Some Side Reasons You Are Negatively Criticised

Whatever you do in life, criticism is one of the ways some people will ever respond or react to you. There is no one who is reading this post right now that may not have faced criticisms in one way or another.

It is okay if the criticisms are positive, because positive criticisms give room for process or self improvements. However, it is another kettle of fish if the criticisms are largely negative.

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No matter how nice you are, not everyone will be happy for you when you succeed. Naturally​, because they are not happy at your good fortunes, the next thing they will try to do is to churn out negative criticisms against you.

Negative criticisms are not sweet pills to swallow, but you will keep getting them. That is because you cannot control people’s thoughts, words and reactions towards you.

The best thing to do is to learn how to how negative criticisms when they come so that you don’t have to be so frustrated by them. Understanding why people criticise you negatively, will position you better to be able to handle the unpleasant and such inconveniencing situations when they do arise.

One of the ways to appropriately manage negative criticisms is to know why people harshly criticise you in the first. So let us consider the question,

Why do people criticise you negatively?

In a recent post I made on Facebook, I opined that “The fact that some people criticise you does not mean that they hate you; they might just be jealous.”

It was my little way of saying that negative criticisms can stem from pure hatred or concealed jealousy. Obviously, there could be other reasons.

To expand the discussion, I asked the question across my social media handles, “Why do some people criticise you negatively?  Any ideas please?”

A follower who responded to the post via my Instagram handle, suggested that some people may criticise you because either they feel intimidated by you or they are afraid of you.

Thanks to that respondent, because in addition to hatred and jealousy, we can see that people may also criticise you because they feel intimidated by you or are out-rightly afraid of you.

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Responses from Facebook

I received some responses via Facebook comments as well. In the following paragraphs, I will share with you the thoughts of some people that commented:

“They [criticise me negatively in order] to bring my morale down. They also know they don’t know and have what I’ve got.”

“Negative criticism is an excuse from a lazy person. Because he cannot attain that level which you are, the only encouragement he gives to himself is to criticise u negatively.”

“Some criticise you out of jealousy and some due to lack of understanding.”

“Complex, self defence, jealousy and ignorance I think.”

“Just out of envy and jealousy and  hate.”

“They do so Primarily out of envy, ignorance & lack of understanding.”

“Sometimes they may not understand me. Sometimes they may be misinformed about me. Sometimes is in their nature . Sometimes they just want to get my attention. Sometimes it just happens like that.”

“Some criticise you out of mere jealousy, while  some others criticise you based  on what  they have  heard about  you.”

Let us hear your thoughts as well. Why do people criticise you negatively?

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The Very First Post On This Blog

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We Know

The post you are about to read was the very first content published on this blog. As I said in the post before this one, this blog just turned two years old.

To further commemorate the milestone, I am reposting the pioneer post here for you to read. It was initially published when there were no followers on this Blog. That tells me that you may not have seen it yet.

Now that I have you, kindly indulge me as I present to you, “We Know,” the very first and oldest post on this blog. I guarantee you will find something useful in it.

We Know

We know we have potentials,
But we are not doing enough to develop them.
What is the use of a vibrant energy,
That remains buried and untapped?

We know the future is bright,
But we keep living in the past!
How can we ever enter and enjoy the future,
If we don’t ever leave the past behind?

We know our lives could be better,
But we hesitate to do things to improve on them.
Why are we waiting and delaying?
The room of improvement is never filled up!

We know we are not so perfect,
But we fail to work on our weaknesses!
Can a dirty china become clean,
If it has not been washed at all?

We know we don’t like to be criticised,
But we never cease from doing it to others.
What makes us think we would be likeable?
When our words ache like pain?

We know we like being appreciated,
But we think other’s don’t deserve the same.
If we want appreciation to come around,
We ought to start giving it first to others.

We know we ought to make more progress in life,
But we fear to take the first steps forward.
How can we get to where we want to be,
If we don’t put one foot in front of the other?

We know we crave for love and forgiveness,
But we ourselves are never generous with such.
How can we be so very surprised?
That we don’t get loved and forgiven by others as we want?

We know we crave respect and admiration from others,
But we are less concerned about our self-respect.
Why then are we so bothered that we don’t get so respected,
As much as we think we deserve?

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Best friends forever

We know how good it feels to be welcomed,
But we don’t always spread our hands to welcome others.
Yet we wonder why people don’t always warm up to us,
Like the insect to the nectar in a flower.

We know we are not without blemish,
But we are always quick to cast the stone on others
Why don’t we treat other people
As we want to be treated?

We know Rome was not built in day,
But we cry and worry over every little slip.
With our heart filled with so many worries,
How can we enjoy a deep sleep at night?

We know we shouldn’t go to bed when the roof is on fire,
But we pretend it’s just a little flick of flame.
Why then do we wonder and cry aloud,
When all we have is turned to ashes?

We know every seed produces after its own kind,
But some of us are those who sow corn and expect a harvest of potatoes.
Who would be ever so disappointed,
As much as someone like that would be?

We know we should say ‘I am sorry’ sometimes,
But our pride keeps us from saying it.
Doesn’t it matter to us that our friends and family are hurt,
When we fail to say “I am sorry, please forgive me?”

We know it’s good for us to give.
But we hoard the things we ought to share.
Have we forgotten the Master’s rule:
“Give and it shall be given to you?”

We know we should give thanks in all things,
But we say all things are not okay to give thanks, so we complain.
Are we now wiser than the Master,
Who said, “give thanks in all things?”

 

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