Echoes From My Heart 1

  1. Give your best to whatever your hands find to do.

  2. Find your purpose in life, pursue it, fulfil it.

  3. Love is the best living environment, create it.

  4. Hatred is toxic, you won’t survive for long living on it.

  5. Someone needs your help, give it.

  6. You will need someone’s help too, ask for it.

  7. The beginning is fine, but the end should be better.

  8. Happiness is inside you, stop looking in the wrong directions.

  9. Have a large heart, you need it to accommodate some people.

  10. Make plans for the future, especially for the hereafter.

 

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The Very First Post On This Blog

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We Know

The post you are about to read was the very first content published on this blog. As I said in the post before this one, this blog just turned two years old.

To further commemorate the milestone, I am reposting the pioneer post here for you to read. It was initially published when there were no followers on this Blog. That tells me that you may not have seen it yet.

Now that I have you, kindly indulge me as I present to you, “We Know,” the very first and oldest post on this blog. I guarantee you will find something useful in it.

We Know

We know we have potentials,
But we are not doing enough to develop them.
What is the use of a vibrant energy,
That remains buried and untapped?

We know the future is bright,
But we keep living in the past!
How can we ever enter and enjoy the future,
If we don’t ever leave the past behind?

We know our lives could be better,
But we hesitate to do things to improve on them.
Why are we waiting and delaying?
The room of improvement is never filled up!

We know we are not so perfect,
But we fail to work on our weaknesses!
Can a dirty china become clean,
If it has not been washed at all?

We know we don’t like to be criticised,
But we never cease from doing it to others.
What makes us think we would be likeable?
When our words ache like pain?

We know we like being appreciated,
But we think other’s don’t deserve the same.
If we want appreciation to come around,
We ought to start giving it first to others.

We know we ought to make more progress in life,
But we fear to take the first steps forward.
How can we get to where we want to be,
If we don’t put one foot in front of the other?

We know we crave for love and forgiveness,
But we ourselves are never generous with such.
How can we be so very surprised?
That we don’t get loved and forgiven by others as we want?

We know we crave respect and admiration from others,
But we are less concerned about our self-respect.
Why then are we so bothered that we don’t get so respected,
As much as we think we deserve?

Best friends forever
Best friends forever

We know how good it feels to be welcomed,
But we don’t always spread our hands to welcome others.
Yet we wonder why people don’t always warm up to us,
Like the insect to the nectar in a flower.

We know we are not without blemish,
But we are always quick to cast the stone on others
Why don’t we treat other people
As we want to be treated?

We know Rome was not built in day,
But we cry and worry over every little slip.
With our heart filled with so many worries,
How can we enjoy a deep sleep at night?

We know we shouldn’t go to bed when the roof is on fire,
But we pretend it’s just a little flick of flame.
Why then do we wonder and cry aloud,
When all we have is turned to ashes?

We know every seed produces after its own kind,
But some of us are those who sow corn and expect a harvest of potatoes.
Who would be ever so disappointed,
As much as someone like that would be?

We know we should say ‘I am sorry’ sometimes,
But our pride keeps us from saying it.
Doesn’t it matter to us that our friends and family are hurt,
When we fail to say “I am sorry, please forgive me?”

We know it’s good for us to give.
But we hoard the things we ought to share.
Have we forgotten the Master’s rule:
“Give and it shall be given to you?”

We know we should give thanks in all things,
But we say all things are not okay to give thanks, so we complain.
Are we now wiser than the Master,
Who said, “give thanks in all things?”

 

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No One Can Love You Like I Do 

No one else can love you like God.
Celebrating Valentine with love from above

Remember I made you in My own image
And then put you on the world stage.
But you turned your back at Me
Away from who you were meant to be

No matter how dark your ways are
I can make you shine like a star
I am the way, the truth and the light.
I can make your way shine so bright.

I have always shown you My love
Brought to the earth from Above
My love for you knows no bounds
Because you’re the one I’ve found

Remember I went all the way for you
So that you can fully come through
To where you are clothed with holiness
And filled with My own righteousness.

No one can love you like I do
It doesn’t really matter who!
All I want from you from the start
Is for you to give Me all your heart.

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Stop Expecting Your Spouse To Fill The Void Only God Can Fill

In our last post in the towards a better marriage series, we dwelt on the need for you to give your best in order to make your marriage work. Let’s add to it however, that only God can meet your spouse’s deepest needs, and yours too.

I assume your spouse loves you very much and is fully committed to meeting your needs. But no matter how much he/she is committed to you, realise that you have needs that only God can meet. For such needs, never expect your spouse to play the role of God!

The same thing applies to him/her too; there are needs he/she has that you cannot meet, no matter how hard you try.

Inside everyone is a void that no other human can satisfactorily fill. That is why you need God.

It is only God that can meet your deepest needs; it is only God that can meet all your heart’s longings. Your spouse may try, but he/she cannot satisfy you completely.

Your spouse is not a miracle worker, so don’t expect him/her to do everything for you and be everything to you, every time. Just like you, remember that he/she is human, subjected to the various limitations of being a flesh and blood entity.

Meeting your spouse’s deepest needs is God’s job. Don’t place the burden on your spouse

Your spouse can make you happy sometimes, but he/she cannot keep you happy all the time. He/she may want to do it, but he/she simply is incapable of doing it every time.

You set yourself up for disappointment and your spouse up for failure if you expect him/her to do the impossible for you. Next time you want a miracle, ask from God, not your spouse. By that I mean you should stop expecting your spouse to fill the void only God can fill.

Let’s help one another, what do you think are the needs of spouses that their partners cannot meet, that only God can meet? Please enter your suggestions in the comment section. 

Thank you.




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Birthday offering: How I met my wife

Where I met my spouse

Last March was my fifth wedding anniversary. As I continue to celebrate the privilege of being married to one of God’s special princesses, it is my pleasure to let you in on how, or better still where, I met her.

You can consider it my birthday offering to you on this special day of mine. Today is my birthday. Ooops, I guess I had to let you in on that!

I have always known that I would one day write about how I met my wife. But I didn’t know that that day would come so soon.

Something happened that made it come sooner than I had thought. During an online search recently, I stumbled on a comment I had made in the past on a Nigerian online forum.

The comment was my response to the topic of the post which was simply a question entitled, ‘Where did you meet your spouse?’ To be honest, I was pleasantly surprised to read the response again.

Here we go:

I met her in church. We became friends. Just friends, serving God faithfully in [the] youth ministry [of our church].

Later, my heart began to skip a bit for her. The mere thought of her brought smiles to my heart.

At first, I felt concerned that I was taking the friendship [further] more than I had thought.

“What is wrong with me?” I asked myself.

I prayed about it. I got the assurance that all was well. I told her I loved her and would want to marry her. [It] turned out she was convinced about me too.

Two years later, she became my wife and has been so [five] years now. We have been happy ever after. I thank God for everything.

Although it was an impromptu response I made back then, reading it again now made me feel that I gave an appreciably good summary of where and how I met my wife. This it was that precipitated this post.

So allow me to delve a little more into the full story.

We met in church

I have heard stories of people meeting their spouses in all kinds of places. Even though my mind was open as to where I could meet my would-be-wife, I would consider it a blessing that I met her in Church.

There was this joke back then that if you are looking for a decent girl for a wife then look for her in the church. Whether that’s necessarily true or not, I leave that to you to decide.

Then, I wasn’t particularly sure about where I could meet my would-be-spouse. But I was very sure about who she should be.

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I was convinced she would be someone who had made a strong commitment to God, through a personal relationship with Jesus as Lord and Saviour. Someone who was committed to living her life on Earth to the glory of God and for the benefit of mankind, with eternity in view.

Of course, there were other things I considered, but the above mentioned were not negotiable. It is possible to find such a blessed lady in any possible place around the world. But as God would have it, my church in Lagos was my lucky place.

Our Friendship was healthy

We were individually actively involved in the Lord’s service.  I was the Bible Study coordinator of our Church’s Youth Fellowship and later the Vice President of the group. On her part, she was an active voice in the Youth choir as well as in the main Church choir.

Our friendship developed gradually and blossomed into a very close one. It flourished on a platonic level or what we could describe in Nigerian parlance as just “a brother and a sister in Christ” relationship. Nothing more until love began to set in….

We moved from friendship to love.

Oh the innocent ‘boy’ has fallen in love. You know that feeling of fallen in love? I felt it strongly then. But I was a bit concerned.

“Why would I want to bring ‘love’ into our heavenly friendship and ruin everything?” I had asked myself.

We had mutual respect and trust for each other. We knew the boundaries we set for ourselves. Besides, I never thought I would marry a friend.

But instead of the awesome feeling of love going away, it became strengthened in my heart and louder in my ears. I was glowing! But I was careful not to let her know how I was feeling yet.

“I must do something about it,” I challenged myself.

I cross-checked everything with my Father in Heaven. I believe in prayer; it helps me clarify my thoughts.

“Oh God my Father, do you have a hand in this strong splurge of love I feel in my heart for Your daughter, Jenny?’ I had asked God in prayer.

‘Yes’ was the answer I received in my heart from the still small voice. Once, I knew God was involved, my worries ceased; peace and divine assurance filled my heart.

“One more thing Lord, she is your daughter too.” I pointed out to God – as if He didn’t already know. “Please speak to her about ‘us’. Prepare her heart for this eternal love you have told me I am going to share with her.”

The feeling was mutual.

Not long afterwards, it became clear to me that my prayers had been answered. God had put my love in her heart just as He had put her love in mine. We were ‘flowing’ with each other.

We each knew where God was pointing us to, and we were ready to go with Him all the way to the marriage altar.

The proposal.

I waited till I perceived the time was right to pop the question.

‘Will you marry me?’ I asked her after 9 months down the line.

‘Yes, I will’ was the heavenly response I got from her.

Thus, our courtship officially began. I am grateful, she didn’t make me wait any longer before giving me her consent.

“Give me some more time” some other lady may have said to me. But not my sweet Love, she was prepared for me as I was ready for her. Fifth wedding anniversary

Marriage altar here we come.

Two years afterwards, we both stood before God’s holy altar and echoed “I do, I do” to each other, as we were pronounced husband and wife.

It’s been five years since then. And we are still counting …

I met my wife in Church. I have no doubts that God arranged it that way. That’s my story.

Would you share a little about how you met your spouse?

 

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If You Say ….

If you say

If you say you love me but you don’t show any care for me, how do I believe you?

If you say you don’t want me but you keep hanging around me, you get me confused.

If you say you will always be there for me but you are never around when I need you, it doesn’t make sense to me.

If you say you will give me the world but you never gave me a smile, you leave me doubting.

If you say I am adorable, but you treat me a little better than a piece of trash, you depict a lie.

If you say we are good together but you keep me at arm’s length, I wouldn’t take you serious.

If you say you want a better you but you keep doing the same old things, then you are not serious yet.

 

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The Things You Know Can Radically Change Your Life

YOU KNOW

radically change your life

You know you have potentials
But You are not doing enough to develop them.
What is the use of a vibrant energy,
That remains largely buried and untapped?

You know the future is bright
But you keep living in the past!
How can you ever enjoy the future,
If you don’t ever leave the past behind?

You know your life could be better
But you hesitate to do what it takes to improve on it.
Why are you waiting and delaying?
The room for improvement is never filled up!

You know you are not so perfect!
But you fail to work on your obvious weaknesses!
Can a dirty china become clean,
If it has not been washed at all?

You know you don’t like to be criticized
But you never cease from criticizing others.
What makes you think you would be likable,
When your words ache like pain?

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You know you like being appreciated
But you think others don’t deserve the same.
Don’t you think if you want appreciation to come round,
You ought to start giving it first to others?

You know you ought to make more progress in life
But you fear to take the necessary steps forward.
How can you get to where you want to be
If you don’t dare to leave where you are?

You know you crave for love and forgiveness
But you yourself are never generous with such.
How can you be so very surprised, that
You don’t get often loved and forgiven by others as you want?

You know you want respect and admiration from others
But you are less concerned about your self-respect
Why then are you so bothered that you don’t get so respected,
As much as you think you deserve?

You know how good it feels to be warmly welcomed
But you don’t always spread your hands to welcome others
Yet you wonder why people don’t always warm up to you
Like the insect to the nectar in a scenting flower.

You know you are not without blemish
But you are always quick to cast the stone on others
Why don’t you treat other people with grace,
As you want to be treated?

You know Rome was not built in a day
But you cry and worry over every little slip.
With your heart filled with so much worry,
How can you enjoy a deep sleep at night?

How can you get to where you want to be
If you don’t dare to leave where you are?

You know you shouldn’t go to bed with the roof on fire.
But you pretend it’s just a little flick of flame.
Why then do you wonder and cry aloud,
When all you have is burnt to ashes?

You know every seed produces after its own kind.
But somehow you sow corn and expect a harvest of yam.
Who would be ever so disappointed,
As much as someone like that would be?

You know you should say ‘I am sorry’ sometimes
But your pride keeps you from saying so.
Doesn’t it matter to you that your friends and family are hurt,
When you fail to say “I am sorry, please forgive me”?

You know it’s good for you to give generously.
But you hoard the things you ought to share with others.
Have you forgotten the Master’s golden rule?
“Give and it shall be given unto you.”

You know you should give thanks in all things.
But you complain that all things are not okay
Are you now wiser than the Master,
Who said in his Word “give thanks in all things”?

 

 

P.S. Adapted from WE KNOW, the very first post published on this blog. It has been one year since this blog was started.

Photo Source: Quotesgram[dot]com

 

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6 Unique Reasons You Should Embrace The Love of God

St. Valentine

It is Saint Valentine’s Day once again. Suddenly our love for one another is awakened again.

But beyond the usual focus on couples’ love, friendship love and family love that pervades the air in times like this, how about talking about the love of God for us too?

The love of God is the greatest love there is. It is the love for all seasons.

Those who neglect the love of God will never ever be able to truly love. It is God who gives us the capacity to love.

God has put His love in our hearts.

And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. Romans 5:5.

Valentine’s day should not make you go searching for love in the wrong places. Neither should you go doing things that make it look like you are desperate for love.

God’s love is already given; and God’s love is for you. It is reliable and available every time.

Here are 6 Unique Reasons You Should fully embrace the Love of God

  1. You are already infinitely loved by God.

Even if no one else loves you, be aware that God loves you beyond measure. He loved you before you were born, He loves you till now and will continue to love you for the rest of your life.

God proved that His love for you has not limit when He gave His son to die for you.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 NIV

  1. God’s love for you is unconditional.

If God was looking to love only those that measured up to His standards, then He would have no one to love, because none of us would qualify.

God loves you because God is love. His love for you does not depend on what you did or what you didn’t do. He loves you irrespective of your individual performance – whether you measure up or not.

Does that sound too good to be true? But it is the gospel truth!

  1. God’s love is all inclusive.

Whether you are a Christian or not, whether you believe in God or not, whether you are black or white, male or female, whether you are homosexual or heterosexual, God loves you.

Whatever you are and wherever you are in the world, God loves you. There is no one in the whole wide world that God doesn’t love.

God loves you the way you are. But He will never leave you the way you are. His love is a life-transforming love –  His love will change you for the better.

  1. Nothing can separate you from the love of God.

God will never walk away from you. He will never break your heart if you embrace His love. And no circumstance is strong enough to separate you from the love of God.

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? Romans 8:35 NIV

God is the most faithful lover there is. He sticks with you in good and in bad times, every time.

  1. You can experience God’s great love which He offers to you freely.

God’s love has been bestowed on all mankind; It is already given to all.  All you have to do is to receive it. You receive it through simple faith in Jesus Christ.

Receiving the love of God into your heart will be the greatest experience of your life. It will transform you in many ways.

  1. If you accept the love of God into your life and live by it, it will preserve your heart on earth and prepare it for eternity. This is a bargain that is available only in Jesus Christ. You cannot get it anywhere else.

Your heart will never be satisfied until it embraces the love of God. Valentine’s Day love will come and go but the love of God remains. God’s love is love for all seasons. Embrace it now.

 

©CopyRight | Victor Uyanwanne

IT IS CHRISTMAS

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It is Christmas
The day we celebrate the greatest birth
The birth of a Saviour
The Saviour sent from God
The God of mercy and love
The love that is true and unconditional
Unconditional because we didn’t deserve it

Yes undeserved, but freely given
Given to all who will receive in faith
Faith in the born Saviour we celebrate Today
Not just today, but
Everyday for the rest of our lives.

Merry Christmas to you.

HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY TO US

HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY TO US

By Victor Uyanwanne

MR & MRS VICTOR UYANWANNE

Today is March 26, 2015. To everyone else, it may look like any other day. But to my wife, Jenny and I, it is our fourth year wedding anniversary. Somehow, just like any other happily married couple, we have a right to see the day as special. I believe you agree with me.

Exactly 1460 days ago, I got married to My Love (that’s what I call her). You see, time flies! But it seemed like yesterday, when our wonderful friends and our ever-supportive families gathered to see me get married to the most beautiful lady on earth. Smiles!

VICTOR & JENNIFER UYANWANNE WITH PASTORS AND DEACONESSES PRESENT AT THE WEDDING

I can still recall how very happy I was on that day. Believe me, I was happy and it showed. But beyond the butterflies in my stomach and the radiant smiles on my face then, to the delight of everyone present, I also sang a song for my wife’s pleasure during our wedding reception. (I had written the song for this purpose).

“You made me feel so special in the eyes of everyone”. That was what my wife said to me after the special song rendition I did for her. Well, to me, I didn’t just make her feel special – She is special, very special.

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I didn’t have the voice of a Celine Dion. But with my heart filled with divine love, I sang the song with my-good-enough voice and made my wife very happy. Isn’t that what matters?

Here is the first verse of the song. Hopefully, in future we will do a music video out of it (smiles):

I love you, JennyVICTOR UYANWANNE
I love you from my heart
I meant it when I stood before God’s holy altar
And I said “I do”
Now there is nothing that can happen
That will make me change my mind
This is from heart

Four years down the road, my joy still knows no bounds. I have no doubt that she feels same way too. As we encapsulated in the toast on our wedding invitation card, for us it was:

Friendship made in Heaven
Established in love on Earth
To be together forever

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That was how we felt then. That is how we still feel today. By the grace of God, we will always feel that way.

……… My wife was still asleep when I rushed off to the office this morning. But it doesn’t make the day less special for us. The coming weekend will be a good time to celebrate our four years of marital bliss. (Please, understand that we also had a share of our challenges. But we are always overcoming them).

Meanwhile, as I began to settle down to begin the days work, I quickly sent a BBM chat to my wife:

“My greatest joy is that you are the one I married. Happy wedding anniversary, my Love.”  Almost immediately, I got a response from her:

“Yeah! Thanks. It’s been four years of happiness. I’m glad you are my husband. Happy wedding anniversary to us.”

What more can I say?

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THE VOICE GOD LOVES TO HEAR MOST

THE VOICE GOD LOVES TO HEAR MOST
By Victor Uyanwanne
16/03/2015

When you are in love, you like to hear the voice of the person you love. Whatever that person has to say, you are always ready to listen. In the midst of several other voices angling to be heard, the one you want to hear most is that of the beloved.

Think about this: God is in love with you and He wants to hear your voice ALL THE TIME. Because He is in love with you, your voice is the voice He wants to hear most.

If God is in love with you and He wants to hear your voice, then you should be talking to Him more often. He will never be tired of hearing from you, so don’t be tired of talking to Him.

You can talk to God in prayer. You can to talk to Him in songs.

When you sing to God, He will never say you have a bad voice. No matter how your voice sounds, God will never complain.

God wants to hear your voice, today and always.