettered prepared to usher in the new year 2016.

Happy new year in advance.

IT IS CHRISTMAS

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It is Christmas
The day we celebrate the greatest birth
The birth of a Saviour
The Saviour sent from God
The God of mercy and love
The love that is true and unconditional
Unconditional because we didn’t deserve it

Yes undeserved, but freely given
Given to all who will receive in faith
Faith in the born Saviour we celebrate Today
Not just today, but
Everyday for the rest of our lives.

Merry Christmas to you.

WHEN YOU ARE CAUGHT CELEBRATING THE BIRTHDAY OF A STRANGER

WHEN YOU ARE CAUGHT CELEBRATING THE BIRTHDAY OF A STRANGER

Written By Victor Uyanwanne

Reason for the Season

 

Birthday celebration is a common phenomenon amongst people of all cultures around the world. Apart from a few exceptions, such as members of the Jehovah’s Witnesses, most people I know irrespective of religious or socio-political affiliations observe either their own birthdays or those of their loved ones etc.

When it comes to the issue of birthday celebration, Christians are no exceptions. Right now we are in that special season of the year when we celebrate the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ. That’s what Christmas is – remembering the birth of Christ!

From homes to churches, shopping malls and other public publics, one would have to be blind not to notice the effect of the special season. Colourful decorations adorn the landscapes, feeding the eyes with resplendent appearances. Everywhere we turn, we can hardly evade the Christmas frenzy as there are melodious Christmas tunes churned out by one form of music media or another.

Without doubt, we have all been caught up in the spirit of the season. But whether everybody acknowledges it or not, “Jesus is the reason for the season.”

I do not want to delve into the argument in some certain quarters as to whether it is good or not for Christians to celebrate Christmas. It suffices to say that it is not a sin to celebrate it and it is not a sin not to celebrate.

What matters is why we celebrate it or why we chose not to celebrate it. After all, the beauty of Christmas is not in the actual celebration but in the essence of the celebration.

I believe the essence of Christmas can be traced to the reason for the birth of Jesus Christ. Before Jesus was born, an angel had announced to Joseph that his wife “….will give birth to a son, and you [Joseph] are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

In fulfilling the mandate of saving His people (and the world in general) from Sin, Jesus would have to die. But would he die if he wasn’t born in the first place? We celebrate His birth at Christmas and his death and resurrection at Easter. To the average Christian, both celebrations are significant!

Jesus was born to die to save us from our sins. This is part of what we ought to bear in mind as we celebrate Christmas again this year. Through Jesus Christ, our relationship with the God has been restored.

 Those who celebrate Christmas without having a personal relationship with the Jesus Christ are celebrating the birthday of a Stranger. But the Stranger is standing by to be turned into a Friend of eternal significance.

Unfortunately, many people around the world celebrate Christmas without knowing the real essence of the celebration. Generally, most people recognize Christmas as:

  • A time to share love
  • A time to give gifts
  • A time to eat special meals
  • A time of visiting with family and friends
  • A time to rest
  • A time of shopping
  • A time to buy new cloths
  • A time to party
  • A time to do Carols
  • A time to hold other special events.
  • Etc

None of the activities listed above is bad in themselves. But they end up as meaningless activities if Christ is not the main focus.

How can one make Christ the centre of one’s celebration? One has to begin by establishing personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ!

Have a Christ-filled Chritmas
Have a Christ-filled Chritmas

In the Vanguard 2012  Christmas eve edition, Gabriel Osu wrote,

“In today’s day and time, it is easy to lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas. Amidst the delicious meals, sweet drinks, lovely songs & dances, beautiful friends & family members we would come across this season, let’s try not to forget about the child, born on a winter night so cold, whose bed was made only of hay & animal food; our lord Jesus Christ, who taught us all what real, genuine & unconditional love is. As we celebrate the birth of our saviour, let’s be human & kind enough to remember & show some love to those motherless babies, helpless orphans, hospital patients, prisoners, beggars & all those who are not fortunate enough to be actively involved in the celebration of the birth of our lord and saviour Jesus Christ.”

Christmas would be more meaningful if all the people celebrating had a personal relationship with Jesus Christ the celebrant.

In any birthday occasion, the pleasure is more if one knows the celebrant personally, than if you one is a  complete stranger to the celebrant. For instance, if my father was celebrating his birthday, it would mean more to me to join in the celebration than if the birthday party is for some man down town.

In the same vein, Christmas would be more meaningful if all the people celebrating had a personal relationship with Jesus Christ the celebrant. Those who celebrate Christmas without having a personal relationship with the Jesus Christ are celebrating the birthday of a Stranger. But the Stranger is standing by to be turned into a Friend of eternal significance.

To such people, Jesus is saying “”Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends” Revelation 3:20 NIV . My friend, this is the time to invite Jesus into your heart, if you haven’t already done so. Make this Christmas the most special you have ever had by becoming a friend of Jesus Christ the celebrant.

To all of us who already have a relationship with Jesus Christ, He is no longer a stranger to us. He is our Lord and Master, faithful Friend and Lover. Therefore let us bring glory to God as we have the opportunity once again to remember the birth of His dear Son. So let us:

  • Do everything in love;
  • Reflect Jesus in every way as we celebrate
  • Seek to bring other others into a personal relationship with Jesus.

Merry Christmas in advance.

 

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