7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

I was recently invited to be part of the discussants in a church’s women’s end-of-year conference. But I sent them my apologies because I had another engagement billed for the date and time they chose.

However, the organisers requested that (since I could not be physically present at the event) I sent in my contribution in writing on Things Every Christian Woman Should Give Her Husband.  I obliged their request by sending them a written short note as I thought it out.

The feedback I got after the programme was that my note was a blessing to them in that meeting. So in this post, I have decided to share with you the same thoughts I shared with those church women in their conference. I hope you find something useful in it.

Like I said, I drafted the write-up for a predominantly women audience, but that does not mean that you should not read it if you are a man. So let’s go there…

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1. Respect

A husband expects his wife to respect him in two ways:

• By words – what she say to him and about about.
• By action – how she treats him at home or outside the home.

2. Sex

• A Christian wife should understand that intimacy and sex is very important to the husband, as this is a need only she can meet;
• A wife should not deny the husband his right over her body.

3. Food

• A wife should provide good food, timely and regularly for the husband/family;
• A wife who doesn’t know how to cook good food should go and learn.

4. Appreciation

• A husband expects the wife to appreciate him for providing for the family.
• A woman should have an attitude of gratitude, not grumbling, not complaining.

5. Trust

• A wife should show trust and confidence in the ability of the man to lead the home;
• A wife should support her husband’s vision or project. She should not use her mouth to tear it down.

6. Peace

• The man will never feel peaceful at home if the wife is always nagging.
• If a wife fails to create a peaceful home, the husband will not feel happy returning home.

7. Neatness

• A husband expects his wife to take good care of herself.
• She should maintain good personal and family hygiene.

Remember what the Bible says:

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Prov. 14:1.

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Thank you for reading my thoughts. Feel free to tell me what you think in the comment section.

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©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

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5 Simple Ways Being Grateful For Your Parents Can Influence Your Attitude Towards Them

 

A recent little survey on Facebook revealed (amongst other things) many christians are most grateful for two things:

• Their salvation in Christ; and
• Their parents.

In a previous post, I suggested five ways being grateful for your salvation can impact your life. Let’s go a step further by having a look at:

Some of the ways your attitude towards your parents can be influenced if you are truly grateful for them:

1. You will have time for them

Never say, “I don’t have time for my parents.” Create the time for them…

Your parents spent their life, health and wealth caring for you. Now that you are independent, don’t abandon them.

No matter how busy you might have become in your life, make out time for your parents. Call them regularly. Visit with them, with your spouse and grandchildren.

As you know, grandparents always adore their grandchildren. So give them that pleasure before they leave this earth.

2. You will give them gifts.

When was the last time you ever gave any gifts to your parents? They don’t have to be in need before you can buy anything of value for them.

Within your capacity, you can present beautiful gifts to your parents – no matter how little. That’s one way you can show them you love and appreciate them.

Gifts have a way of communicating some lovely things from you to the recipient: “You mean alot to me”. “I appreciate you so much.” “You are always on my mind.” “I’ve not forgotten you.” “I celebrate you.”

If you are truly grateful for your parents, learn to give them gifts. You will experience a fresh dose of happiness by do doing so.

3. Provide for their needs

Aside giving gifts to your parents, be actively involved in meeting their pressing needs.

As your parents’ age, they might gradually become unable to meet their basic needs without help. Whatever they lack, you can provide it for them to the best of your ability.

Their daily supplies. Medical care etc, whatever their needs might be, you should find a way of being of assistance to them.

Even if they are very okay – not needing any help – still find a way to be part of their lives. You owe them that honour.

Remember what the Bible says, “”Honor your father and mother”–which is the first commandment with a promise”” (Ephesians 6:2).

4. You will forgive their offences against you

Your parents are not perfect. They might have made choices in the past that affected you negatively. But that doesn’t mean you should hold it against them forever.

My simple advice is that you have to forgive whatever wrong your parents might have done against you in the past,. Apart from improving the relationship between you and them, it is good for your health too.

One sure way to deprive yourself of happiness is to hold grudges against your parents – refusing to forgive them.

5. You will continue to “be a good boy”

Your parents would always say to you to be a good boy (or girl) whenever they were concerned about your behaviours. And in most cases you always cooperated with them.

Now that you are grown, do you think you should stop being a good boy (or girl)? I bet you don’t want to do that – for two reasons:

• You don’t want to break your parents heart at old age.
• You want to leave a good legacy for yourself.

I hope that with those few points of mine, I have been able to show you some simple ways you can show your parents that you love and appreciate them.

In what other ways do you think you can demonstrate that you are grateful to your parents for the role they played in your life? Leave a comment.

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©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Words Of Commendation From My English Teacher From Way Back

Every once in a while we are able to remember those who positively impacted our lives in one way or another. The last weekend afforded me such an opportunity, and it is my pleasure to share the story with you in this post.

I returned from Church last Sunday feeling very physically exhausted and I decided to take a little nap on my bed. As usual my smart phone was handy, so in the interim I began to surf through my messages and social media notifications.

In the process, I came across one message from Facebook informing me that, “Victor, you and G are celebrating one year of friendship on Facebook.”

Just like any other Facebook user, I know this type of message is a common one. But this very one meant a lot to me because the G in question is someone I have held in very high esteem ever since I was a teenager.

“…One year of friendship”?

Really?

I had chuckled as I read the message because although I recently reconnected with this awesome person via Facebook, we had known each other for more than two decades – long before Mark Z ever thought of gifting the world with his pervading social media platform.

Apart from once being a spiritual mentor to me way back in Secondary school, He was my English teacher at some points too. Needless to say, I owe a lot to him and to other people like him for the good foundation they laid for me while learning English as a second language.

For those of you who don’t know, English is the official language in Nigeria my home country. (Thanks to Britain, once our colonial master). But we usually learn it as a second language, after our mother tongue. And now it is a compulsory subject in both primary and secondary schools across the nation.

So this friendship notification from Facebook made me share the following message on my Facebook wall in celebrating the English Teacher from way back that so much impacted my life. (I’m sure he doesn’t mind my mentioning his name):

I celebrate you sir, Geoff Uti. You were an English Teacher like no other, to me. There is no doubt that I drew inspiration from both your spoken and written English.

Wherever you are right now, I’m giving you a shout out. Today, Facebook notice says we are celebrating one year as friends. But I will let the world know that I have known you for almost 3 decades. God bless you sir. May your legacies remain forever.

What happened next after I wrote the above words on my FB wall gave me the reason to share this post with you.

Although I did not expect it, I was pleasantly surprised to see a comment or response from this rare teacher. I felt humbled, or I should say honoured, by his words of commendation so I decided to share them with you here as well:

Friendship they say is not proximity but trust and fulfilment. Going back nostalgic to the days of yore when you exuded great intelligence and ingenuity academically, one is forced today to let the world know that you are a rare gift to your generation.

A figure par excellence in whom I am always well pleased and of whom the school was proud of, you are one of the rewards of the profession I am proud to belong.

A product that has today put me on the globe even when I would not have been worth it without the likes of you. You have remained a goal-getter and the sky is your stepping stone.

Your dearness to me will flourish the more as our friendship is beyond that of Teacher- Student but to father-son relationship.

All I could say after reading those sweet words was ‘wow.’ Thank you sir for this honour!

Do you have any teacher who you would never forget for the impact he made on you? Any comments?

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500 WordPress Followers, 500 Thanks

“Congratulations on getting 500 total follows on Victors’ Corner.” That’s the notification I recently received from WordPress.

What that means is that this blog has reached yet another milestone, just like the 200th post milestone achieved a few weeks back.

I am not writing this post in order to blow my trumpet. Rather, I just want to use the rare avenue to convey my heartfelt appreciation to everyone of you who have been so kind to be one of my WordPress followers. Therefore kindly accept some 500 rounds of applause from me to you.

Secondly, I will also use the opportunity to invite more WordPress users to join the over 500 amazing followers of this blog. I assure you that there is so much more to gain and nothing to lose by joining this blog’s community.

You may extend the favour by recommending this blog to your friends and family so that they too can benefit from the things we share here. I hope that is not too much to ask?

Once again, thank you for your immense support this far.

Finally, what has been your experience following this blog? Kindly drop a comment.

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The 100th Follower Milestone: It Took So Long, But I still Got There

This blog has just recorded its’ 100th WordPress follower. It took me so long to get there, but I still got there. And future possibilities are beckoning….

For you experienced bloggers that have thousands of WP followers in your kitty, a hundred might not mean so much to you. But to a rookie like me, just like any other new kid on the block, it is certainly not an insignificant milestone.

How time flies! I remember how happy I felt when I recorded the first five WP followers on this blog (and these were not family and friends!). In my heart, I was like, “wow, this is great!”

That was several months ago. Here I am now talking about 100 awesome WordPress bloggers who are following this blog. Thank you all for the huge favour!

To think that it took a whopping 67 posts, seen by a total of 1,625 visitors to the site in 3,097 views in over 14 long months to reach the hundredth mark followership is not an easy piece of cake. That is not to say that I have not been having fun all the way; it’s been a great experience writing this blog, to say the least. 

It may not appear to be such a great breakthrough. But I don’t want to let it pass unheralded.

That’s why I have decided to use this post to share the ‘goodnews’ (is that not what it is?) with you.

And I am doing so for the following four simple reasons:

1. For the records and in memory of little beginnings. After all, the Bible admonishes that we “Despise not the days of little beginnings…” Even though I still have a long way to go, I remain grateful for getting this far.

2. In appreciation of everyone of you who have been so kind to be one of my followers on this blog. Thank you so much for your support this far. In the words of Mike Murdock, “What you made happen for me, God will make happen for you.”

3. To invite more people to join the over 100 fantastic followers of this blog. There is something for everyone. The taste of the pudding, they say, is in the eating! Please follow or Subscribe to the blog.

4. To encourage you new or intending WP bloggers not to give up. You can do it too. Stay in the game. Don’t give up. You will get there!

We are victors together in this corner. Let’s continue to inspire one another unto greater things.

Any memorable milestone in your blogging experience? Please share with us.

 

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