A Dream That Never Came Through!

What was once my dream car

Time changes things. Dreams do change over time too. The things you cherish today can become obsolete in no time. That’s what I found out about having a dream car.

Obsolescence is the state of being which occurs when an object, service, or practice is no longer wanted even though it may still be in good working order. Obsolescence frequently occurs because a replacement has become available that has, in sum, more advantages compared to the disadvantages incurred by maintaining or repairing the original…;Typically, obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity… Wikipedia

That last sentence from the above quote “…obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity,” captures in part the spirit of this post. Read on, you will see why.

As a result of the passage of time, what was once a dream car for me has (well, expectedly) declined in popularity, leaving nothing but only unfulfilled memories. It is not that I am sad about the unfulfilled childhood dreams. But I am glad that I had dreams as a child that once in a while pop up in the physical reality of my adult life.

For instance, on my way home from work recently, I saw something that brought back memories that made me smile. It is the car you see in this picture above. I was caught up right behind it in a very slow moving traffic. So I had the ample chance to take that photo shot.

“Why did I smile,” you may ask? I smiled at the sight of the car because right then I remembered when that same type of car used to be my dream car. That was about 28 years ago… when yours truly was just a boy.

Then, I was still in primary (elementary) school. I had a strong liking for the referenced model of car. And I had imagined that I would one day drive it when I grew up, had become an undergraduate or a bachelor.

“How wonderful it would be to cruise around in such a nice ‘sport’ car” I had envisioned. Yes, right or wrong, I had the thought that the car was ‘sporty’ yet classy for me. But that pre-teen dream of driving it or owning it never came through. In fact, I didn’t even get to own any car as an undergraduate.

But much time has passed since then… As you might rightly expect, the once-upon-a-time dream car now looks so obsolete to me; so much so that I can’t even desire it any longer.

I say so because it is like nothing I want now. I drive a ‘nice’ car now, alright. But it is not my dream car yet.

Of course, when it comes to having my dream car, the bar has been pushed higher over time. From dreaming about having something simple and classy, my idea of a dream car has now metamorphosed into having something more fantastic than the one I had as an elementary school pupil.

I now desire a sophisticated vehicle properly fitted with appropriate functionalities, better than the modest one I currently own. But then I ask myself, why have a dream car, when the one you desire today can easily become out of fashion tomorrow?

New models of cars are churned out each year, with better fittings and functionalities. So why continue to have a dream car without having the strong economic power required to make the dream come through?

But keep in mind, this is not just about dream cars only. It is about all our pursuits as human beings. The things we cherish so passionately today gradually will usually decline in popularity over time. Sooner than later, we find ourselves back to where we started – feeling unsatisfied and wanting for more.

In the final analysis, only dreams of eternal value are worth pursuing. Only things that will count in the light of eternity should truly count for us.

What’s your take on this?

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

​3 Things You Do That Show What Matters To You.

3 things you do that show what matter to you

You will often do what matters to you. In other words, the traceable patterns of what you do over a long period of time paint a vivid picture of your most dominant inner inclinations.

Let me share with you three simple things you do that show what you consider important to you.

1. What you spend your time on.

What you regularly spend your time on indicates what interests you or matters more to you. Where you often spend your time tells alot about where your heart is. How you spend your time demonstrates something about your dominant passion.

You can’t control time but you can control what you use it for. You can use your time to your advantage or to your disadvantage.

You use it to advantage if you use it on things you value. Because time is not available to you in unlimited quantity, it is imperative that you use it wisely. One of the best ways of doing that is to use your time for things that matter in the long run.

Take a proper look at the things you spend your time doing. Ask yourself, “Are they really worth it?” If not, then you will have to make some changes that will involve reordering your priorities.

2. What you spend your money on.

You will not spend your hard-earned money on sh*t except you value it. Just like time, you do not have unlimited amount of money. Therefore, you will often want to spend your money on the things that give you the most value. (Of course, I assume you are a wise spender).

Even if I don’t know you before, if you show me your bank statement and/or your expense records, it will not take long for me to figure out the things that matter to you. Except you spend your money under duress, most often than not, your expenses will flow in the same direction as your interests and aspirations. In order words, what you spend money on often is an indication of what matters to you.

Now is the time to review your expense records to see if you have been spending money on things that do not matter to you. You know what to do after the check!

3. The company you keep.

Just like everyone else, you like to be in the company of the people you love and people that love you  or people that share your values. As they say,  “Birds of a feather always flock together.

Only a few people will consistently hang out with the wrong crowd. If you are in any crowd, it should not take long to figure out whether you are a ‘misfit’ or not. This realisation will either prompt you to blend in or to retrace your steps.

The people you are willing and glad to hang out with are pointers to your interests and aspirations. If you have interest in music, I will not be surprised to see you hang around ‘musical’ people both online and physically. I often find myself ‘following’ bloggers and other writers because of interest.

Are the people you hang out with leading you in the direction of your goals? If your answer is ‘no’, then you are in the wrong company.

Conclusion

What you frequently spend your money on, what you regularly do with your time and the kind of company you keep are good indicators of what matters to you. You may want to retrace your steps if you find that where you are presently on these three patterns do not represent your long term values or objectives.

What do you think?

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne