Three Lifelong Useful Skills You Should Start Developing Right Now

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The following is an outline of a 15-minute pep-talk I delivered at a breakfast meeting held by a small group of professional friends. I thought I should share it with you. Who knows, you might pick up one or two things from it.

1. Oratorial Skill 

Meaning

Ability to speak properly and eloquently.

Benefits:

  • Helps you to create the right impression
  • Enables you to be more persuasive
  • Enhances your leadership skill

Cautions:

  • Don’t talk too much.
  • Don’t say what you don’t mean.
  • Don’t manipulate people.

2. Negotiation Skill

Meaning

The process by which compromise or agreement is reached while avoiding argument and dispute: a method by which people settle differences.

Benefits:

  • Makes you less confrontational.
  • Helps you to save cost.
  • Increases your sense of satisfaction in any deal.

Cautions:

  • Don’t take advantage of people.
  • Don’t be mean.
  • Be fair; seek win-win outcomes.

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3. Selling Skill

Meaning

Ability to hand over or give something in exchange for money.

Benefits:

  • Boosts your self confidence.
  • Helps you to market your ideas, service or product better.
  • Increases your income or earning power.

Cautions:

  • Overcome the temptation to lie.
  • Don’t sell what is against your conscience.
  • Sell only what has value.

Ways to develop your oratorial, negotiation and selling skills

  • Desire
  • Observation
  • Learning
  • Preparation
  • Practice
  • More Practice

Ending Quote:

“I really believe that everyone has a talent, ability or skill that they can mine to support themselves and to succeed in life.” ~ Dean Koontz


©Copyright 2019| Victor Uyanwanne

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Dear New Blogger: 7 Things I Would Like You To Know

Advice to a new blogger

Many people will take the wonderful decision to start a blog this year. If you are one of such people or you have recently started a blog, I will like you to know some things which will help you in the blogging journey.

1. Your decision to start a blog is a step in the right direction

Some people would start a blog and then begin to wonder if they are doing the right thing. If you are thinking like that, then the following words are for you.

I wouldn’t know the reason you started your blog, but one assurance I can give you is that starting a blog is a good step you have taken. So don’t give in to self-doubt!

However, if you are not sure why you started a blog in the first place, take some time off to get that settled. You don’t want your blog to be directionless and purposeless. Do you?

Once you have defined the purpose of your blog, believe in it strongly. Having a firm belief in your blog’s mission will empower you, encourage you, enlarge you  and deepen your expectations.

When I started this blog, I saw it as an avenue to share my thoughts with the world and also to explore my writing skill which has remained latent over the years of my life. But I soon discovered that blogging is also a journey of personal development.

Apart from the many other benefits you will get to enjoy from starting a blog, you will get to discover that blogging will help your personal development in many ways. I don’t want to over-flog this point because as you know, the taste of the pudding is in the eating. So ride right ahead on your blogging journey.

2. Read and write extensively

As you have embarked on the blogging journey, know that you have headed in the writing direction. In other words, a blogging journey is largely a writing journey.

One notable thing that writers do is that they read a lot. So if you want to go far with your blogging experience, you have to read and write extensively. By so doing, you will gain more knowledge, have fresh ideas and improve on your writing skills.

If you have the dream to be a published author one day, know that your writing blog is a veritable platform to hone your skills. You get the point?

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3. Take some steps to make your blog more visible

Let me shock you with this little statement: despite all the efforts you have put in it, many people who should be reading your blog do not even know that it exists in the first place. That’s harsh, I know but it is the reality you are face with!

Your blog is new on the block hence I concede that it will take some time for it to gain due popularity. But if you think the world should read your blog because you have something valuable to share, I think it is worth it for you to take some steps to make the blog more visible than it is right now so that more and more people can discover it to read.

For instance, you should make sure your blog is indexed as ‘public’ rather than as ‘private’ to make it discoverable by search engines. Also when you publish a post on your blog, don’t go to sleep. Promote it on social media and encourage your readers to share it as well.

Those are just a few tips on how to make your blog more visible. You can find out others for yourself.

4. You need to interact with other blogs regularly

I already said you should read very extensively. Part of what you should be reading regularly are posts on other blogs – whether they are in your area of niche or not. I know from my own experience that there are many benefits of reading other people’s blogs.

Don’t be an island to yourself. Reach out and interact with other bloggers. Follow their blogs. Read their posts. Hit the like button on the posts you have read and liked.

Most importantly, leave meaningful comments on other blogs’ posts you have read. Both the writers of the blogs you comment on as well as some of their other readers may follow your trail to your blog to read your posts as well. And please, for goodness sake, don’t tell me you don’t care if no one reads your blog, because that would be a lie!

5.You will face some negative criticisms on your blog

Let no one deceive you, blogging is not a piece of cake. There would be times the feedback you get would seem like a bitter pill to swallow. But it is up to you how you would react to it.

Apart from the hard-work and personal discipline that your blog requires from you, know also that some people will harshly criticise you for it. There are those who will question your decision to start a blog. Some will dismiss your posts as irrelevant and some others will even attack your person.

Whatever kind of criticisms you may face, do not be discouraged and do not give up on your blogging mission. Just stay focused on your blogging objectives and use the criticisms to improve on your game. I tell you what, there are some good things about the negative criticisms you will get on your blog. Find them and use them.

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6. If you leave your blog, your blog will leave you

I don’t mean that to be taken so literally. But I do want to emphasise on the need to stay ‘close’ to your blog.  I have a personal rule that no day passes without me checking up on my blog. That way I am able to make draft posts, review pending posts,  or catch up with responses on  my readers’ comments.

I am not saying you should be like me; follow the pattern that works for you. The important thing is that you don’t leave your blog ‘unattended’ to for weeks or months. Your faithful readers will be left hanging if you do that!

In a way, having a blog is like having a baby. You have to nurture it, feed it regularly and ensure that it remains healthy. That’s what you should do to your blog too.

Respond to readers comments your posts. Write new posts regularly. If you choose to post daily, weekly or monthly as the case may be, please be consistent about it. To keep your readers coming back, you have to give them something good to regularly come back to.

7. You might see the need to start a second blog too

I already assured you that your decision to start a blog is a step in the right direction. So I take it that we are settled on that.

What about starting a second or even a third blog? That’s not a bad idea either. But you have to wait until there is a compelling need for it. Otherwise, your energy might be spread out too thinly across multiple blogs and you might stifle your main one to death.

When I started Victors’ Corner, I didn’t see the need for another blog until three years after. Being a personal blog, I had about six categories of posts I crammed into it. But I have recently seen the need to create a separate blog from the Poems’ Category. That has given rise to Living Poems blog.

As as you make progress with your current blog, you might sense the need to set up another blog, that’s okay. You are not doing that with the aim of shutting down your current blog but with the purpose of furthering another blogging objective.

Thank you for reading my suggestions to new bloggers. Let the conversation continue in the comment section. What will be your advice to a new blogger?


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

2018 In Review: Top 5 Posts

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As we draw the curtain on the year 2018, I thought I should do a recap of the five most liked posts on this blog. (You may click on each of the links to read the full posts):

Enjoy…

#5. ​Jesus: 8 Special Things About The Baby That Changed The World

In Jesus’ birth, divinity became humanity. It was the beginning of the unfolding of the grandest heavenly agenda in bringing salvation to mankind.

  • Jesus was miraculous conception by a virgin. His conception by a virgin and birth were undeniable fulfillment of divine prophecies…
  • Jesus got His name several centuries before He was born…
  • The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world…
  • Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection
  • He is the only One giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him…

#4.  Six Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

Everyone needs forgiveness.  On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too.

  • God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too…
  • Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it…
  • Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix…
  • You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise…

#3. Eight Simple Reasons I Do Not Follow Your Blog

Part of the joy of blogging is having people following your blog, regularly reading your written thoughts and sending you feedback through their comments, likes, emails, reblogs etc. If you have ever wondered why people are not following your blog, these may just be some of the reasons:Why people follow your blog

  • They don’t even know that your blog exists in the first place…
  • You are not following their blogs…
  • People get to your blog, but find out your posts care less about their core values…
  • You did not join any blogging community…
  • No one has recommended your blog to them yet…

 

#2. Blogging for personal development

Beyond sharing my thoughts and being a source of inspiration to my readers, blogging has become a journey of personal development for me. I have learnt new things, improved on my writing skills, acquired new skills, met and interacted with different kinds of people from different places around the world.

I have inspired some people and I have also been inspired by many other people. I have defended my faith, read several insightful posts, gained vast knowledge in many areas of life and so on and so forth

#1. Racism in America Vs Tribalism in Nigeria

Racial discrimination and prejudices wear attires in Nigeria different from the ones they wear in America. While racism exists as a result of differences in colour of the skin, tribalism hinges on differences in birth-roots. Both are common societal evils that must be dealt a decisive blow in order for us to have a better world.

No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background or his religion. People learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite – Nelson Mandela.

Thank you for reading and happy new year in advance.


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

How Blogging Helps Your Personal Development

Benefits of blogging

One of the many side-benefits of blogging is that it will lead to your personal growth. I say that because I have experienced personal development in many areas of my life since I took up blogging as a hobby and an avenue to interact with the rest of the world in written form.

Apart from being a veritable platform to share my thoughts and experiences with the world, I have also now realised that blogging is for personal development.

In this post, I will show you several ways blogging has helped me in personal development. If you have been blogging for a while, I am sure you will identify with some of the benefits on the list.

Otherwise, feel free to extend the conversation by sharing your own experience in the comment section.

8 ways blogging has helped me in personal development


1. Blogging has made me wiser and more knowledgeable.

As a blogger, you don’t only write posts, you read other peoples posts as well. You also find yourself researching on areas of your interest. As you do all that you will pick up plenty of wisdom and knowledge.

Apart from sharing your own thoughts, a huge part of blogging involves learning from other people through what they have written.

A reader of this blog agrees with that when he stated that “… blogging is strongest in the realm of knowledge and understanding. You can gain a great deal of insight into how people think from the vast number of personalities spread across the many forums.”

2. Blogging has made me a better writer

Writing is not blogging. But blogging is writing and more. And the more I blog, the more I write and the better I become at it.

I have not arrived yet, but I know I have improved on my written communication skill since I took up blogging. For someone whose first language is not English, blogging has definitely paid-off in helping to hone my writing talent.

So if you consider yourself an aspiring writer, blogging is one step you should take in that direction.

As one commenter on this blog once stated, “I believe that blogging can definitely be helpful in achieving personal development goals. Not only with getting to develop yourself by writing out your thoughts and beliefs and helping yourself grow from laying it all there. But, you also get thousands and thousands of examples and lessons to learn from other bloggers in the community.”

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3. Blogging has strengthened my ability to handle negative criticisms.

Believe it or not you will have fun blogging. But at the same time, you will face some negative backlashes. The fact that you are getting criticised shows that you getting noticed. Or would you rather be ignored?

I don’t know about you, but as for me, I have never faced as much criticisms and negative attacks in life as much as I have faced in my short blogging journey. I am okay with the fact that not everyone will agree with my points of view. But it degenerates to a negative experience when some people become abusive or unnecessarily annoying with their comments on my blog.

That doesn’t mean I should shut down the blog. But it certainly means I should find the best ways to handle the negative criticisms.

And I do that by learning from the criticisms,  responding in love rather than with hate, trying not to be offended and by staying focused on the bigger picture  – refusing to give up.

I already talked about that when I advised that despite the challenges you might face along your blogging journey, you should not quit on your blog’s mission.

4. Blogging has improved my interpersonal relationship skills.

I am sure you have encountered some internet trolls whose stock-in-trade is to post “inflammatory and digressive, extraneous, or off-topic messages” on your blog. To be honest, they are not fun to deal with, and I have encountered a couple of them! But I would say I am doing better now in handling such people than when I started blogging.

I have learnt the hard way! I am not saying I have arrived. But both online and offline, I have improved on the way I relate with people on the blogosphere.

Blogging has taught me to be more patient, more gracious, and more understanding with people.

Some people may behave nasty to you, that’s their cup of tea.  You have to be nice. It may not be easy, but don’t give up before trying.

5. Blogging increased my discipline with time management.

Just like many people, I have many times been guilty of wasting my free (valuable) time doing not-so-productive things (eg watching TV) and procrastinating on doing worthwhile things. But blogging has  helped me use my spare time more productively.

As blogger, you write a lot. And you need to read wide as well. You need to discipline yourself more with the time at your disposal to achieve these two goals.

6. Blogging has enriched me spiritually.

In a way, blogging has assisted in my spiritual growth. As some one whose opinions are largely based on Biblical worldview, I read several Christian blogs whose authors have continued to impress me with their deep insights and teaching of God’s word.

In that process, I have been fed with the truths of God’s word in ways that have left me spiritually uplifted. So if you are keen on your spiritual growth, be aware that blogging can help you in that area.

7. Blogging has taught me Web-designing

If you had any web-designing skill before starting your blog, could you raise your hand please?

Well, congratulations if that’s you! As for me, I had zippo idea about web designing prior to when my blog was set up.

Setting up my blog was my first experience. Thanks to WordPress’s menu-driven processes, I can set up a functional blog for you if you want.

Before I started blogging, I had thought web development was not my thing; that it was meant for only programmers or those who have a working knowledge of markup languages such as HTML and CSS.

But now having successfully designed my own blogs and a few for other people, I am convinced I would not have known web designing if not for blogging? So you see what I mean?

8. Blogging has increased my creativity

I have found that there is an improvement in my mental creativity  as a result of blogging. That’s hardly surprising because, you find that in writing blog posts, you have to be imaginative, you brain-storm on topics to blog about, you engage in meaningful conversations and so on.

That’s because creativity involves “the use of imagination or original ideas to create something.” And both imagination and originality are familiar concepts in blogging.


You have read my experience. And hopefully, you were able to observe that beyond being a form of self-expression, blogging has become an avenue for personal development for me in many ways.

My knowledge in many fields, places and people has increased through blogging. I hone my writing skills as I write posts after posts. I am being more productive with my spare time,  and I am now more self-confident than ever with blogging.

Over all, blogging is helping me become a better version of myself. I am not saying all this to draw attention to myself. Rather I am just trying to show you how blogging can help you in your personal development journey using my own experience as a case study.

I will like to hear your own story in the comment section.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Blogging For Personal Development

A few people have had cause to ask me, “Victor, are you making money from your blog?” The simple answer I always gave is “No.”

When I started this blog, money making was never part of the objective. And it isn’t till this point in time.

But that does not in any way suggest that I am totally against monetising the blog. I am simply saying it is not part of the plan, at least not yet.

You may be a professional blogger, but I am not. So how you see blogging may not be exactly how I see it.

Writing this blog is a hobby I engage in outside my full time job. And like I already stated, I am not making any income from it.

My bills and those of my family are taken care of from income from paid employment. So what is in it for me in this blogging journey?

I would say a lot: more than I had initially anticipated and definitely much more than time and space would allow me delve into in this short post.

From the outset of my blogging journey, I wanted to share my thoughts on the issues of life with anyone who would care to read. I was convinced that what I had to share could make life better for someone out there – one way or another.

To a large extent, that objective is being achieved. The feedback I get from my readers and critics alike convince me of that.

And for that I’m very grateful and also very encouraged to keep the blogging flag flying higher. As you can see, I am not about to quit on my blog mission.

However, beyond sharing my thoughts and being a blessing to my readers, blogging has become a journey of personal development for me. By that I mean my life has been improved in many ways since I took up blogging as a hobby.

I have learnt new things, improved on my writing skills, acquired new skills, met and interacted with different kinds of people from different places around the world – including avowed atheists.

I have inspired some people and I have also been inspired by many other people. I have defended my faith, read several insightful posts, gained vast knowledge in many areas of life and so on and so forth.

And I am still developing!

Now you have an idea of what I have been talking about!

Right? Yes, thank you.

In a subsequent post, I will expasiate on some of the many ways blogging has helped my personal development. Thank you for reading.


Do you agree that blogging is helpful in achieving personal development goals?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne