4 Simple Benefits Of Having A Firm Belief In Your Blog’s Mission

Belief and blog mission

Why are you blogging? Is it simply to wile away time, or to make some impacts in the world?

Are you on a mission with your blog? How much do you believe in this mission? Do you even believe in it at all?

Hardly would you succeed at anything you do – including blogging – if you don’t believe in it.

In the world of blogging, you may have a few things going for you. There are also many odds that may be against you.

And except you have a firm belief in what you are doing, you would give up before you know it.

According to John Maxwell, “Only with a belief in yourself will you be able to reach your potential.” And having a belief in your mission will empower, encourage and enlarge you (paraphrased).

I believe that you can enjoy the same benefits – and more – if you would have confidence in what you are doing as a blogger.

With a belief in your blog’s mission you can achieve many benefits…

In this post, I will offer you four simple benefits you will enjoy if you have a firm belief in your blogging mission:

#1. You will be empowered

Having a firm belief in your blogging mission, will strengthen your ability to achieve the goals you have set for your blog.

Your first task is to specify your blog’s mission. Your second is to believe in it and then you have to run with it.

If you don’t believe in your blog’s mission, you will not be empowered to achieve it.

Lack of belief is one of the reasons people fail in life.

Similarly, many blogs have failed because their writers did not believe firmly in what they were doing. As a result they became incapacitated, felt hollow and gave up.

Empower yourself, show a firm belief in the reason you are blogging.

#2. You will be encouraged

In your blogging journey, you will face discouragement at some points. When that happens, quitting becomes a beckoning alternative.

But you don’t have to take that option, if you have a firm belief in your blog’s mission. You can overcome the challenges and achieve your goals…

You may not gain wide readership at the beginning. You will be negatively criticised to a breaking point.

Internet trolls will come after you in the comment section of your posts. You may even experience the so-called writer’s block…

And friends and family may not give you the kind of support you would expect.

If any of these things happen to you, the only thing that will encourage you not to take down the blog will be your firm belief in your blog’s mission.

Without that, you may have lost the battle before it got started. So my friend, be encouraged by believing strongly in your blog’s mission.

Your belief empowers you

#3. You will be enlarged

Having a firm belief in your blog’s mission has a way of enlarging you.

By that I don’t mean that your body mass will increase. But that it will enable you to accomplish more.

There are many possibilities that may never be unlocked to you if you are not in your mind fully committed to your blog’s mission.

Belief in your blog and explore the opportunities it brings. That’s one way you grow and enlarge.

Sooner or later, you would find yourself accomplishing things you once thought impossible.

#4. Your expectations will be deepened.

If your blog has a purpose you so much believe in, it will rub off on your expectations for the blog.

Don’t run a blog without a propose. It doesn’t make sense to do so.

For example, some people say they started their blog because they just wanted to write, not caring whether someone reads it or not. I am not like that and I hope you are not too.

I am not saying starting a blog as a writing outlet is not okay. I am saying you should expect to be be read as well.

If you belief you have something to offer on your blog, then it is normal to expect people to discover your blog, read it and give you feedback.

A good blog without readers is like a beautiful girl in the dark: no one knows she is there.

I cannot begin to explain here what you should expect in your blog. Let your heart and your blog mission guide you.

What I can assure you is that the more confidence you have in what you are doing, the more you are psychologically empowered and encouraged to continue doing it…

The more you grow and enlarge in the process, the more your expectations are deepened. And hopefully the more positive results you will achieve.


Having a belief in your blog’s mission will help you accomplish more. It will empower you, encourage you, enlarge you and even deepen your expectations.

In what other ways has your belief in your blog’s mission been of help to you?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

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On Truth And What You Believe

Belief and morality

One of the eternal words that Jesus ever uttered includes this one: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (John 8:32).

Knowing the truth is the way to true freedom. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.”

But first, here is the question:

What is the truth?

“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me” John 14:6.

There goes another audacious claim of Jesus’:

  • He is the Way;
  • He is the Truth;
  • He is the Life.

With all these assertions, was Jesus just posturing or He is who He claims to be? I choose to believe the latter.

Therefore:

  • As Jesus is the Way, if you are following anyone other than Jesus alone, you are on the wrong path;
  • As Jesus is the Truth, if you have not believed Jesus as the full revelation of God’s truth to mankind, you have believed wrongly;
  • As Jesus is the Life, you will not have eternal life except you receive the life that only Jesus offers.

I know these are the kinds of statements that make some people mad. But Jesus did not offer any apologies when He made those audacious claims, neither would I.

a) Jesus is the Truth

First and foremost, truth is a person; Jesus is the Truth and He is unchanging…

So He can be trusted. You accept the truth to your eternal benefits and you reject it to your eternal peril.

There can be no meaningful “commitment to the authority of God” without a firm personal acceptance of Jesus Christ as the Truth.

b) The word of God is truth.

Jesus is the Word and the Word is truth, absolute truth. So the question of relative truth doesn’t apply…

All contemplations of truth must be hinged on God (through Jesus) and on His Word. You rise or fall to the truth you receive or reject.

That brings us to the question of morality.

The Standard for our morality

The word of God is truth. Therefore, more than anything else, the word of God must be the standard for our lives and the basis of our morality.

More than anything else, our morality should be based on what God thinks. Everything else is sinking sand…

But the choice is ours whether to base our morality on God’s thinking or not.

Our world today gives us three options for how to discover truth: We can choose to base our morality on what we think, on what other people think, or on what God thinks. We really have no other options. Our choice will dictate how we live, how we love, and, someday, how we die. But it’s our choice. What will you choose? – Rick Warren, in the devotional article, “You can know the truth by looking at God.”

The best foundation for our morality should be on God’s truth. Atheists may think otherwise, but I reckon that any question on morality cannot but have God in the picture.

Without God, the source of truth, there can be no a proper sense of right or wrong.

Any philosophy of life not backed by the word of God, irrespective of whoever might have propounded it, cannot be the truth.

The absolute truth as we should know it is the word of God only; whether in part or as a whole, the word of God is truth. I didn’t say so, Jesus did.

Jesus once prayed for His disciples, “Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth” (John 17:17, emphasis mine).

Yes, the word of God is truth!

But there is a tragedy

Instead of choosing to knowing and living by the truth of God’s word, many people today have chosen to embrace some philosophies that are now destroying the moral fabric of the society.

Many people now believe what they want to believe. And feel they can live their lives how they want it, with or little considerations for the issues of morality.

Writing along that line in a recent devotional article, author of the best-seller The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren, reminds us that What You Believe Shapes Your Life.

As he puts it, “What you believe determines your behavior. Your behavior then determines what you become, and that has a direct effect on the direction of your life.”

So you see why the behaviour of the world is going haywire? They have rejected the truth, living a lie and heading in godless directions.

If you think godless thoughts, you will believe godless things and make godless choices!

Knowing Jesus and accepting God’s word as the truth will help shapen correctly what you believe and how you live.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Being A Loving Leader Doesn’t Mean You Shouldn’t Hold Your Team Accountable

Holding your team accountable

If you are leading anything of significance then you will regularly run into many uncertainties, obstacles, and failures. And it is the way you deal with these situations, how you handle things going wrong, that truly defines your leadership.”

Those were the words of Paul Hughes in the post, “Your leadership is defined by how you handle things going wrong.”

Paul is someone who believes that leadership should be founded on love.

According to him, “When a culture has its foundation in love, then it is safe to fail. People start to come out of their comfort zones because they know that even if they make a mistake they are still going to be valued. Instead of being blamed, they know they will be supported and assisted to grow.”

What that means in a way is that a leader who loves his or her team will not take pleasure in dishing out blames to the team if failure occurs along the line; neither will he or she be judgemental.

Rather the leader focuses “…on discovering and truly understanding the cause of the failure, while at the same time being attuned to the feelings of the people involved.”

Paul calls that the Empathetic Discovery Approach. The principle requires that in any situation of failure, you the leader should build shared understanding of the root-cause of the problem through exploration conversations without demoralising any member of your team.

If you jump into conclusions without this empathetic exploration, you are more likely to get your team feeling hurt and getting blamed. And as you know, no one enjoys being blamed all the time.

I agreed with that position when I read it in the original post. But I was also left with the following questions:

Does this approach (of focusing on the root-cause of failure and having respect for the team members’ feelings) preclude a leader from holding people accountable for their actions?

Or is this another way of saying, “Ask what went wrong, not who was wrong?”

Leadership and accountability
Paul Hughes-LoveYourTeam

Here was Paul’s response to that question. (I have his permission to reproduce it here):

This approach doesn’t preclude a leader from holding people accountable for their actions. In fact, it is the opposite.

If you don’t hold people accountable then you aren’t really being a loving leader.

To give an analogy of how the approach I’m describing fits in with accountability, imagine the situation when someone is speeding in their car and a police officer pulls them over.

There is a consequence for exceeding the speed limit, which is getting fined. It is the police officer’s duty to issue that fine.

But the police officer has a decision to make about how they are going to perceive the speeding driver.

One approach is to make an assumption that the driver doesn’t care about the road laws, and then to look down on the driver for this lack of care.

Another approach is to hold back from jumping to conclusions or forming a judgement.

I guarantee that the driver will know the difference, even if the police officer did not say anything. They would sense in a lot of subtle ways whether the officer was holding that judgement or not.

Now, the officer could just issue the fine and walk away. And there is nothing wrong with that.

But think about the possibilities of approaching the situation from a standpoint of unconditional love.

The police officer might want to do the best they can to help make the chance of speeding lower in future, to protect people from preventable accidents. In his case, the loving officer would be navigating the table in my article.

The system first. What if it turns out that the speed signs had fallen down and it was impossible for drivers to know the speed limit.

If this turned out to be the case, the officer would want to arrange for the signs to be fixed to help all drivers.

But let’s say the speed signs were fine. What caused the driver to be speeding?

May be they were stressed out with many different things, and weren’t concentrating while driving.

The loving officer could listen and empathise with this, while at the same time still giving the person the fine. And who knows, maybe just taking the time to listen and to offer an encouraging word letting the person know there is hope amidst their many problems, ends up being a moment that really changes that person.

And then maybe that person is able to sort out some challenges they have that help them in many ways, only one of which is not getting distracted while driving and causing them to speed.

How much better of an outcome is this than just the person stopping speeding out of fear that they’ll get another ticket?

Or let’s say it turns out that the driver really doesn’t care and is disrespectful to the officer. At that point the officer obviously still gives them the fine, which is the consequence of their behaviour. But the officer still has a choice whether to love the person.

The unloving path is to hold the innate worth of the person lower because of the attitude they expressed. Following that path, what is the chance of this interaction actually helping that person?

It’s most likely going to re-enforce the poor attitude they have.

But on the other hand, what if the officer was loving? In this case they would not diminish the worth of the person. They would feel sorry for person, knowing the expressed attitude will lead to pain for them and others.

They would look the person in the eye, and out of genuine love say something like, “I really don’t want to see you get hurt or others get hurt. I need to give you this fine today because you have broken the law and done something dangerous. But I truly hope you value yourself as much as I value you, and stop speeding”.

Now the person may snarl and dismiss the comment. But you never know what kind of seed that moment of genuine unconditional love will plant.

The authenticity of that interaction could play some small part in really helping that person change. And even if that is only the remotest of possibilities, then it is worth it.

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What do you think?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

4 Admirable Things In One Of The Most Smiling Faces on Instagram

The most smiling face on Instagram

Linda Ikeji is one of the few Nigerian celebrities I follow on Instagram. In my own reckoning, she is one of the most smiling faces on Instagram.

For those who don’t know her, Linda is Nigeria’s most successful blogger by all ramifications.

According to some sources, her blog lindaikejisblog dot com is one of the most visited sites in Nigeria. And that’s no mean achievement.

From writing the blog as a hobby to becoming a strong media entrepreneur, Linda has broken many barriers and blazed the trails for many aspiring bloggers in the country and in Africa as a whole.

This post is not about her blog but about the woman behind it, especially about her ever smiling face on Instagram.

I will be upfront in informing you that I have never met Linda in person. Just like many other celebrities like her, all I know about her are things she shared about herself and from other media sources as well.

That is to say that there are many things I don’t know about her and there are many things about her I would never know.

What then is my interest about her in this post? I will answer that question in a few minutes…

Ever since I began following Linda on Instagram, there have been many things about her that I have found to be very admirable. Some of those things are worth-sharing and that my friend is the reason for this post.

Four admirable things about Linda Ikeji’s face on Instagram:

1. Linda’s posts are always inspiring.

Linda always posts her personal pictures on her Instagram page (that’s the purpose of the platform in the first place). But the notes and the anecdotes on many of her posts there are always very inspirational and full of lessons, especially for young people who want to be successful.

Without being carried away by her fashion sense or her expensive cars which she proudly displays in her posts, you will definitely learn something if you would put some thoughts to the notes that accompany her picture posts.

She encourages her followers to follow their passion, work hard and be focused.

I know firsthand the difference between reading a Linda Ikeji’s post on Instagram compared to those of a few other Nigerian celebrities on Instagram or other social media platforms.

Apart from Linda’s, another celebrity I like seeing/reading his Instagram post is Ali Baba, who is widely acclaimed as Nigeria’s king of comedy. His posts too are always filled with lessons for his teeming followers (May be I will write about that some day as well).

Back to Linda Ikeji.

2. Linda comes across to me as a humble person.

Linda is said to be a self-made multi-millionaire but I can’t say she is proud and pompous like some other celebrity millionaires on the block.

I have heard her say thinks that bespeak humility.

Like I already stated, I don’t know Linda in person. But as a distant observer of hers, I have many reasons to believe that she is more homely and more humble than some of her critics may want to admit.

Although, sometimes, she displays a facade that portrays her as proud, in the end her humility always shines through. So I tend not to believe when I hear some people say she is very arrogant.

The social media is replete with huge evidence to show that there are more arrogant Nigerian celebrities on the platform than there are humble ones. To me, Linda is remarkably different from them all.

You may disagree with me if you like, but don’t forget that, just like you, I am entitled to my own opinion.

3. Linda wears a genuine smile alot.

You can’t be a fan of Linda’s on Instagram without noticing her infectious smiles most of the time. I always see her smile in all her pictures and I like it alot.

A peep into some of her throwback pictures did not fail to reveal that this blogging queen has been smiling from way back, even before she became rich and famous.

Therefore, one can safely conclude that her ever-smiling face as we see on Instagram today is no fluke. It is a genuine part of her.

I can recall one time I didn’t see her smile in one of her pictures and I had to ask, “Whatever happened to the smiles we are used to?”

Although I didn’t get an answer (I understand she doesn’t have to respond to me), I wanted to pass the message across to her that she should keep on smiling. It is one of the reasons some of us admire her.

Some of my friends are aware that I follow Linda on Instagram.(I had remarked that I like the fact that she always wears a beautiful smile on her face).

One of them was quick to say, “Victor, with the kind of millions (of Naira) Linda has, any woman can’t but smile.”

Really?

I didn’t want to dispute so much but I quickly pointed out, “How come not every woman with millions out there are smiling like her?” End of discussion!

4. Linda believes in God

In an age when it has become acceptable to have celebrities who openly deny the existence of God, we still find a few exceptions. Linda Ikeji is one of such.

I do not know the depth of her relationship with God. But as a follower of hers on Instagram, I have observed that she always expresses her faith in God in her posts.

She often recognises that it was God who has made it possible for her to achieve fame and fortune beyond her imaginations.

Linda has shown that she is wise by acknowledging the existence and help of God in her life.

Youknow, as the Bible says, “A fool says in his heart there is no God. “In other words, only fools say God doesn’t exist.

In conclusion,

There are many things about Linda Ikeji that would be so admirable to anyone who follows her on Instagram as I do. A post like this is definitely not enough to cover everything.

But as far as I am concerned, Linda would top the list of Instagram’s most smiling celebrity faces in Nigeria, and all I can say to her, is please keep the flag flying.

What do you admire most in some faces on Instagram?

Pictures Credit: Linda Ikeji’s official Instagram handle.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Sad Truth: Many People Who Should Be Reading Your Blog Don’t Even Know It Exists

Why do you have a blog? Do you want to be read far and wide?

How visible is your blog?

I’m sorry to tell you that many people who should be reading your blog are not even aware that it exists in the the first place!

Well, let me clarify that this post is not for those who claim that they don’t care whether someone reads their blogs or not.

If that includes you, I think you should move on to another post right now, because there is no use you continue reading this piece.

But if you think the world should read your blog, because you have something valuable to share, I think it is worth it for you to find out how more and more people can discover yourself blog to read it.

A few times I have stumbled on some blogs with great contents (by my own reckoning that is) but with very few readers or followers.

Why is that so? I believe many people are not yet aware that such a fantastic blog exists.

Granted, some of those blogs are new on the block hence I concede that it will take some time for them to gain due popularity.

What about those blogs that have been existing for a while, have great content but not much viewership? I would say there must be something missing…

It is one thing to have a blog that publishes great contents and another thing to have people visiting the blog consistently. The good part is that the two are not mutually exclusive.

Good content should attract great readership. I wish it’s that simple!

If your blog’s content is great, then readers should be swarming in. But is that your reality?

Let’s face it, your blog is just a tiny part of the hundreds of millions of blogs existing on the blogosphere and many more millions of posts churned out week in week out.

In fact, within the next 24 hours after you have read this post, another fifty thousand new blogs would have been created around the world and over two million new posts published.

So my friend, you see, it will take some efforts on your part for your blog to be discovered, read and followed. Like me, I believe you would want your blog to have visibility.

Or don’t you want your blog to be noticed?

Four ways to make your blog noticeable

1. Is your blog private or public?

The first advice I would give you here is for you to index your blog as “public.” By so doing, it will be discoverable when people do word searches on search engines such as Google.

Only those people who don’t want their blogs to be read by just anyone should be indexed “private.” That way, their blogs will not show up in Google searches, but will be available to only those they choose to invite in.

2. Write great contents

I have heard it said over and over again that when it comes to gaining traction for your blog, content is king. The argument is that if your posts are relevant and helpful to your readers, they will keep coming back for more.

I am not saying it is foolproof but it helps to have great contents on your blog.

Generally, people are searching for solutions to something. Your post might as well be the ‘miracle meal’ that satisfies their hunger.

Don’t forget that people desire to live happier. They want to live healthier. And they want to live wealthier…

Chances are that if your content consistently provides answers in any of the three areas, more and more people will be interested in your blog.

3. Promote your posts on social media

After you have published that fantastic post on your blog, don’t call it a day yet; spread the word around about your new post.

We are in the age of social media. Take a good advantage of it to promote (I don’t want to say ‘advertise’) your posts.

Just “Share your work with the world through Facebook, Twitter, and other social networks” is the best advice in this regard.

That way you will make your article available to a wider audience. Sooner or later those who so reads your article on social networks will follow you home to your blog.

You don’t have to employ all of the social media platforms out there to be able to achieve this. One or two is enough.

In my own case, Facebook and Twitter have been useful in helping people discover this blog.

With the help of Publicize, I have linked my WordPress blog to my Facebook and Twitter Accounts.

Any post I publish on the blog is automatically publicised through the two social media handles for my followers to see, read and possibly share with their own followers. You can do the same if you have not already done so.

4. Reach out to other blogs

This is about getting out of your comfort zone and connecting with other bloggers; engaging with the blogging community.

If you want your blog to be noticed, you cannot afford to stay in your cozy corner of WordPress and expect it to happen just like that. You have to deliberately interact with other blogs.

There are many ways you can achieve that: visit and read other blogs, like the posts, share a comment, link to other posts, follow other blogs you like, join a blogging community. Guest post.

When you do any or all of the above, you leave a link-trail through which people may be ‘lured’ to your blog.

If you do not make any deliberate effort to promote the posts on your blog, chances are that not everyone who should be reading your blog would be able to find it.

How do you get your blog noticed? Leave a comment.

 
©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle: 4 Interesting Things About The Royal Wedding

Prince Harry And Meghan Markle - at the altar

In an epoch-making ceremony, Prince Harry took his beautiful bride, Meghan Markle, to the altar to be his lawfully wedded wife.

The whole world stood at attention as the graceful royal event took place at St. George’s Chapel, Windsor Castle in London.

In many ways, the marriage between the two lovebirds has been described as a break from the norm; a royal wedding with a difference.

In this post I will talk about 4 interesting things about the couple.

Royal wedding

4 Interesting Things About The Royal Wedding Between Prince Harry And Meghan Markle

1. The couple loves each other very much.

The union between Price Harry and Meghan Markle is not a loveless union in any way as some royal marriages in the past might have been.

This one is a special marriage between two special people that specially love each other against all odds.

The love of the couple shone through every inch of the wedding ceremony. Meghan was particularly full of smiles as she pledged her marriage love and commitment to Prince Harry.

The sparks of love in her eyes were indescribable. And Prince Harry was like, “You look amazing. And I am so lucky to have you.”

I am sure the elegant Megan felt the same way too; they were visibly happy throughout the ceremony.

This couple followed their hearts, without minding what the world around them would think. They fell in love and stayed in love, standing before the Lord to be joined man and wife in holy matrimony.

From the year of our Lord 2016 when they reportedly first met each other, to this year 2018 when they walked down the isle, their love for each other stood strong, overcame many negative criticisms that arose against the royal union along the line.

The royal wedding

2. The couple met through a blind date.

It was reported in the media that Prince Harry met Megan Markle through a blind date orchestrated by a mutual friend of theirs.

Really?

Yes! Their first time meeting with each other was through a blind date.

Meghan confirmed it when she confessed in a BBC interview that the blind date… (Wait for it)… “was a set-up.”

Now we can all see the result; that “set-up’ was definitely a blind date with a difference; It worked out gradually but surely, leading to a grand royal union.

Before now, one would have thought that this kind of blind date only happens in movies. But here we are celebrating the strong love that developed from a blind date to friendship and then to marriage into royalty.

With this development, it looks like the next (even the present) generation of young people now have a veritable example of a blind date that worked for them to imitate.

But they should remember that they are not Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.

Interracial marriage

3. Welcome the Biracial royal bride

As far as I know, never in the history of the British monarchy has there been a biracial bride amongst the wives of the men of their royalties. But with Meghan Markle coming into the fold, as wife of Prince Harry, a great history has been made.

In the words of Katie O’Malley, “…a mixed race woman has married into one of the whitest institutions in the UK…”

This is reality my friend!

It means that Prince Harry and Meghan have chatted a new course for mankind in matters of race relations on earth – in an unprecedented way.

As one media analyst pointed out, “Ten years ago, this would have been impossible.”

Yes, a decade ago, a marriage between a British royalty and a biracial woman wouldn’t have been possible. But it is now… And that’s progress for us humans!

When the first man landed on the Moon, it was dubbed, “one small step for a man but one giant leap for mankind.”

In the same vein, Prince Harry’s marriage to a biracial Meghan could be seen as a giant leap forward for mankind in the history of interracial relationships, not only in Britain but in many places around the world.

Meghan has now moved from being an American actress to Britain to being a royal bride with a difference.

And the good part is that many people love and adore her, calling her and Harry, “a perfect couple.”

Everyone that matters, especially Harry’s dad, Prince Charles and his grand mum, her royal majesty, Queen of England, Queen Elizabeth II, understandably approved of the union.

This is not to say that the couple didn’t initially face some persecutions from some sections of the public because of Megan’s racial background.

They did, but they overcame. Thanks to Prince Harry who stood firmly behind his gorgeous lady.

Royal wedding

4. The Divorcee Question

When in 2017 Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement, some questions arose about her previous relationships.

As it turned out, Meghan had been married before but the marriage did not work out between her and her then spouse. We now know the name of her ex husband as Trevor Engelson, a Hollywood television and film producer.

As at the time she met Prince Harry, Meghan was already officially divorced. But the ‘divorcee’ tag on Meghan did not dissuade Harry from marrying her.

In any case, Meghan’s failed marriage to Engelson is now in the past where it belongs. A new marriage chapter has now been opened between Prince Harry and her, not only as husband and wife but also as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex.

What is your take on the royal wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markle?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Don’t Use God As An Excuse For Laziness

Ministers and secular jobs

There is an error that is gradually becoming endemic in our days.

I have seen young energetic men become lazy, laid-back, lethargic and beggarly all in the guise of pursuing God or working for God (Ministry).

Those that are married lean on their wives’ income as sole income and not complementary income to support what they bring.

The ones that are not married seek ladies with steady flow of income to hook up to thereby abusing God’s order.

Some others want their wives to stop working and take care of their children without showing them practically how they intend to provide for their homes.

This laziness has led many preachers to sell their soul by engaging in many unspeakable things to make endsmeet. They are deluded by a voice supposedly from God telling them not to work.

My concern is simple; if God tells you not to work, be sure God’s provision will always be ahead of your needs.

Paul in his missionary journey worked with his hands when there was no provision. And where there was provision, he devoted the entire time in preaching the word of God.

My heart reaches out to women that are saddled with so much burden to ensure their family have the basic needs (food, shelter, clothing and basic-education).

With all these burden, many ‘MOGs’ [Men Of God] expect their wives to perform their nuptial duties at night as and when due. Failure to do so due to fatigue has been used as an excuse for extra-marital affairs.

Let us grow up and revert to the divine order where husbands provide for their homes and wives support.

Full-time ministry is to do the work of God fully with your heart, might and strength and that is also the first commandment. This is God’s minimum requirement for all Believers.

It doesn’t hinder any Man of God from working with their hands pending when their congregation is financially solvent enough to accommodate their financial burdens.

Get this fact straight, dust your certificate, get a skill and start working.

Your heart is with God even at work. Become productive, unburden your wives and lean solely on God.

Shalom!

Jude Agbontaen


Jude recently posted this article on his Facebook page. I obtained his permission to share it with you here on this blog.

You may follow Jude directly via his Facebook handle for more insightful posts.


Question: Should young gospel ministers do other jobs to earn a living? What is your view?

A Man of God Should Bear Good Fruits

The imperatives of bearing good fruit

A man of God will bear good fruits. He is not a man of God if he doesn’t!

In my Nigeria where I live, just like in many places around the world, I have realised that many people are quick to be called “men of God.” But the question is, “are all of them truly men of God?”

What I have also come to realise is that some of those so-called men of God hardly live up to that identity.

I am not saying this because I am judging them. But rather because, it can be seen that many of them are not conducting themselves in ways that bring glory to God.

If someone is a man of God, he should not say and do things that are attributes of men of satan.

How can you be a man of God and your lifestyle has no regard for the word of God?

  • A man of God should conduct himself in obedience to God.
  • A man called of God should seek to please God more than men.
  • A man of God should bear fruits that bring glory to God.

Otherwise, it gives room for avoidable doubts.

The sad truth is that many people who claim to be men of God are really not what they claim. And from such people, we should be wary.

Remember the warning Jesus handed us in Matthew chapter 7:

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.

Beware of fake men of God.

The above advice is as relevant today it was when it was given over two thousand years ago. It will be to your own peril to neglect it.

Many people who claim to be prophets are ravenous wolves in sheep clothing. But as Jesus hinted us, “we [will] know them by their fruits.”

A man of God will bear good fruits. He is not a man of God if he consistently bears bad fruits.

One source quoted the late American evangelist, Billy Graham to have said:

“A Man of God is one who depends on the Grace of God, preaches the Word of God, stays in the Will of God, fulfils the Purposes of God, respects the Servants of God, edifies the Family of God, is filled with the Spirit of God, devotes himself to the Ministry of God, loves the Word of God, and lives for the Kingdom of God!”

What’s your own idea of a man of God?

 

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Birthday Reflections…

Birthday reflections
Victor flanked by colleagues at work on his birthday in 2017

Yes, it is my birthday again
I wish I’m without any stain

It comes once in every 365 days.
I wish I’ve improved in 1,000 ways.

Yes it has been a year of many gains.
But they didn’t come without any pains.

Another day to mark a personal new year.
But not that there hasn’t been a drop of tear.

Not every day of the year has been so wonderful.
But I have many reasons to be very thankful.

It’s been a year full of blessings.
And also one full of many lessons.

I pray that as my days on earth increase.
May my happiness in life never decrease.

There’s a reason I’m still alive, I suppose.
Yes, I’m here to fulfill a divine purpose.

I will always go the way my Lord chooses
Even when it is not all a bed full of roses.

Either now on in the many years ahead.
I will ever trust in the One who is my Head.

Please join me with one accord.
As I lift all the praises to God.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

What Drives Traffic To Your Blog Or Where Do Most People View Your Blog From?

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What drives traffic to your blog? Any idea how many readers landed on your site from search engines word searches?

Have you figured out which country most of your blog traffic come from?

Where do most people access your blog from? Do you have more or less viewers from within your geographical location or from abroad?

You may be surprised to find out that people are viewing your blog from many countries far away from where you are.

If you are interested in knowing more about this, you will have to take a good look at your blog stats page. And that is not a bad thing to do provided you approach it without being so emotionally attached to it.

WordPress support explains that “Your stats page includes a bunch of nifty graphs, charts, and lists that show you how many visits your site gets, what posts and pages are the most popular ones, and much more.”

Why don’t you take some few minutes to explore your site’s stats page? You will find some interesting results.

Just like many other parts of your wordpress site, the navigation of the stats page is menu-driven so it is not difficult to explore at all.

I’m aware that many business blogs take their blogs’ analytics very seriously. But even if yours is a personal blog, it doesn’t stop you from taking a little peep into your blog’s stats.

In this post, we are focusing on just the number of blog views by highlighting two broad ways you can review the sources of readers to your blog.

However, bear in mind that I am not an expert in blog analytics. This post is based entirely on the observations made on this blog.

You may use the comment section to share your own experience if it is different from what I am sharing here.

2 Broad Ways To Analyse Your Blog’s Traffic

Your blog’s traffic can be analysed in terms of the total number of “views by country” or in terms of the total number of “views by referrer.”

We will now take a deeper look at each of the two:

1. Analysis in terms of geographical Location

Do you have any idea in which country most readers access your blog from? You can know it by simply analysing your blog views by country.

It is important you know your blogs views by country because it will help you in some ways. If you are not sure how, this post will show you something about that.

One surprising thing I found from analying this blog’s view by country was that although I write this blog from Nigeria, majority of the people who view it are based in the United States.

I was conscious of that when I wrote the post, When Will Americans Stop Disrespecting Their President?

Though, I was initially reluctant to publish that post, the realisation that most of my readers live in America made me overcome the initial inertia.

Second on the list is Nigeria, my country of birth and residence. Interestingly, Australia which used to occupy the second position has now been displaced to the third.

Since the year 2018 began, over 5,000 people have viewed this blog from around a hundred different countries of the world. (I know it because I counted).

But interestingly, more than 65% of the views came from within the US alone.

Don’t you think it makes great sense for you to know where majority of your readers are?

As an example, you can take a look at the following record showing the top eight countries from which this blog has been viewed from January 2018 to date:

Blog stats on victorscorner

2. Analysis in terms of Referrers

How do people get to discover your blog? What are the sources of traffic to your blog?

Apart from the ones that came through mouth to mouth recommendations, have you bothered to check your blog stats to see your highest source of referrer?

There are many sources of referrals to your blog – search engines (Google, Yahoo, Bing), WordPress Readers, other blogs or sites, social media (Facebook, Twitter) etc. One of these will top the list as your main referrer.

For instance, from the first quarter of this year till now, here is the summary of how readers were referred to this blog:

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As can be seen in the above summary, most of the people who viewed this blog from the beginning of the year till now were referred here by search engines. And this is consistent with observations in the previous years too.

In a way, I see it as a good thing because it points to the fact that my posts show up when people do specific word searches on the internet.

Some people have suggested that SEO (Search Engine Optimisation) helps a lot in this regard. They may be right but I have not fully grasped how that works…

I simply write my posts as the words flow from my mind to the blog page, hoping that they provide answers to someone’s questions out there.

It is my belief that knowing a bit about your blog’s stats with respect to traffic referrers to your blog or where most people view your blog from will improve your total blogging experience.

Is it Google or social media that drives most traffic to your blog?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Not Everyone…

Not Everyone, a poem by Victor Uyanwanne

Not every one will love you the way you are.
But do not be depressed by thinking no one loves you at all.

Not every man will treat you nicely and kindly.
But make not the mistake of assuming all men are beasts.

Not every one will have unflinching faith in you.
But do yourself a favour, never fail to believe in you.

Not everyone will truly understand you.
But never you take for granted those who do.

Not everyone will know where the shoe pinches.
Because not everyone has been in your shoes.

Not everyone will show you how they made it in life.
But when you make it, be kind to show the way to others.

Not everyone will celebrate you and your dreams.
But when your dreams come through, you will be celebrated.

Not everyone will be there when you need them.
But not everyone who isn’t there is against you.

Not everyone around you will do the right things.
But always do things right whomever you are around.

Not everyone believe there is God.
But you know that’s a sure sign of foolishness.

Not everyone will do whatever you love.
But that doesn’t stop you from loving everyone.

Not everyone can please you all the time.
They’re just like you, you can’t please everyone every time.

Not everyone will smile at you every time.
But it may not mean they are not happy with you.

Not everyone will be grateful for your help.
But never fail to show gratitude to whomever helps you.

Not everyone will forgive all your offences.
But always forgive everyone who offends you.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Words Of Commendation From My English Teacher From Way Back

Friendship with your teacher

Every once in a while we are able to remember those who positively impacted our lives in one way or another. The last weekend afforded me such an opportunity, and it is my pleasure to share the story with you in this post.

I returned from Church last Sunday feeling very physically exhausted and I decided to take a little nap on my bed. As usual my smart phone was handy, so in the interim I began to surf through my messages and social media notifications.

In the process, I came across one message from Facebook informing me that, “Victor, you and G are celebrating one year of friendship on Facebook.”

Just like any other Facebook user, I know this type of message is a common one. But this very one meant a lot to me because the G in question is someone I have held in very high esteem ever since I was a teenager.

“…One year of friendship”?

Really?

I had chuckled as I read the message because although I recently reconnected with this awesome person via Facebook, we had known each other for more than two decades – long before Mark Z ever thought of gifting the world with his pervading social media platform.

Apart from once being a spiritual mentor to me way back in Secondary school, He was my English teacher at some points too. Needless to say, I owe a lot to him and to other people like him for the good foundation they laid for me while learning English as a second language.

For those of you who don’t know, English is the official language in Nigeria my home country. (Thanks to Britain, once our colonial master). But we usually learn it as a second language, after our mother tongue. And now it is a compulsory subject in both primary and secondary schools across the nation.

Teacher-Student relationship

So this friendship notification from Facebook made me share the following message on my Facebook wall in celebrating the English Teacher from way back that so much impacted my life. (I’m sure he doesn’t mind my mentioning his name):

I celebrate you sir, Geoff Uti. You were an English Teacher like no other, to me. There is no doubt that I drew inspiration from both your spoken and written English.

Wherever you are right now, I’m giving you a shout out. Today, Facebook notice says we are celebrating one year as friends. But I will let the world know that I have known you for almost 3 decades. God bless you sir. May your legacies remain forever.

What happened next after I wrote the above words on my FB wall gave me the reason to share this post with you.

Although I did not expect it, I was pleasantly surprised to see a comment or response from this rare teacher. I felt humbled, or I should say honoured, by his words of commendation so I decided to share them with you here as well:

Friendship they say is not proximity but trust and fulfilment. Going back nostalgic to the days of yore when you exuded great intelligence and ingenuity academically, one is forced today to let the world know that you are a rare gift to your generation.

A figure par excellence in whom I am always well pleased and of whom the school was proud of, you are one of the rewards of the profession I am proud to belong.

A product that has today put me on the globe even when I would not have been worth it without the likes of you. You have remained a goal-getter and the sky is your stepping stone.

Your dearness to me will flourish the more as our friendship is beyond that of Teacher- Student but to father-son relationship.

All I could say after reading those sweet words was ‘wow.’ Thank you sir for this honour!

Do you have any teacher who you would never forget for the impact he made on you? Any comments?

©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

10 Easy Ways to Appreciate Your Favourite Blogger

Show a blogger some love

Many people simply walk away after reading their favourite blogs, without giving any feedback to the author of the blog.

By so doing, they miss the inherent opportunities to appreciate or encourage the blogger to keep on writing.

If you have not been doing so, you should learn appropriate ways of giving appropriate feedback or appreciation to the blogger you like. Consider it your own little way to show the blogger some love.

In this post, I will suggest:

10 Simple Ways to Appreciate Your Favourite Blogger

1. When you read a post and you like it, hit the ‘like’ button below the post, share it with your friends on your social media handles. Leave a comment for the author or send him or her an email to let them know how good you felt about the post. Reblog it and link to it in your own posts.

Remember: Treat other bloggers the way you want to be treated. The saying that “What goes around comes around,” applies in blogging too.

2. If you don’t like a post or you disagree with the author’s position, don’t walk away just yet; leave him or her a comment or send an email expressing your reservations or why you disagree with the post.

Caution: Be nice about it or else walk away quietly. Inconstructive criticisms are not easy pills for anyone to swallow.

3. If you have better insight on the issue on hand than the author displayed in a post, feel free to offer such insights or perspectives via the comment section of the post or through an email.

Advice: Be humble about it, because even you don’t know everything! We learn from one another to play the game better.

Blog comments

4. If you notice some fundamental errors in someone else’s post or you have some suggestions for improvement, do the writer (and the blogging world) a favour by informing him or her via an email or private chat. (Some bloggers, including yours truly, would not mind you using the comment section of the post to register your suggestions).

Caution: Please give your corrections and/or suggestions in love, no better way around it.

5. If you have an experience that validates the author’s position in a post you have read, be magnanimous enough to share it in the comment section so that other readers can learn from it too.

Advice: If protecting your privacy is of concern to you, you can share the experience anonymously.

6. If you have a blog that you read and you really love it so much, promote the blog on your own blog or on your other social media handles.

Reason: There is love in sharing and good news is for sharing. Assist other people to discover your favourite blog and follow it so that they too can be as well.

7. If you feel a sense of gratitude to a blogger for being a blessing to you, send him a “thank you” card or write a post or poem about it. That was what inspired my post on  the best way to appreciate a blogger who blesses you.

Remember: It feels good to be appreciated. Don’t you know that by experience?

10 ways to show a blogger some love

8. A blogger may also be appreciated or feel loved if you nominate them for blogging awards – online or terrestrial. Now you know better!

Caution: Not all bloggers will accept award nominations. So do your findings first before you nominate someone.

9. Invite the bloggers you love to speaking engagements in your community or around you. What some of this bloggers write online they can also present or speak about physically.

Advice: Be convinced about what the blogger has to offer before you give him or her a speaking invitation or else you may feel disappointed.

10. I didn’t want to add this one. But I feel like this post will not be complete without it: You may give financial support to a blog you really like. Yes, you heard me right: extend financial support to your favourite bloggers.

Reason: Some bloggers are not in a full-time business or paid employment. Your gifts to them in kind or in cash will mean a lot to them for the sustenance of their work.

What others ways can you can appreciate your favourite blogger? Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section.

 

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

How Can You Show the Blogger Some Love?

Every day of the week, millions of posts hit the blogosphere. Out of this teeming number, you are able to stumble on and read some posts you really like.

Good!

What do you do after reading? Walk away, just like many other people do?

Haba, I know you can do better…

“So what do I expect you to do?” you may ask. Simple: show the Blogger some love. Appreciate him or her.

How can you show the blogger some love?

You can do so by giving him or her an appropriate feedback on the posts you have read.

The feedback after reading the post can come in form of “likes” for the posts, comments, follows, reblogs, sharing of the posts, emails, experience sharing, suggestions, testimonies, etc.

I tell you, by so doing, the blogger will feel mightily appreciated and greatly encouraged to continue writing.

Thank You

Part of the joy of personal blogging is receiving appropriate feedback from your readers.

To be clearer about the point of this post, I’m saying there is need for you to appreciate your favourite bloggers who have been a blessing to you in one way or another.

I learnt that lesson early enough in my blogging journey. And I have had several causes to express my gratitude to some bloggers whose writings have consistently been a blessing to me.

On one of such instances, I had to write a simple poem to a particular blogger whose writings (coincidentally poems too) have been so enriching to me and my reading experience on wordpress.

All I did was write her a poem, first as a comment in her own post, and then as a full-fledged post here on my blog.

And how do you think she received my feedback?

Here was what she had to say to me afterwards:

WOW, you have blessed me so much with “your poem.” I was not expecting anything like that and have never received anything like it before.

Each day I pray for the Lord to inspire me and that He should send me something from time to time to quicken to my spirit that I am indeed doing this all for His glory and His purpose. Every now and then I get a word of encouragement from someone that confirms I am using my gift for Him. This not only confirms it but it solidifies this is w[h]ere God wants me. Thank you again for giving me such a huge blessing. ~ Have a wonderful day with Jesus.

And after I had turned my ‘poem of gratitude’ into a full post, she also remarked:

There you go again Victor blessing me again with your post! I love that you turned it into something that we can all do to let others know that we appreciate what they do. Encouraging others is so important for us to do and this is a great way to do so. ~ May God continue to use you to bless others ~

I am not trying to be sycophantic or eager to blow my own trumpet here by sharing theses comments. Rather I am only trying to reecho the sentiment that in this world of blogging, “Encouraging others is so important for us to do…”

So is there anyone whose blog posts have greatly impacted your life? Why don’t you reach out and appreciate such one?

There are a few things you may want to do to show some love to the blogger you read his or her post. In my next post, we will explore some 10 simple things you can do to make your favourite blogger feel appreciated.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Echoes From My Heart 4

Words of inspiration from my heart

1. God knows what He is doing, even when it doesn’t appear so. Our walk with Him is a walk of faith, so we should just trust Him.

2. When you magnify God, you are dignified. Your personal dignity comes from your relationship with God. No true self-worth without an identity with God.

3. When anything or anyone is important to you, you will create time for it or for him/her. If you feel you don’t have time for God, it shows He is not your priority.

4. Many people are looking for love, but are unwilling to embrace God’s love for them. Be different because you will never find unconditional love anywhere else.

5. God is not mad at you. The sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the Cross has appeased God’s anger towards humanity. So rather than run away from God, you should run to Him.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

On Billy Graham’s scandal-free life and what we can learn from it.

Keeping the faith

In a previous post about Billy Graham, I came to the conclusion that “Just like Apostle Paul, we could say of him “Graham fought the good fight, Graham finished the race, Graham kept the faith.”

It was also pointed out in that article that most people that know him acknowledge that Graham was a man of great character and integrity, who stayed true to his divine calling of evangelism throughout his active life in ministry.

Unlike many preachers of his day and in modern times, it is widely acknowledged that despite his tremendous success in ministry, Billy Graham led a scandal-free life.

I’m not saying he was a perfect man. But he was a light in the midst of darkness. A mentor to many leaders and an example to his followers.

If you are like me, then you must have wondered how he was able to achieve so much success and fame in life and ministry without being tainted with the popular character pitfalls that bedeviled some preachers of the gospel in his time.

You can say it was a miracle and you are probably right. But apart from that, one thing we cannot disprove is that this highly respected preacher took personal responsibility for his character and integrity. And by the grace of God, he held out strong till he breadth his last.

The Resolve for a Life of Integrity

In an article by a Scott Wise on WTVR, we were given a tremendous insight on how Billy Graham and some members of his preaching team made the commitment to uphold their honour and integrity as ministers of the gospel of Christ:

“In 1948, at the beginning of his rise to fame, Graham and his tight circle of traveling evangelists gathered in California and catalogued the sins that had destroyed the careers of other Christian preachers. Money, sexual temptation and hubris topped the list.”

Please take another look at the three:

  • Money
  • Sexual temptation
  • Hubris (pride or overconfidence)

Are these not the same areas where many Christians leaders have fallen short of the moral standard required of them as followers of Christ?

Graham and his men pledged to avoid all the three. Shouldn’t we do the same?

The ministry team of Cliff Barrows, Grady Wilson, Billy Graham and George Beverly Shea
The ministry team of (L-R) Cliff Barrows, Grady Wilson, Billy Graham and George Beverly Shea. Source: Billygraham.org

The Modesto Manifesto

This was the documentation of Billy Graham’s and his core ministers’ personal resolution to uphold “the highest standard of Biblical morality and integrity” in their lives and ministry with respect to financial integrity, sexual, publicity and partnership with the local church.”

Cliff Barrows, close associate of Billy Graham who was also a member of the manifesto-drafting team was quoted to have said that the Modesto manifesto made it “…settle in our hearts and minds, once and for all, the determination that integrity would be the hallmark of both our lives and our ministry.”

As one commentator also noted, “Billy Graham’s standards are imperative requirements for all ministers” of the gospel and indeed for all those who profess to be followers of Christ.

 

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

It’s a New Year…Just have Faith

It is  a new year, just have faith…

Have faith that your life will be better than it had been in the previous years.

Have faith that you will set goals and achieve them.

Have faith that no matter what you face during the year, you will overcome.

Have faith that you will experience happiness, joy and peace in the new year.

Have faith that you have what it takes to succeed in whatever task you set your hands on in the year.

Happy new year

Have faith that no matter the prevailing darkness, you will have the courage to step into the light ahead.

Believe that things will work out well for you.

Have faith that your health will be at its best in the new year.

Have faith in your vision, to pursue them with fervour and to realise them.

Have faith that your dreams will come through.

Have faith that you will experience love from family and friends and in all your relationships.

Have faith that your enemies will not overcome you, rather that they will bow at your feet.

Have faith that you will have sufficient finances to meet your needs and be a blessing to other people.

Have faith that your life will shine better…

Have faith that it is well with your soul.

Whatever you do this year… Just have faith!

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Now that the Year is Ending…Be Thankful

Be grateful

Now that the year is ending…You might have had many unfulfilled goals. But you have to be grateful for the ones you were able to achieve.

You might have had many unanswered prayers. But the thankful for the ones that were answered.

Even if you still have many questions on your mind, do not give in to despair. Keep searching, answers will come.

At least you are alive. That means your hope is not dead yet. Think about that, and you will have a good reason to be thankful.

You may not be where you wish to be yet, but remember that you are no longer where you used to be.

As you take stock for the passing year, do yourself a favour: Find a reason to be thankful.

 

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Echoes From My Heart 3

Inspiration

1. There is a message in the mess you might have found yourself in. Do not miss it.

2. Visit the past to learn from it. But do not settle there.

3. You need to throw up some expectations in order to catch some manifestations. You know what they, “expectation precedes manifestation.”

4. It is no use trying to please everybody. You will never be perfect at doing it.

5. Whatever you do, always try to focus well. By so doing, you will not even notice some distractions.

 

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Echoes From My Heart 1

  1. Give your best to whatever your hands find to do.

  2. Find your purpose in life, pursue it, fulfil it.

  3. Love is the best living environment, create it.

  4. Hatred is toxic, you won’t survive for long living on it.

  5. Someone needs your help, give it.

  6. You will need someone’s help too, ask for it.

  7. The beginning is fine, but the end should be better.

  8. Happiness is inside you, stop looking in the wrong directions.

  9. Have a large heart, you need it to accommodate some people.

  10. Make plans for the future, especially for the hereafter.

 

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

The Spotlight Is On You

Every day, you watch other people do their thing. They get the applause. They get rewarded or awarded…

They are the cynosure of all eyes. No one seems to have  noticed you. And you wonder –

When am I going to be on the centre stage?

The truth is that right now, you are already on the centre stage of life. Believe it!

The Spotlight is on you, now –  whether you realise it or not.

And even if no one seems to be watching you, remember God is watching.

All eyes may not be on you, but God’s eyes are on you

Act well…

This life is your one chance to leave a positive mark. You cannot live it twice.

Make the most of it.

No compromises. Do your best and be your best.

Wherever you are, whatever you do, the spotlight is always on you because God is always watching you.

 

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Should You Always Reckon With Public Opinion?

Public pulse, what people say about you

Public opinion might be a very powerful force but you should not let it shape who you are or what you become in life. In other words, you should live your life independent of public opinion.

You will experience avoidable levels of frustration if you always rely on public opinion to run your life.

I read of a Chinese proverb which says that a wise man makes his own decisions whereas an ignorant man follows public opinion. You have the right to agree or disagree with that statement but I believe there is a point in those words.

There will always be public opinion. But the choice is yours whether or not to follow it.

People will talk about you no matter what you do. So make sure you do the right things so that you will not have cause to be ashamed of yourself later.

Remember the saying “Vox populi, vox Dei” (The voice of the people is the voice of God).  Have you ever given a serious thought to that maxim? Or have you believed it completely simply because it is a popular saying?

Take another look at that philosophy and you will see that it cannot always be correct. The voice of the people most times is not the voice of God. So why let your life be guided by public opinion?

As you probably know, public opinion is not always correct. Much of what constitutes public opinion is born either out of the ignorance of the majority of the public or the deliberate acts of misinformation orchestrated by the people that have the power or the means to do so.

There are people that control or influence public opinion. If you are not one of such people, be sure that public opinion will not always be in your overall best interest.

You will be ruining your life if you completely pattern it after the opinions of the public. That is not to say that there is no time you can learn something from feeling the public pulse. But be sure to know where and when to draw the line.

Public opinion changes frequently. And you can not even change as fast as it does, so why fall for it?

How then should you handle public opinion?

If you know you are in the right just continue being right. Don’t shift ground to the wrong side on the strength of public opinion.

Public opinion may count but doing the right thing should count more for you.

Pursue your purpose in life and firmly resist the temptation to have sleepless nights over what people say about you. Those who live by purpose will not follow public opinion, neither will they be bothered by it. Be one of such people!

Even when public opinion favours you, as it sometimes will, you still have need to ride on its’ tide very carefully, so that you do not get drown by any means.

Those who praise you today will turn against you tomorrow. Thread cautiously.  Whatever you do, do not let public opinion control how you live your life.

What are your thoughts on this?

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Every One Has A Story And Yours Is Not The Worst

Everyone has challenges, yours is not the worst.

You look around you and it appears everyone you see are wearing smiling faces, except you.

That may not always be true, because just like you, the people out there have challenges too.

Therefore, no matter what you face in your life, just remember this: Everyone has a story, and yours is not the worst.

Everyone has challenges



©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

3 Simple Reasons You Should Not Judge Someone

Judge not

Some times you meet someone for the first time and all you feel tempted to do is to judge him or her, without realising that you do not even have the complete information about the person. But how correct can  your judgement be?

Just like you, the other person is not perfect. So what makes you think you are in a perfect place to judge the other person?

Here are 3 simple reasons you should resist the temptation to be judgemental:

1. You do not know where the person is coming from

A man is a product of many things in his life. One of it is his experiences…

How he behaves now is somewhat a reflection of what he has been through in the past. So if you judge him by only what you see now, you are most likely to misjudge him.

2. You do not understand what the person is going through right now

Apart from what a man might have been through in the past, what he is going through right now also affects his disposition to life.

Granted, you may see that he is going through stuff but you will never understand it in and out. So don’t judge him by what you see because there is so much more happening behind the scene that you do not see.

3. You do not know the person’s future.

What you see about any body is not all there is to him or her. So don’t judge him because he or she does not fit into your mould or expectations.

A man may be down today but do not judge him as out. Being a fellow human being, you are grossly limited by your senses. What the future holds for the person may be far beyond what your natural eyes can perceive.

Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged” Matthew 7:1-2, NLT.

 

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20 Simple Idea Topics To Write Open Letters On

Ideas topics to write open letters on

The last post I made here saw me ask the question: Have you ever written an open letter? The following suggestions were given in that post:

“Identify a specific group of people you have never met before to whom you feel you have a word for. Through the avenue of an open letter, send them your words of encouragement, hope, rebuke or advice as the case may be.
If you have an issue you feel you have a strong position for, to which you would like to draw public attention to, why don’t you air your view via an open letter? I assure you it will not go unnoticed.”

In addition to the referenced suggestions, here are some possible idea topics to write open letters on, to get you started:

1. The Families of victims of terrorist attacks.

The recent Manchester and London City terrorist attacks are still very fresh on our minds. One way or another, the reports about these ugly incidents must have filtered into your ears. You do not have to bemoan the situation only in your room. You can reach out by the means of an open letter to the friends and families of the victims of these unfortunate attacks.

Reach out by speaking up against acts of terrorism. Reach out by sending out your love to the survivors of the attacks…

Just reach out. You may not know the victims personally but send their families and friends your words of sympathy, emphathy, condolences, and assurances that justice would be found for their lost loved ones.

2. The victims of the Boko Haram Insurgence in Nigeria.

Many people in the northern part of Nigeria have been severely affected by the rapacious activities of the Boko Haram insurgents. Thousands of people have been rendered homeless, and many children orphaned.

Do you feel like you have some words of encouragement for this sect of endangered humans? The issues of the internally displaced people… whatever you have to say, an open letter can do it for you.

3. Those who are suffering from mental health issues, insomnia, depression etc

If you are a survivor or a therapist on mental health problems, you may take up this one. Share your experiences and suggestions that will help those who are presently having such issues.

Life is already difficult on its own. To suffer any of the mentioned conditions is another huge burden.

Sometimes sufferers may be languishing in their little corner on the false belief that nobody loves or cares about them. And that’s often far from the truth. Your open letter to them could be the love letter that may assuage their pains.

4. Atheists in (your location).

You believe that God exists. That’s great. But as you already know, not everyone that lives in your state or country share that same belief with you.

You may not know such people personally but you are convinced that if you ever meet them, you will have something to say to them or questions to ask them. You can do that via an open letter.

By so doing, you are not forcing them to believe in God (although it would be nice to have them believe). Rather you are bearing an open testimony to them about the fact that God exists whether they believe in Him and the need for them to get to know Him, personally.

5. Widows (and widowers?)

Widows are often neglected in some societies. Are you a widow or some one close enough to know, who wants to draw attention to the pains or frustrations of being a widow? Are there some possible joys (seriously?) in widowhood that you would like to share with the public?

No body will feel the pain of widowhood as much you do. That is to say, you are in a better position to tell your stories like they are. Write an open letter as you deem fit.

6. The president of your country.

You stay in your corner complaining that your president is not doing some things right. Given the chance, you could pass him some good pieces of advice that may help him, you console yourself.

Sorry to disappoint you: your president’s handlers may never come to you for advice. But you can get their attention through an open letter. Irrespective of your country, you can write “an open letter to my president.”

Victor Uyanwanne: 20 Simple Ideas For Writing Open Letters

7. Aspiring bloggers

You have been blogging for a while now, so you know some things new bloggers don’t know. But no aspiring blogger has come to you for guidance.

You do not have to wait for that; you can write an open letter to all aspiring bloggers, giving them insights that can help them in their journey. As I am now, if I could see “An open letter to all bloggers in Africa,” I will read every bit of it.

8. Stay-at-home moms

The idea of being a full time housewife is unthinkable for some people. Yet many women have found it very fulfilling.

What knowledge do you possess​ that can be of assistance to stay-at-home moms, to help them make the most of their status? To all stay-at-home moms, how about writing an open letter highlighting your experiences – fulfilling or frustrating?

How I wish someone will be bold enough to write an open letter to the husbands of stay-at-home moms! You will agree with me that not many a husband truly appreciate the sacrifices and labour of love of their housewives at home.

9. Those preparing for a professional examination

You are a successful professional. To get to where you are right now, you have had to write your profession’s rigourous exams. Congratulations!

But you know what? Many People have been struggling with the same exams for years. Why don’t you write them an open letter sharing some insights on how to pass the exam.

10. Pregnant teenage girls contemplating abortion

This happens alot: when teenagers get pregnant, the next thing many of them would think of will be how to abort the foetus. If many of them knew better, they might not have taken that option.

You can write an open letter to pregnant teenage girls who are contemplating abortion, giving them helpful reasons why they must not abort their unborn children. Who knows, one of them could read your letter and have a positive change of mind.

The Mirror, UK once reported that “Cristiano Ronaldo’s mother has admitted she considered having an abortion when she was pregnant with him.”

Just look at the hugely successful soccer star Ronaldo had become today! The world would have been robbed of this football prodigy had his mum gone ahead to abort his pregnancy. I hope the picture is getting clearer to you now?

11. Child prostitution

As much as we may want to shy away from it, child prostitution is a problem in many parts of the world. The problem can be reduced with greater awareness and sensitisation.

As a victim or survivor of that evil, you can raise public consciousness by writing about it in an open letter. Make it anonymous if you like, but draw attention to the issues, and recommend possible solutions.

12. LGBT Community in America

I know that a lot of stuff exists in the public space on the issue of LGBT rights. I also know that in your own little corner, depending on the foundation of your value system, you have your own opinion on this LGBT discourse.

What exactly is your own position? Are you for or against it? An open letter is a veritable avenue to let us know where you stand on the issue, without fear or favour.

13. Sit-tight Presidents of some countries

In my own opinion, any nation’s president who has spent more than 10 years (or more than two terms) in office is a sit-tight leader. African leaders are particularly guilty of that behaviour.

For such people, you cannot contribute your vote to send them packing if you are not a citizen of their country. But such a limitation cannot prevent you from writing an open letter to such president.

Irrespective of your country of residence, you can air your view in favour or against the sit-tight tendencies of some of these world leaders.

14. Facebook Founder.

Not too long ago, the founder of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg was in my country Nigeria, on a working visit. During that visit, some young Nigerians were able to interact with him and got to hear him speak to them face to face. But some of us did not have that rare privilege.

Let’s say you were amongst those that did not get to see Mark Z on one on one basis, but in your heart you feel you have something to say to him for the benefit of the public. Just do “An open letter to the founder of Facebook.” Trust me, it will not take many hours before he or his aids will get wind of the message.

Why you should write an open letter

15. Adult Children who do not care about their parents.

Our aged parents need care and support for the rest of their lives. But more often and not, the children of these sages are now grown, living and working in different parts of the world, with little or no time for their parents back at home.

Even if the aged parents are put in convalescent homes, regular phone calls or visit from their children will make them happier human beings.

If you had the chance to talk to such people who have abandoned their parents, what would you tell them? Please don’t keep silent forever. If I were you, I would use the medium of an open letter to write, “Ten things I would say to adult children that do not care for or support their aged parents.”

May be you are the parent who feels abandoned by your children, you can think of writing “5 things I would like to tell my children who have abandoned me.” Even though your children never call home, such an open letter will get to them wherever they might be. With full disclosure of their identities, they can not escape seeing the letter, not with the power of the internet still holding sway.

16. Immigrants in your country

Immigration is a knotty issue in many developed countries of the world. As a citizen, if you feel you have some contributions to make to the discussions​ on immigration matters in your country, you can write an open letter to the government of the day​.

Similarly, you might have some things you would like to share with the immigrants in your community to foster harmonious relationship amongst them and citizens. It would be impracticable to go to them one by one to pass your advise across. But you can write an open letter in a local medium to that effect.

17. Your future Spouse

You have hopes of getting married some day. Right now, you do not know who your future partner would be. But it doesn’t stop you from thinking about him or her every morning as you wake up.

Long before I got married, I can recall writing down “Three things I expect from my wife.” I never got to publish it, but I had the privilege of showing it to my then-would-be wife when we eventually met. If it were now, I would not have missed publishing it on my blog.

Why don’t you articulate your expectations (or your fears) in an open letter? What you are feeling in your heart for your future spouse will make an interesting read for the young people out there.

18. The good friend you’ve lost contact with

Thanks to the power of social media, many of us have reconnected with our friends from the past that we have not been in contact with for multiple of years gone by. There might still be someone from your past that you would like to renew your relationship with, but you have had no way of contacting him.

Try writing an open letter giving the necessary details about the friend. The feedback might surprise you.

19. Those who want to publish a book

It is the dream of many people to publish a book in their names before they leave this world. But many of such people do not yet have a handle on what to do.

As an experienced publisher you can write an open letter to aspiring first time publishers. I am sure your ideas will prove invaluable to them.

20. Be the one to add this one…

What would you like to centre your open letter on, apart from the area’s I covered in the post? Please share your comments…

P.S. If you decide to write an open letter on your blog following this article, kindly link this post to it to enable my readers and I join in the conversations too.

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Have You Ever Written An Open Letter?

Have you ever written an open letter about anything to anybody or group of people? If your answer is “yes” I would be glad to have you share your experience with us here. But if your answer is “no,” I will suggest you give it a try. The experience may be worthwhile for you.

As I read the first epistle of Peter recently, I came to realise something I considered new to me: Peter wrote the letter to people he had never met before:

Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ, to the strangers scattered throughout Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia, and Bithynia, 1Peter 1:1.

Although Peter stated the locations of the target àudience of his letter, the fact that he called them strangers indicates that he had no previous personal acquaintances with them. Yet he had to write to them to pass across the messages he had for them. In a sense, you can say that Peter wrote those people an open letter.

Have you ever felt that you have something to say to somebody, some group of people, an advice to give, a commendation to offer, a correction or rebuke to hand down, but never got to do it till now? Is there a silent issue you want to draw public attention to?

Whatever you know you could tell someone if given the opportunity, but the opportunity never came, (and you want public awareness on that issue?) you can pass the same message across via an open letter. You will be shocked to know that the message will get across faster than you ever imagined.

In the context of this discussion, you do not have to worry if your open letter does not get published in mainstream media. Your WordPress account is a sufficient platform for you to publish it. So publish it on your blog.

I can recall trying out something like that here on this blog. There was a time I began to feel that I had a message for atheists – those who do not believe that God exists. The message was nothing new really except that I put the words together after an innocous realisation that I had never physically met an atheist before.

God loves everybody including Atheists

Our experiences may differ; I grew up in an environment where everyone believes – mentally at least – that God exists. Therefore, for me and many other people then, it had never been a question of whether God exists or not. We all agreed that God exists; we only differed on the approach to Him.

However, as I began to face the larger world, it baffled me to hear some people claim that they do not believe God exists. They deny any and everything that suggest the possibility of the existence of God.

Therefore, in my own little attempt to reachout to the unknown atheists, I published the post, To those who say there is no God. The response was relatively massive, affording me the opportunity of having some online engagements with many of the atheists that responded.

Even though I could not force anyone to believe in God, the fact that my message got across to the target audience was very fulfilling to me. So in expanding the discussion, I followed up with 16 sobering things every atheist should know. That post too was very successful, further deepening my online conversations with the atheists.

Why don’t you try something similar?

Identify a specific group of people you have never met before to whom you feel you have a word for. Through the avenue of an open letter, send them your words of encouragement, hope, rebuke or advice as the case may be.

If you have an issue you feel you have a strong position for, to which you would like to draw public attention to, why don’t you air your view via an open letter? I assure you it will not go unnoticed.

Let the conversation begin…

Still Ahead: 20 Idea Topics for Open Letters.

P.S. If you decide to write an open letter following this post, kindly link to it to enable me and other readers join in the Conversations on your blog too.


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The Only Book That May Never Be Read

The need to write a book.

I believe that books are some of the most wonderful things on earth. And reading them is one of the most productive use of time ever – far better than sitting in front of the television for hours.

As you know, to read a book it has to be written first. Thanks to everyone who has written some thing and made it available for reading.

Writers are awesome people. They impact our worlds and experiences in greater ways than may be imagined. You too can make your own contribution to the writing experience.

When it comes to writing, there is always room for more participants. If you are not already a full fledged writer, you should accept you are a potential one; You have the potential in you. Develop it by putting it to use.

To be a writer you have to write. You might not be the best yet, but you have to start from somewhere – where you are right now.

Great writers became great by writing. And so can you…

Explore your sense of imagination… Write down your thoughts as they filter into your mind. Share your unique (or not so unique) experiences in life by putting pen to paper or hands on your keyboard.

Just write…

Writing is what writers do. So why are you not writing? Do not worry if you will have readers or not. Do the writing first, readers will come along.

The best time to get started with it is now. The world is waiting for you; you should not be waiting for the world.

That book idea you have in your mind, put flesh to it and make it a physical reality. What’s the use of a book that never got written?

Whatever you write and made available will be read by someone. The only book that may never be read is the one you failed to write.

Share your views.

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So You Are A Life Coach?

Are you a life coach?
What does a life coach do?

Just like everyone else, I have encountered many kinds of coaches in my lifetime. And they come in different colours and shades towards a given end.

I am sure you remember your math coach, dance coach, music coach, swimming coach, basketball coach, football coach, chess coach, business coach and any other kind of coach you might have come across in your life.

As far as I know, people who answer to any of the coaches above possess some identifiable, specific, special skills and experiences with which they impart other people who learn from them.

I do understand those ones…But I am a bit curious about those who call themselves a life coach. Those are the people this post seeks to understand better.

A life coach!

So you are a life coach? That sounds too enormous a title to me, and I am making some efforts to wrap my mind around it. That’s why I am asking these questions.

Are you a life coach? Can anyone, including you, fill that shoe properly?

Coaches are experts in something. Are you an expert in life? Have you mastered all about life itself in all areas to qualify as a life coach?

Can you give impeccably useful direction, guidance, instruction, training, support, to anyone and everyone in life that comes to you for help? Do you have the global picture?

Life coach…

Are you really comfortable using that term to refer to who you are and what you do? Can you let me into your world please?

Just how did you come about being refered to as a life coach? Is it a divine calling or a training, or both?

So you are a life coach, or is it just a nomenclature? Are you well rounded in all areas of life? Or shouldn’t you be?

Who certified you as a life coach? Is it God? If it is not Him, then who is the mortal that can take up that responsibility?

Speak to me! What exactly do you mean when you call yourself a life coach? I ask because I do not want to misunderstand you anymore.

You are a life coach? Is that not what they call you? Or am I the one that did not hear well?

Have you known, seen, experienced and understood life in all its ramifications? Have you been to the highest heights or descended to the lowest depths, and covered all the breadths of life?

Please don’t say I am pushing it too hard on you. I am not… I just want to know about you.

Can you help people in all areas of their lives? Can you meet people’s needs at the “spirit, soul and body” levels?

Can you excellently direct people in business, in politics, in religious, in sports, in health, in education, in entertainment, in aviation, in construction, in computing, in communication, in relationships, etc? Doesn’t being a life coach entail all of the above?

I just don’t understand you when you say you are a life coach. Should I say you might be a coach in an aspect of life and not life as a whole?

May be you should come to my aid and explain to me exactly what you mean when you say you are a life coach.

I am waiting…

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What Is Your Greatest Joy In Life?

Reason to glory on earth
Greatest joy in life

What is your greatest joy in life? Would you mind giving an honest answer to that question right now?

Before you continue reading this article, pause for a moment. And with your eyes closed, ponder a bit on the above question.

Once you have come up with an answer you are convinced about, hold it up against the brilliant light of the Scripture quoted below. (The purpose of doing that is to ensure that what you hold as your greatest joy on earth properly aligns with what God says should be your greatest joy).

Thus saith the LORD, Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, neither let the mighty man glory in his might, let not the rich man glory in his riches:

But let him that glorieth glory in this, that he understandeth and knoweth me, that I am the LORD which exercise lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness, in the earth: for in these things I delight, saith the LORD.
Jeremiah 9:23-24.

From the above passage of the Scriptures, you can see at least three reasons to glory in life:

  • Intelligence – The wise man glories in his wisdom;
  • Strength – The mighty one glories in his might;
  • Wealth – The rich man glories in his riches.

But God wants the reason for your joy to be beyond the fact that you possess some high level of wisdom, intellectual power, physical strength, wealth or achievements in life.

He wants you to rejoice in the fact that you know Him as “the LORD which exercise lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness, in the earth.”

If your greatest joy is based on the things of the world, then your joy will be temporary. But a joy based on your knowing God will have no ending.

I first began to perceive the truths of Jeremiah 9:23-24 at a crucial point in time during my undergraduate days.

One mid-morning like that while reading my Bible, the scripture quoted above literally leapt off the pages of the Bible right into my heart with a force so meaningful that I was left without any iota of doubt on the fundamental reason I should glory in life.

I was doing relatively well in school then, despite the harsh academic environment of that time. My grades were moving up against all odds. I thought that was a good reason to praise God.

“Yes, it was,” you might want to agree with me. But God had to put things in better perspectives for me. He graciously showed me that there was a greater reason I had to rejoice than academic progress.

Now I know better… so I am sharing it with you, with the hope that you will see some light in it too.

As a disciple of Jesus Christ, your greatest joy in life should not be based on the fact that you passed your exams, you got promoted at work, you bought a dream car, moved into your dream home, married your dream spouse, or had some other great goals you have accomplished.

Those are not bad reasons to be joyful. But your joy has to be based on something of eternal significance and not on things of ephemeral value. It has to be based on your relationship with God, not on things of the world.

For emphasis sake, l will have to say it again:

  • Your greatest joy should be that you know the Lord.
  • Your greatest joy should be the joy of your salvation.
  • Your greatest joy should be that your name is written in the Book of Life.

Jesus validated this position during one of the feedback conversations He had with His disciples as recorded in the Gospels.

According to the account in Luke chapter 10, Jesus had sent out seventy-two of His followers to go preach the gospel of the Kingdom around the neighbouring towns and villages. These specially appointed men went out and accomplished the evangelistic mandate given to them by their Master.

More so, they returned with joyful testimonies, declaring that demons were subjected to them in the name of Jesus.

The seventy-two returned with joy and said, “Lord, even the demons submit to us in your name.”

You would have thought that the identified reason these rookie evangelists were filled with joy was good enough for them to rejoice as they did. But Jesus raised the bar when He responded to them saying, “…do not rejoice that the spirits submit to you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven.”

“That your name is written in Heaven should be your greatest joy,” Jesus says.

Therefore, whatever you are able to accomplish on earth – whether in spiritual or secular things – should not be your greatest joy. Neither should your joy be in what this world can offer you. Rather your greatest joy should be that your name is written in the book of life in Heaven.

If you are not sure your name is there already in the book of life, you can get it in by accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour now. There is no other way to achieve that.

What is your greatest joy in life? Share your views.

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Learn, Always Learn 2

Learn, always learn by Victor Uyanwanne
Things to learn from 2

Learn, always learn.
Learn from your friends.
Learn from your enemies.
Learn from everyone in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn from your failures.
Learn from your Successes.
Learn from the processes in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn from those who rejoice.
Learn from those who mourn.
Learn from other people in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn from those who celebrate you.
Learn from those who criticise you.
Learn from the indifferent ones in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn when on the mountain top.
Learn when in the valley below.
Learn when anywhere in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn from your weakness.
Learn from your strength.
Learn from anything in-between.

Learn, always learn.
Learn from males and females.
Learn from babies and adults.
Learn from everyone in-between.

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