The Very First Post On This Blog

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We Know

The post you are about to read was the very first content published on this blog. As I said in the post before this one, this blog just turned two years old.

To further commemorate the milestone, I am reposting the pioneer post here for you to read. It was initially published when there were no followers on this Blog. That tells me that you may not have seen it yet.

Now that I have you, kindly indulge me as I present to you, “We Know,” the very first and oldest post on this blog. I guarantee you will find something useful in it.

We Know

We know we have potentials,
But we are not doing enough to develop them.
What is the use of a vibrant energy,
That remains buried and untapped?

We know the future is bright,
But we keep living in the past!
How can we ever enter and enjoy the future,
If we don’t ever leave the past behind?

We know our lives could be better,
But we hesitate to do things to improve on them.
Why are we waiting and delaying?
The room of improvement is never filled up!

We know we are not so perfect,
But we fail to work on our weaknesses!
Can a dirty china become clean,
If it has not been washed at all?

We know we don’t like to be criticised,
But we never cease from doing it to others.
What makes us think we would be likeable?
When our words ache like pain?

We know we like being appreciated,
But we think other’s don’t deserve the same.
If we want appreciation to come around,
We ought to start giving it first to others.

We know we ought to make more progress in life,
But we fear to take the first steps forward.
How can we get to where we want to be,
If we don’t put one foot in front of the other?

We know we crave for love and forgiveness,
But we ourselves are never generous with such.
How can we be so very surprised?
That we don’t get loved and forgiven by others as we want?

We know we crave respect and admiration from others,
But we are less concerned about our self-respect.
Why then are we so bothered that we don’t get so respected,
As much as we think we deserve?

Best friends forever
Best friends forever

We know how good it feels to be welcomed,
But we don’t always spread our hands to welcome others.
Yet we wonder why people don’t always warm up to us,
Like the insect to the nectar in a flower.

We know we are not without blemish,
But we are always quick to cast the stone on others
Why don’t we treat other people
As we want to be treated?

We know Rome was not built in day,
But we cry and worry over every little slip.
With our heart filled with so many worries,
How can we enjoy a deep sleep at night?

We know we shouldn’t go to bed when the roof is on fire,
But we pretend it’s just a little flick of flame.
Why then do we wonder and cry aloud,
When all we have is turned to ashes?

We know every seed produces after its own kind,
But some of us are those who sow corn and expect a harvest of potatoes.
Who would be ever so disappointed,
As much as someone like that would be?

We know we should say ‘I am sorry’ sometimes,
But our pride keeps us from saying it.
Doesn’t it matter to us that our friends and family are hurt,
When we fail to say “I am sorry, please forgive me?”

We know it’s good for us to give.
But we hoard the things we ought to share.
Have we forgotten the Master’s rule:
“Give and it shall be given to you?”

We know we should give thanks in all things,
But we say all things are not okay to give thanks, so we complain.
Are we now wiser than the Master,
Who said, “give thanks in all things?”

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Celebrating Two Years On The Blogosphere

Celebrating 2 years on the blogosphere
Victors’ Corner at 2!

It’s been exactly two years since this blog was started. I was a little nervous then when I hit the ‘publish’ button to push out the first post on the blog.

I had mild anxiety because I wasn’t very sure of what to expect on the blogosphere. The only thing I felt sure of was that finally I now have a properly coordinated avenue to share my thoughts with anyone who would be interested in reading them from anywhere around the world.

Before that time, I had my written thoughts spread on my diaries, notepad on my phone, various files on my laptop and some others I shared on my facebook page.

The blog is now providing wholesome inspiration for the family, life, and living – from a Christian worldview. More than I had previously envisaged, the positive impact has been great on me as well as on my readers. But I will quickly add that there is always room for more improvements.

To a very large extent, I have had fun writing this blog for two years running. For instance, you can imagine the pure joy I felt when a reader told me my post blessed her richly; or when a pastor-reader told me that my post gave him a handle to his Sunday sermon, or even when I reached the 100th WP follower milestone – although that threshold has since been surpassed in the last year.

I don’t know about you, but for me, the blogging journey has been more fulfilling than frustrating. Apart from the fact that I have learnt a lot along the line, that my posts have resonated with many people is also quite encouraging. Many thanks to all my readers who have given some positive feedbacks.

Of all the 116 posts published so far on this blog in the last two years, the 6 simple reasons to forgive offences has been most popular, going by the observation that it has garnered the highest number of individual post ‘likes’ on the blog till date. There have been other outstanding posts as well, the summary of which I had already written about.

The site statistics further show that I have readers from across all the continents of the world, although the majority of the readers are located in the United States of America.

When it comes to the most engaging follower of the blog in the past two years super granny Anne of Freedomborn – Aussie Christian Focus in far away Australia stands out as the topmost commentator.

Anne has a great heart for God. She equally loves the scriptures, always quoting relevant verses to back up her comments either in direct response to my own posts or in further response to some other readers’ comments. I strongly recommend her blog to you if you are not already following her.

These two years on the blogosphere have not been all rosy and smooth all the way. There have been discomforting moments I experienced too.

I can recall having more than a fair share of backlashes generated by a few of my posts. For instance, I was negatively attacked by some (mostly faceless) people on WordPress and on Twitter when I published some posts bothering on atheism.

Understandably, the posts drew the ire of some avowed atheists. Despite the fact that I shared the truths of the gospel in love in those posts,  they were very angry at me for doing so.

But if atheists claim there is no God, why does it bother them so much when we say God exists? That’s a question I will appreciate a well-informed answer to.

The flip side of the negative criticisms was that one of the posts on atheism, 16 sobering things every atheist should know, turned out to be one of the most liked posts of the blog. I can only be glad to have shared that post.

Contrary to what some readers claimed, the post was my most audacious attempt to reach out to atheists with the living gospel of Jesus Christ.

On the whole, this journey of two years in the world of blogging has been a time of touching lives and being touched too, inspiring people and being inspired too. I have no doubt that in the next two years in the blogosphere, I will still be here fulfilling my vision of “providing wholesome inspiration for the family, life, and living – from a Christian worldview.”

Thank you for reading! Your feedback will mean a lot to me.

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

No One Can Love You Like I Do 

No one else can love you like God.
Celebrating Valentine with love from above

Remember I made you in My own image
And then put you on the world stage.
But you turned your back at Me
Away from who you were meant to be

No matter how dark your ways are
I can make you shine like a star
I am the way, the truth and the light.
I can make your way shine so bright.

I have always shown you My love
Brought to the earth from Above
My love for you knows no bounds
Because you’re the one I’ve found

Remember I went all the way for you
So that you can fully come through
To where you are clothed with holiness
And filled with My own righteousness.

No one can love you like I do
It doesn’t really matter who!
All I want from you from the start
Is for you to give Me all your heart.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

One Special Kind Of Love You Should Embrace This Valentine

The greatest kind of love.
Experiencing the love of God.

Everybody is looking for love. And to love and be loved is one of the greatest feelings in life.

What kind of love are you searching for this Valentine? What kind of love have you experienced before? You might have experienced a form of love in the past. But  I will like you to experience the greatest kind of love there is.

Whether it is the love for the members of your family, love for a partner, friendship kind of love, none of them can last forever. But there is one special kind of love that will never pass away. That is the kind of love that supersedes all other kinds of love.

It is called the agape, the God-kind of love. It is the kind of love that made God give His Son for you. It is the kind of love that made Jesus Christ go all the way to the Cross for you.

More than anything else, you need to experience the God-kind of love. It is the kind of love you should live by. In it you will find true meaning for your life.

If you are yet to experience the love of God, you are not safe yet, either in this life or in the one to come. The good part is that God’s love is already given to you – made available in Jesus Christ to everyone.

All you need to do is to accept it and let it transform your life. No one can receive it for you.

The love of God is the only kind of love that can change your life forever. It is the love you should embrace.

3 reasons you should embrace God’s special kind of love

1. The love of God is unconditional

God loves you as you are. But He will never leave you as you are. He will make your life better than He met it. He is the greatest Lover there is.

2. There is security in the love of God

God is not a kind of lover that will love you today and jilt you the next day. His commitment to you is forever.

You have an assurance in His word that nothing can separate you from His love. In other words, there is an eternal security in the love of God.

3. You will have what it takes to love yourself and love others.

If you embrace the love of God you will be empowered to love yourself and love other people too. Those who neglect the love of God will never ever be able to truly love. It is God who gives you the capacity to love.

As you celebrate this Valentine’s Day, remember there is no greater love than the one God offers you. It is the most special kind of love you should embrace.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Living Life In God’s Name 1

Living life in God's name

This life is more than a game
I will have to live it in God’s name
I will live for only His purpose
And for all He will ever propose.

I will give it all my time
And put in all my dime
I will never like to give up
No matter how big the hiccup.

I know it will not be so easy
Neither can the road be rosy
But I’m ready to meet the marvel
No matter how far I’ll have to travel.

One thing I will have to tell you:
You will see me come through
Has it ever been done before?
I am ready to do much more.

That it can be well achieved
That I have long perceived
The eyes of flesh may not see it
But by faith I can see every bit

It would not have to be so long
Before we would tell who is wrong
I have not said I’m always right
But I can’t give up the good fight.

It is one thing to get a thing started
And yet another to get it completed
I know that He who has set me on
Is still there to keep me moving on.

Still Ahead: Living Life In God’s Name 2

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Have You Read My About Page Before?

Victor Uyanwanne
Victors’ Corner

Have you ever checked out my About page? I thought I should ask you that question and then offer you a veritable opportunity to do it if you haven’t already done so. But even if you have read it before, you still have something to gain by reading it again.

For most blogs, the about page is usually one of the most frequently checked-out pages. This blog is not an exception to that behavioural pattern.

Over the past several months that I have been writing on this blog, there have been concrete evidence that my about page has been frequently visited, read, liked or commented on. This is your chance to read it (again).

My About Page

My name is Victor Uyanwanne. I live in Lagos, Nigeria with my wife and two kids.

You are warmly welcome to my blog, Victors’ Corner – a blog dedicated to providing wholesome inspiration for the family, life, and living – from a Christian worldview.

The name, Victors’ Corner, has a little history behind it. But here it suffices to say that it serves as a reminder that YOU ARE A VICTOR.

Yes, you are a victor, not a victim! So am I, and every one of us here. Why did I say that? Because God has never made a failure! You are definitely not a failure! Take that from me.

Here on this blog, you will find items on Inspiration, Christian living, lively Poems, Family, blogging matters and any other thing that tickles my fancy packaged to enrich your life, with a view to inspiring you to living like a victor that you are.

Let us enjoy the victorious journey together. Feel free to explore the blog as you like. I am sure you will find something beneficial to you, your friends and family.

We are VICTORS together in this CORNER. Let’s continue to inspire each other unto greater things. Your feedback is important to me, so leave me a comment or two as you read my thoughts.

You don’t have to agree with me if my views on this blog differ from yours. But if you ever disagree with me, let me know too. We have a lot to learn from each other.

On the other hand, if you like any of my posts, let me know by hitting the like button below every post. I am sure your friends will like it too, so don’t forget to share it with them.

Do have a rewarding experience here on  Victors’ Corner!

Much love!

Victor.

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Your comments and suggestion are welcome.

 

This post was inspired by Tikeetha’s Welcome to my world

A Dream That Never Came Through!

What was once my dream car

Time changes things. Dreams do change over time too. The things you cherish today can become obsolete in no time. That’s what I found out about having a dream car.

Obsolescence is the state of being which occurs when an object, service, or practice is no longer wanted even though it may still be in good working order. Obsolescence frequently occurs because a replacement has become available that has, in sum, more advantages compared to the disadvantages incurred by maintaining or repairing the original…;Typically, obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity… Wikipedia

That last sentence from the above quote “…obsolescence is preceded by a gradual decline in popularity,” captures in part the spirit of this post. Read on, you will see why.

As a result of the passage of time, what was once a dream car for me has (well, expectedly) declined in popularity, leaving nothing but only unfulfilled memories. It is not that I am sad about the unfulfilled childhood dreams. But I am glad that I had dreams as a child that once in a while pop up in the physical reality of my adult life.

For instance, on my way home from work recently, I saw something that brought back memories that made me smile. It is the car you see in this picture above. I was caught up right behind it in a very slow moving traffic. So I had the ample chance to take that photo shot.

“Why did I smile,” you may ask? I smiled at the sight of the car because right then I remembered when that same type of car used to be my dream car. That was about 28 years ago… when yours truly was just a boy.

Then, I was still in primary (elementary) school. I had a strong liking for the referenced model of car. And I had imagined that I would one day drive it when I grew up, had become an undergraduate or a bachelor.

“How wonderful it would be to cruise around in such a nice ‘sport’ car” I had envisioned. Yes, right or wrong, I had the thought that the car was ‘sporty’ yet classy for me. But that pre-teen dream of driving it or owning it never came through. In fact, I didn’t even get to own any car as an undergraduate.

But much time has passed since then… As you might rightly expect, the once-upon-a-time dream car now looks so obsolete to me; so much so that I can’t even desire it any longer.

I say so because it is like nothing I want now. I drive a ‘nice’ car now, alright. But it is not my dream car yet.

Of course, when it comes to having my dream car, the bar has been pushed higher over time. From dreaming about having something simple and classy, my idea of a dream car has now metamorphosed into having something more fantastic than the one I had as an elementary school pupil.

I now desire a sophisticated vehicle properly fitted with appropriate functionalities, better than the modest one I currently own. But then I ask myself, why have a dream car, when the one you desire today can easily become out of fashion tomorrow?

New models of cars are churned out each year, with better fittings and functionalities. So why continue to have a dream car without having the strong economic power required to make the dream come through?

But keep in mind, this is not just about dream cars only. It is about all our pursuits as human beings. The things we cherish so passionately today gradually will usually decline in popularity over time. Sooner than later, we find ourselves back to where we started – feeling unsatisfied and wanting for more.

In the final analysis, only dreams of eternal value are worth pursuing. Only things that will count in the light of eternity should truly count for us.

What’s your take on this?

 

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Thomas The Disciple: More Than A Doubter 2

Read: Thomas The Disciple: More Than A Doubter 1

One of the Disciples of Jesus by name, Thomas has been branded the “doubting Thomas,” by all and sundry just because he refused to believe the report of the resurrection of Jesus until he had to see Jesus face to face. For a long time in my life, just like many other Christians, that was the only thing I knew about this disciple Thomas: he was a doubter, so I learnt. But I have now found out that he was more than a doubter.

Unfortunately, Thomas has become “a victim of bad press” over the years. Hence, people always talk about his (understandable) failure to believe the Resurrection story without a physical proof more than they talk about any other thing about him.

But if you check the Bible, you can find some interesting things about this disciple that is worth rehashing. Let me refresh your memories with the following:

3 unheralded qualities of Thomas the disciple.

3 unheralded qualities of Thomas The Disciple:

1. Thomas was humble but inquisitive.

One of the greatest declarations Jesus ever made in His lifetime on Earth was: I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6.

This statement alone sets Christianity light years apart from the so-called other religions of the world. Imagine the audacity of Jesus in declaring categorically, “I am the Way to God, none other except me.”

Jesus either meant every word in that statement or He was an imposter. But you can be sure that Jesus is the One He said He is: the Only Way to God!

Do you know that it was Thomas that asked the all-important question that gave rise to that mind-blowing revelation by Jesus? Thomas’ humility was on display when he asked that question in order to learn.

At a critical point in time, Jesus had announced to His disciples that He was going away from them, speaking indirectly of His impending death, expected Resurrection and subsequent ascension to Heaven. But that puzzling speech from the lips of Jesus proved too hard for the bewildered disciples to fully comprehend. Yet they kept their ominous peace without asking further questions.

Jesus apparently had assumed that His disciples knew where He was going to when He told them He would be going away from them. But it was Thomas who bailed them out by humbly saying to Jesus, “Master, we don’t even know where you are going, so how can we know the way?”

Thomas saith unto him, Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way? Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:5-6.

If Thomas had not asked that question, Jesus might not have had the awesome opportunity to declare that He is the Way, the Truth and the Life: the ONLY way to God.

Thomas Vs Nicodemus With Jesus

Compare this exchange between Jesus and Thomas with the ever popular Nicodemus’s encounter with Jesus in the night. This notable religious leader too is often criticised in some circles for going to see Jesus secretly.

But that singular visit provided the Lord Jesus Christ with the most auspicious opportunity to introduce the concept and meaning of being born again to Nicodemus and by extension to all of us. Perhaps we might not have had it explained that way if not for Nicodemus’s secret visit to Jesus.

There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God… John 3:1-7

Just like in Nicodemus’s case, this interaction of Thomas with Jesus proved most advantageous. For one Thomas did not pretend that he knew what Jesus meant by keeping mute like the other Disciples. He was humble and inquisitive enough at the same time to ask the right up questions and thankfully, he got the right answers from Jesus.

2. Thomas was a man of courage and loyalty.

No one will doubt the loyalty of a disciple who is willing to die with or for his master. That was the case of Thomas and Jesus.

Did Thomas ever express any willingness to die with Jesus? The answer is definitely, ‘Yes.’

Jesus once had a near-death experience while in Judea. The people there wanted to kill Him but He managed to escape from them.

Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am. Then took they up stones to cast at him: but Jesus hid himself, and went out of the temple, going through the midst of them, and so passed by. John 8:59

However, Jesus later received a special message from Mary and Martha that their brother, a friend of Jesus’, was terribly ill unto death (John 11:1-3). So Jesus began to make plans to visit them again in Bethany. But all His disciples except Thomas, were like, “Master, you dare not go back again to Judea because you almost lost your life the last time you went there.

Our man Thomas, unlike the other Disciples, did not protest the decision of Jesus to go back to Bethany despite the assumed danger ahead. He showed uncommon courage by not only encouraging Jesus to go back there, he also showed a great deal of loyalty to Jesus by offering to go with Him or even to die with Him, persuading the rest disciples to do the same.

Jesus eventually went to Bethany. There He performed one of the greatest miracles ever: bringing Lazarus to back to life.

3. Thomas was outspoken and influential.

Thomas was not a man to die in silence. He was one that spoke his mind whenever he had to. For instance:

  • When the other Disciples did not say anything when Jesus thought that they should know where He was going, it was Thomas who spoke up and informed Jesus that they did not know the way, neither did they know where Jesus was heading to at the time.
  • When the other Disciples protested to Jesus going back to Judea due to the threat to his life, it was the same Thomas who insisted that they should all go with Jesus despite the perceived death threat.
  • When the other Disciples informed Thomas that Jesus had risen and appeared to them, Thomas was still able to stand his ground, maintaining a very independent opinion that until he saw Jesus with his own eyes and felt His pieced body with His own hands, he would not believe.

From these examples, one can safely surmise that Thomas had the ears of the other disciples: they listened whenever he talked. In other words, Thomas had a good level of influence over the rest of the disciples.

Beyond the popular belief that Thomas is a doubter, let’s also begin to see that:

  • He was a humble person, admitting it whenever he didn’t know or understand what Jesus said;
  • He was bold enough to ask imperative questions that provoked revelations from Jesus;
  • He was a fearless and loyal disciple of Christ who was willing to risk his life with Jesus;
  • He was very outspoken and more influential than he ever got credit for.

What do you think?

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

Thomas The Disciple: More Than A Doubter 1

Thomas the Didymus, Apostle Thomas

When you hear the name ‘Thomas’ in the Bible, what comes to your mind? If you are like most people I know, I guess your mind will immediately think of ‘the doubting Thomas,’ the incredulous member of the 12 disciples of Jesus Christ.

Thomas came to be associated with that uncomplimentary adjective when he understandably doubted the impossible news that Jesus Christ had risen from the dead. This was because as at the time the risen Jesus showed Himself physically to His followers, Thomas was away to only-God-knows-where.

But Thomas, one of the twelve, called Didymus, was not with them when Jesus came. John 20:24

While Thomas was AWOL, the news of Jesus’ Resurrection had broken out amongst His disciples giving them great joy. And Jesus had presented Himself to His disciples too. But Thomas would take none of that, saying, he would not believe the resurrection story until he saw Jesus face to face.

The other disciples therefore said unto him, We have seen the Lord. But he said unto them, Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and thrust my hand into his side, I will not believe. John 20:25.

Talk about someone who says seeing is believing! That was our man, brother Thomas. Don’t you know at least one person in your life that is like that, who will not believe anything except he or she sees it? Or maybe you are even like that yourself!

Thomas had his wish come through, but not immediately. It took another eight days before the doubting disciple became a confirmed ‘believer’. That was how long it took before Jesus appeared physically again to the Disciples.

Of course, Jesus was not ignorant of the fact that Thomas had not believed the Resurrection story. Hence He said to him, “….Thomas, reach hither thy finger, and behold my hands; and reach hither thy hand, and thrust [it] into my side: and be not faithless, but believing.” John 20:27.

It sounded like Jesus was saying to him, “Thomas, why do you doubt so much? Here, come touch me, feel me now… Are you convinced now?”

Thomas said to him, “My Lord and my God!” Then Jesus told him, “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed. John 20:28-29

At that juncture, all the doubts in Thomas had vanished. With the overwhelming evidence right before him, he had no other choice than to acknowledge the ‘First Born from the dead’ as both ‘Lord and God.’

Beyond the popular view that portrays Thomas as a doubter, a sceptic or an incredulous person, the outcome of this recorded exchange between the resurrected Lord and His hitherto unbelieving disciple, Thomas, affords us one of the indisputable written firsthand evidence of the physical Resurrection of Jesus Christ available to us today. It is a valid record that after His Resurrection, someone actually touched Jesus by the nail marks on His hands and feet, and His arrow-pieced side.

This showed a solid and indisputable connection between the same Jesus that was crucified on the cross and the One that resurrected and showed Himself to His disciples that He lives.

Beyond being labelled a doubter for seeking a physical proof before believing that Jesus had resurrected, Thomas should be appreciated for the role he played in having Jesus present Himself again to His disciples (and to the world) in order to further verify His resurrection from death through a conscious physical examination of the resurrected body.

In what way do you relate to Thomas behaviour? Was his doubt justified? Your comments are welcome.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

2016 In Review: Top 10 Posts On This Blog

 

10 most liked post
10 Most Liked Posts On Victorscornerdotorg.wordpress.com in 2016

Based on the posts with the highest number of likes, here are the summaries of the top 10 posts on this blog in 2016:

 # 10. Towards A better Marriage: 6 Simple Reasons You Should Not Blame Your Spouse

  • When you blame your spouse for everything that goes wrong in your marriage, you paint the false picture that you are perfect.
  • You hurt your spouse’s feelings when you heap the blame on him/her every time, without taking any responsibility yourself.
  • You risk being resented by your spouse if you continue the blame game.
  • As you already know, you will not be able to build a happy and healthy relationship with anyone if you blame or resent him/her a lot.
  • Blaming your spouse does not solve the problem in your marriage.
  • Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated.

# 9. Can Unhappy Parents Raise Happy Children?

I want to be a happy father to my children and a happy husband to my wife. After all, a grumpy man would not make a good companion to anyone – family or not family. This is part of the reason I have realised that I should strive to always have my emotions under control…

It seems logical to think that unhappy parents may not be able to raise happy children. And I don’t want to be caught in that web.

#8. How You Can Know God At The Friendship Level

Distinguished and best-selling Author, Rick Warren, in one of his devotional articles, stated that there are three levels of knowing God: recognition, acquaintance, and friendship.

To know someone deeply, you have to regularly talk to, or spend time with, him or her. Knowing God deeply is not different from that. Except you are willing to regularly fellowship with God, talk to Him as a friend and let Him talk to you too, you may never get to know Him at the deepest level possible.

#7. Communication in Marriage: 4 Super Lessons In A Surprising Way

Various situations could arise in your marital relationship that may want to force a communication gap between you and your spouse. But don’t allow for a breakdown in communication between you both. If communication fails, many other things will fail along.

  • In a thorny situation in your marriage, know that your spouse is not the thorn.
  • If your spouse wears an unusual outlook, you as the other half should show persistent care (by asking) to find out what the problem is.
  • If your spouse slows down in communicating with you, that’s not the time for you to withdraw from him/her.
  • Be strong for your spouse by whispering to him/her that you are there for him/her

#6. Jesus: 8 Special Things About The Baby That Changed The World

Jesus was more than a baby. He is the God-incarnate. As the Saviour of the world, in Him lies the eternal hope of mankind. Here are some special things about Him that set Him apart from any other man in recorded history:

  • Jesus’ miraculous conception by a virgin.
  • His conception by a virgin and birth were both undeniable fulfilment of Prophecies.
  • He wasn’t born to earthly royalty, but angels heralded His birth.
  • The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world.
  • Jesus was born to die.
  • Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection.
  • He is the only one giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him.

#5. Finding The Friend That Sticks Closer Than A Brother

There’s one thing I have come to know.
Many friends will always come and go.
Their going away may not be caused by strife.
It is a normal phenomenon of this life…

We can always find a friend in the Lord Jesus,
Who has promised He’ll always be there for us.
Whatever we go through in this time and space,
We can get succour by looking unto His face

#4. Towards A Better Marriage: Your Spouse Is Not The Problem

A problem is a problem and your spouse is your spouse. Please don’t mistake one for another.

Next time you have any marital issue, be sure to remind yourself that your spouse is not the problem. Identify what the issue is and focus on tackling it.

#3. Sixteen Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know

If you don’t want to end up in the wrong destination, you should not continue on the journey in the wrong direction. The prodigal son found his back to his father, so can you! If you are an atheist, here are 16 sobering truths I wish you to know:

  • God exists – whether you believe it or not.
  • To know God, check the Bible
  • God loves you, I thought you should know.
  • God is not angry with you.
  • Jesus Christ is the only Way to God.
  • You are not the first person to doubt the existence of God.
  • The Bible has a word for anyone who doesn’t believe there is God…FOOL.
  • There have been people who turned from atheism to God and so can you.
  • Your lifetime is your only opportunity for you to know God.
  • Whatever misgivings you have about God can be handled.
  • God has numerous children and He has room for you too.
  • If you die today, where would you spend eternity?
  • The problem of sin cannot be solved except in Christ Jesus.
  • You are accountable to God, now or later.
  • There is a future reality called Hellfire, for everyone who rejects Jesus.
  • Very far from God is not too far yet.

#2. A Broken Piece of Heart

For many years, I went about my life
With a broken piece of heart, bleeding.
No one could fill the great void I felt
Or mend the awfully shattered part of me…

But then I met the greatest Friend and Lover
Who truly loved me as I am, unconditionally.
The One who gave up His life for me
And gave me a brand new heart too.

#1. Six Simple Reasons To Forgive Offences

Everyone needs forgiveness.  On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too. Here are 5 simple reasons you should learn to forgive others:

  • God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too.
  • Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it.
  • Don’t you expect others to forgive you too?
  • Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix.
  • You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise.
  • Forgive yourself so you can forgive others.

 

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to comment.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

6 Simple Reasons You Should Be Doing What You Love

Following your passion

It is a brand new year. A new beginning. How about spending the whole year following your passion or doing what you love? It is not impossible to do so! And this post will show you why.

I was going through a blog recently when I  came across what I would consider a brutally honest statement that got me thinking deeply. “I have never done anything that I truly loved, except for mommyhood,” said the author of that blog.

The curious part to me is that the author said she possesses three academic degrees. So I took it that her statement quoted above couldn’t have been because she didn’t have any good opportunities at all. But rather because, she probably had not found one that sufficiently fit her love and passion at the “right price.”

“As far as getting paid to do something [is concerned],” she explained, “it has been hard to find a truly good fit for me.” While pondering on the issue, it didn’t take too long for me to see that many people have been caught up in the same job quagmire – against their innermost desires.

If you are one of such persons, maybe it’s time to have a rethink! By that I mean, it is either you find a way to love what you do, or you find what you love and begin to do it.

If you are for the latter option, then make a change! Take the risk…Branch out!  Or how long are you going to continue doing what you don’t love?

“As long as it pays my bills,” you might want to say. That’s a familiar answer, I know. But if that matters to you more than self-actualisation or personal fulfilment, then the choice is entirely yours to maintain the status quo. Nothing more to worry about!

In that case, you may want to take my first suggestion: find a way to love what you do. But there are people who will argue that it is better to follow your passion than being stuck in a job you don’t like just because of the economic reward it offers – money!

But then, the question will be, “Is making good money and following your passion mutually exclusive in the long run?” Maybe not…

But who says you can’t possibly find a job that you love that pays your bills too? Who says more money will not follow you if you follow your passion?

Why then are you feeling stuck doing the job you don’t love? Could it be because you are afraid of making the necessary changes in your personal goals? Or is it that you don’t want to leave your comfort zone? Or vacate certainty for uncertainty?

Overall, it could be very frustrating spending your valuable time (life) doing what you hate. On the other hand, doing what you love in the long run can:

1. Make you happier in life;

2. Boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm at the job;

3. Bring you some level of personal fulfilment you might not find doing something else;

4. Mean less frustration  for you on the job;

5. Enable you to make more impact in your sphere of influence; and hopefully,

6. Bring you more reward (financial and/or otherwise).

Are you already doing what you love? And are you getting paid handsomely for doing it? I believe that’s what the author I cited earlier was angling for.

You too should get to the point of doing what you love and making money through it as well. It is possible. That’s where the ultimate fun and fulfilment are.

If you are already there, please enjoy it and don’t forget to share your story so that millions of people out there can learn from you. But it has to be said that everything is not about doing what you love and making much money through it. Adding value to people’s lives also matters.

Thank you for reading my thoughts. Share yours in the comment section.

©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

10 Suggestions to Still Be Happy While Reviewing Your Goals In The Past Year

Now that the year is ending, you can choose to focus on the things that made you happy on dwell on things that made you sad during the year.  I will urge you to choose the former.

At one point or another during the outgoing year, just like anyone else, you might have experienced what someone described as “the good, the bad and the ugly.” But that doesn’t mean you should ‘kill’ yourself.

It is time to move on…

You have survived the year 2016, and 2017 is there for you to conquer. Do not jeopardise your interests in the new year by dwelling so much on the mistakes of the previous year.

There are more opportunities awaiting you in the coming years than the ones you might have lost in the past. Stay focused… you will get to the promised land.

So as you review your goals for 2016, here are some suggestions I will like to give you:

  1. Find more reasons to be cheerful than you can find to be tearful.

  2. Count your blessings, not your losses.

  3. Focus on your gains rather than on your pains.

  4. Be thankful for everything, and regretful for nothing.

  5. Appreciate people and begrudge no one.

  6. Be grateful for the answered prayers rather than be bitter about the yet-to-be-answered ones.

  7. Think of the faces that smiled at you more than the ones that frowned at you.

  8. Celebrate the positive developments in your life rather than continue to regret over the negative ones.

  9. Be positive about life, not negative.

  10. Embrace the new year with renewed hopes and vigour.

Whatever might have happened to you in 2016 is now in the past. There is no use crying over spilt milk if things didn’t work out well – the way you expected them to. It is now time to be ushered into the new year with new hopes and new aspirations.

Happy New Year!

From Me To You: Thank You For Being There.

Thank you, Victor Uyanwanne

As we round off the year 2016, I wish to use this opportunity to appreciate every one of you for being there for me throughout the year. Without you, this blog would not have been a success so far in any way.

That you spend your valuable time to read my posts and the feedbacks you have given me till now have greatly encouraged me to keep on writing. So from the deepest enclave of my heart, I want to express my profound appreciations to:

  • Every one of you that visited the blog and read any of my posts.

Your time here means a lot to me. Now I know that I am not writing for myself alone. Thank you for visiting and reading. I am glad that the experience has been rewarding to you as some of you were kind enough to let me know.

  • Every one of you that showed you appreciated my articles by hitting that delightful button ‘Like.’

You put smiles on my face each time you clicked the ‘like’ button at the end of my posts. I would not know you liked my written thoughts without this recorded kind gesture.

You can only imagine how grateful I am to have you show that you liked any of my posts through that sublime button. Please keep the flag flying.

  • Every one of you that went the extra mile of commenting on my posts.

Not only did you read my thoughts, you also let me know yours through your comments in my posts. It doesn’t matter whether you agreed with my opinions or not, your comments are always welcome. I made sure I read all of them.

To me, your comments are like a goldmine; there are always some treasures to pick from there. In the coming year, I will be sharing some of the things I gained from reading your comments on my posts.

Victor Uyanwanne's Facebook book followers in 2016

  • Every one of you that lent your voices to my posts by reblogging them on your sites or sharing them through any of your social media handles.

Considering the huge volume of posts churned out by bloggers on daily basis, it is privilege enough for me that you read my posts. That you went the extra mile to sharing them with your own followers or audiences, friends and families, was really fantastic. Thank you so much for the kind gesture.

  • Every one of you that follows the blog either through your WordPress accounts or through email subscriptions.

I greatly appreciate your interest in my posts and the awesome privilege you have given me to continuously share my thoughts with you. Thank you for the immense trust and loyalty reposed on me. The relationship has been mutually beneficial, I must say.

  • Every one of you that gave one suggestion or another that helped improved the readers’ experiences on this site.

I thank you all for sticking out your necks for me. I am not tired of taking your suggestions. So keep them coming. Smiles.

Thank You

  • Every one of you that I followed your blogs, read your posts, commented on your posts, liked your posts or shared your posts.

Thank you for being a source of encouragement, information, education, inspiration, and even entertainment. One way or another, your blog was a blessing in the outgoing year. I look forward to reading from you again in the coming year.

I appreciate you all very much for all your immense support. The outgoing year 2016 has been great and the coming one, 2017, promises to be even greater.

I will be here for you. Please be there for me, as we continue joyously on this journey of inspiring one another to higher heights.

  • Everyone else not mentioned in any of the above categories.

Thank you and thank you again.

Remain blessed as always.

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

What Jesus Wants On His Birthday


I know some of you know Me already.
But many of you are yet to know Me personally.
You must have heard about Me before.
As my Name is regularly called amongst the nations.

I can see you feel happy this special season.
And I really like that… but you deserve much more.
I can feel the special and colourful atmosphere.
Pervading across many lands around the world.

The special emphasis on love and giving this season.
The special music playing in homes and malls for the same reason.
The beautiful decorations all around are all noticed.
All is well and good and appreciable.

You say it’s about a Baby that was born by a virgin.
You are right; it happened several centuries ago.
But do you know I Am that  Baby?
Much more than that… I am the Lord and Saviour.

You commemorate My birthday yearly at Christmas.
Celebrating it by all means and ways possible.
Eating the best of meals and drinking the best of wines.
Exchanging gifts amongst yourselves.

You and everyone seem to be happy.
As you spend your time and money.
Visiting people and visiting places.
And throwing parties here and there.

You do all that because of Me?… fine!
But do you know what I really I want from you?
I mean, am I not the One you are celebrating?
At Least I should get a special gift from you!

But do you know the gift I ask of you?
I don’t really want your money.
I don’t want your sacrifices either.
I don’t want whatever you have to give.

You care to know what I really want from you?
I will tell you once again and again:
I want you to know Me personally.
That’s what I really want from you.

You can begin by giving Me your life.
I have given Mine to you already.
That was why I was born, you know!
That was why I lived and died!


It’s time you rewrote your life’s story.
It breaks my heart that year in year out.
You celebrate My birthday religiously.
Without knowing Me the true Celebrant.

Yes, I am the One you celebrate His birth at Christmas.
I am the “Reason for the Season.”
In case you haven’t noticed it before.
My name (Christ) is the main part of Christmas.

Yes, I am Christ the anointed One.
I am Jesus Christ of Nazareth, Son of God.
I was born, I lived, and I died for you.
All I want is for You to know Me personally.

I knew you before you were born.
I invite you to come and know Me now.
So we can be together forever in glory.
Through this life and the one to come.

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

​Jesus: 8 Special Things About The Baby That Changed The World.

Jesus, the baby that changed the world
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The birth of baby Jesus was not an ordinary event. In His birth, divinity became humanity. It was the beginning of the unfolding of the grandest heavenly agenda in bringing salvation to mankind.

Jesus was not an ordinary man that lived. He was the God-incarnate. As we celebrate His birth at Christmas, let’s remember some of the things about the baby or the man Jesus that changed the world.

Here are 8 special things about Jesus that rewrote the history of the world:

1. Jesus’ miraculous conception by a virgin.

Mary the mother of Jesus was a virgin when she got pregnant with baby Jesus.

The conception of Jesus did not take the usual union of the male sperm with the female ova. He was supernaturally conceived through the power of the Holy Spirit of God. This is the most unique conception in the history of mankind.

And the angel answered and said unto her, The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God. Luke 1:35.

2. His conception by a virgin and birth were undeniable  fulfillment of Prophecies.

The birth of Jesus Christ by a virgin was not a chance occurrence. It was a miraculous event in fulfillment of a divine prophecy given several years before He was born.

Notable Prophet Isaiah had spoken well ahead of time:

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign: the virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and will call him Immanuel. Isaiah 7:14.

3. Jesus got His name several centuries before He was born.

Not only was the virgin birth of Jesus prophesied, His name, Immanuel (Hebrew) or Emmanuel (Roman) was also revealed long before He was born. As Prophet Isaiah stated, “…The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and will call him Immanuel.”

“God with us,” that’s the meaning of Emmanuel. God had to take on the form of man, to be with man to be able to save mankind. Hence Jesus had to be born on Earth like a baby.

Unique things about the birth, life, death and resurrection of Jesus.

When it was time for the fulfillment of the promise, an angel announced to the ‘highly favoured’ Mary, “And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS” Luke 1:31.

Jesus is Saviour. His name revealed His purpose: to save the world from sin. An angel also later confirmed the Isaiah prophecy to Jesus’ would-be-earthly-father, Joseph, saying:

And she  shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins” Matthew 1:21.

Apostle Matthew further educates us saying, “Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us.” Matthew 1:22-23.

4. He wasn’t born to earthly royalty, but angels heralded His birth.

Apart from the divine promise of Jesus’ birth, angels announced His birth when it took place.

And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. Luke 2:9-11.

5. The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world. 

God gave His Son to the world to show that He loves the world. As recorded in the gospel according to John,

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16

6. Jesus was born to die.

Jesus was born to be the Saviour of the world. To be Saviour He had to die for the sins of the world. At Christmas, we celebrate His birth and at Easter, His death and resurrection.

Speaking about His then impending death, Jesus said, “The Son of Man will go just as it is written about him….” Matthew 26:24a.

What was written about Jesus in this regard? The New Living Translation of the same verse makes it clear:

For the Son of Man must die, as the Scriptures declared long ago…

Babies are born to fulfill their purposes in their lifetime. But it was in Jesus’ death and resurrection that He fulfilled the ultimate purpose of His birth – the redemption of mankind.

“In order to save the world, Jesus had to die for it. He came and lived the perfect life and then died the death we should have died. The true meaning of Christmas is that Jesus was born to die. Because He was crucified and then rose from the dead, forgiveness of sin and assurance of heaven is now offered to all who believe” (John 1:12) –  Richard Dehaan.

7. Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection.

Men are born, they live, they die and they remain dead. But Jesus was born, He lived, He died and resurrected. He is alive forevermore.

The living Jesus proclaims:

I [am] he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive for evermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death. Rev. 1:18.

8. He is the only one giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him.

The baby Jesus that was born by a virgin, Mary, lived and died but resurrected. He is alive forevermore giving eternal life to all that comes to Him.

And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any [man] pluck them out of my hand. John 10:28.

Jesus was more than a baby. He is the God-incarnate. As the Saviour of the world, in Him lies the eternal hope of mankind. Remember that as you celebrate this Christmas.

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©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

Conversations With Atheist 2

Conversations with atheists 2

Background Post: 16 Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know 

This is the second post in the series, conversations with atheists. In the first post, we saw the comment of an atheist who claimed he is not destined for the love of God. Here in the second post, we will explore the conversations with another commentator to the referenced post,  16 Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know .

During my interactions with him, he asked what came across like honest questions. So I was obliged to respond to him as much as I could.

Please enter the conversation (it is a bit long please).

Commentator 2

Hi there.

This is just my opinion but what a terrible and hurtful post.

I mean what happens to the less fortunate in life who have to deal with the ‘devils temptations’ on a day to day basis compared to the person who is wealthy and rarely troubled in practical terms. I mean a young person living in an impoverished third world country cannot be judged the same as a middle class Londoner and if that’s the case I disagree strongly.

I mean if I was a small child and a group of people burst into my home and killed my brother, raped my mother and sister and burned my village and turned me into a child soldier would I be judged the same throughout my life as someone who works as shop assistant in a grocery store in London. How does that work? Surely there’s going to be some issues there regarding level playing field.

Not to get all judgemental or anything but God doesn’t even seem like that nice a thing to be honest. He seems like a mystical dictator representing thug life and using life as a playground. I demand I go to ‘hell’ consider it my protest. I mean c’mon, god seriously needs to get his house in order.

Would you say anything about god is dubious or questionable? I personally hate how it plays on fears we all might have and frankly I just don’t have time for it. If you don’t believe in god, are you able to love? God is love, what even is that? I mean These are the kind of statements you hear during a weekend spent taking hallucinogens.

I feel we all have a god of sorts inside us that is our morality, standards, aspiration etc… A life-long developing mentality.

How can anyone know god exists? I accept you can believe of course but this post is something else.

I don’t really believe in anything, I guess there could be a higher power of sorts out there, maybe not. Who actually knows?

Have a great day:)

My Response

Hi G, thanks for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate that you had to share your ‘opinion’ as you called it. But I feel that probably a few things weren’t clear to you.

Of course, there is a ‘Higher power’ as you chose to call Him. But we know Him as God, the creator of Heaven and Earth. Whether you believe in Him or not doesn’t take away anything from His existence, because He is all sufficient by Himself. But it is in your best interest to believe in Him.

In any case, you seem not to know anything about Him as you painted Him a wicked ‘man’ which He is not. I will like to introduce Him to you as a loving Father who loves you so much He made a provision for the redemption of your soul. Or haven’t you ever wondered what you would do about your sins?

Of course, anyone can know that God exists – including you. Because anyone who seeks God with all His heart will find Him. Many people around the world have found Him and so can you!

What He wants from you now is to have a personal relationship with Him through His son Jesus Christ. Feel free to let me know if you want to know how this works.

In response to the issue on judgment you raised, I will tell you one thing: God will not judge anyone based on whether you lived (as you put it) in London or in some third world country or any other part of the world for that matter. His judgment will be based on the simple but vital question “Did you accept or reject the grace of salvation which I (God) offered to the world through Jesus Christ?.”

It will be an individual thing and everyone will answer for himself; you will answer the same question too. And your lifetime is your only opportunity to decide on that.
You have a nice day too!

Commentator 2

I see but surely one’s decisions will be greatly influenced by what has happened in one’s life. Like I am going to find it a lot more difficult to accept salvation if one has been tested in far more hurtful ways and a tougher environment than say another.

Thanks for the reply.

My Response

G, I agree with you that one’s experiences in life may affect his decisions. That’s understandable. But having experienced a hard life doesn’t mean one cannot accept salvation. In fact, there are several people whom it was their suffering/hardship that led them to accept salvation. When they found that they reached their end, they decided to seek God and got help.

Jesus Christ actually made a special invitation to everyone experiencing burdens in life. He promised them rest they can’t find anywhere else (Matthew 11:28).

But one should not actually wait until he reaches a dead end before coming to God. In any case, whether one has a good/easy or a hard life on earth now, everyone needs God. No exceptions.

Commentator 2

Also someone born closer to the time the events of christ etc… took place are going to have a much easier time having faith than those born thousands of years later. It seems like such an uneven playing field.

In an ideal world, it would be great to be able to believe in a just fair god but if god said such and such is wrong and that such and such is right would that be the way no questions asked because it is the will of god?

I mean what about women’s role in the society (what’s that all about!), the LGBT community who just want to be happy or dietary stuff. In terms of how out of touch God is with the world, it amazes me when the bible I think says that if you lust after a woman you see on television you have committed adultery, seriously? What do you think about these?

If anything god really lacks foresight as the world has developed to the extent that it is nearly impossible to adhere to his laws.

To me, he is a dictator with some proper disturbing views that maybe was a sign of the times but still.

For example, how would you interpret the following?

Numbers 31:17-18

“Now therefore, kill every male among the little ones, and kill every woman that hath known man by lying with him. But all the women children, that have not known a man by lying with him, keep alive for yourselves”.

Thanks

My Response

G, I appreciate your time here. So I will try to answer your questions to the best of my knowledge. (Pardon the lengthy words please):

  • I understand your assumption that people that lived around Jesus Christ’s time would find it easier to believe in Him than the people after that time. But that’s not exactly what Biblical records and history tell us. There were people who rejected Jesus then as there are people who are rejecting Him in our days now. One thing is sure though: there are more followers of Jesus Christ now in the world presently than there have ever been at any time in history. The Gospel of Christ is what people need to hear to believe in Jesus Christ, not whether or not they lived in Jesus time.
  • God is a God of justice. But He didn’t say we should not ask questions, as you suggested. In fact in Isaiah 41:21, God Himself challenges us with this: “Present your case,” says the LORD. “Set forth your arguments,” says Jacob’s King. In another place, He says to us “Come now, let us reason together…” Isaiah 1:18. So if we have questions, feel free to ask. The only difference is whether or not one asks genuinely.
  • Of course, God has roles for women in the society, no doubt about that. But it may not be in the way some people have understood it to be.
  • Everyone (not just the LGBT community you mentioned) has right to seek happiness and God approves of that too. In fact, Jesus says He wants our joy to be full. But it is in knowing God that there is a real joy and happiness.
  • G, God is not out of touch with the world as you suggested. It is even more appropriate to say that it is the people of the world that are losing touch of God. All men, including you, need to get know God better.
  • You sounded funny with your comment on ‘lust’. Be reminded that the dictionary defines lust as “strong sexual desire.” Is it appropriate to have a strong sexual desire for any woman you see on TV, (as you put it)? I will let you know that God doesn’t want people having strong sexual desires for someone OTHER THAN THEIR SPOUSE. I hope that’s clear enough?
  • You can’t keep all the laws on your own; no one can. But you can accept Jesus and He will give you the grace to please Him.
  • God is not a dictator as you believe. The story of killings you referred to in Numbers, was God’s judgment on the Midianites for their ‘sins’ AT THAT TIME. But you see, by the grace that Jesus Christ has brought to the world, God is not PRESENTLY judging people that way. We are in a time of GRACE now. As the Bible says, “God is patient towards us all, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” And NOW IS THE DAY OF SALVATION!

Thanks for your time.

Food for Thought.

  • Does it make sense that someone would demand to go to hell than believe that God exists?
  • Will God judge anyone based on where he lived ( whether he lived in developing or developed country)?
  • What is the basis of morality of atheists, since they don’t believe in God?
  • Is suffering leading people to, or away from God?
  • How do you explain the love of God to an atheist?

What do you think?

5 Simple Ways A Christian Youth Can Build His or Her Self Confidence

the righteous are as bold as a lion.

Every body needs to have self-confidence – that “feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.” Not much progress can be made by a life ravaged by self-doubt, especially if you are a young person.

Earlier in the year, I had the privilege of being invited to speak to a group of Christian youths. The talk centred on building self-confidence as a Christian youth. This post presents an excerpt from the things I shared with those beautiful young minds.

5 simple ways you can consistently build up your self-confidence.

1. Live righteously

As a Christian youth, don’t be a law-breaker. Live righteously and you will have no course to bury your head in shame. Provide 28:1 tells us that “The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.”

There is a kind of self-confidence that comes from living a righteous life that you can’t get by any other means. In other words, living righteously makes you bold.  You cannot afford to live your life anyhow. The word of God should be your ultimate guide in life.

How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. Psalm 119:9.

Obedience to the word of God will help you build your self-esteem. David boldly said, “… I would not be put to shame when I consider all your commands,” Psalm 119:6.

2. Have a good image about yourself.

As a Christian youth, how do you see yourself? How you see yourself will affect your level of confidence.

Remember that you are a son or a daughter of the most-high God. Do not harbour thoughts that undermine this lofty position of yours.

You know what the Bible says: As a man thinks in his heart, so is he  (Prov. 23:7). We can paraphrase this to read, “As a youth thinks in his heart so is he.”

When it comes to building your self-confidence as a Christian youth, it matters how you see yourself. If you see yourself as a nonentity, you will carry yourself as one. If you see yourself as a beloved child of God, you naturally feel that way.

You should have a positive image of who you are. If you always think negatively about yourself, your self-esteem will be low and your confidence level will be low too.

Focus on who you are in Christ. That’s your most important identity. Don’t let anything else define you. Irrespective of your socioeconomic status, remember that Christ in you is the hope of glory.

3. Dress well

As a Christian youth, you can’t feel confident about yourself dressing in a sloppy way. Let your dressing be always on point and you will have one more reason to feel confident. As the late Archbishop Benson Idahosa once advised, “Dress the way you want to be addressed.”

You don’t have to dress outlandishly to prove a point. Dress neatly and smartly. Even the Bible says, “wash your clothes,” (Numb 21:24), so personal cleanliness should be taken seriously.

4. Be very good at what you do.

This is a challenge to be excellent in whatever you do. Excel in your studies, in your career or vocation. Whatever your hands find to do as a Christian youth, do them well. Don’t find an excuse to be lazy or be mediocre.

Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean [men]. Proverbs 22:29

You have what it takes to excel in life.  The Spirit of God is in you. The wisdom of God is accessible to you. The power of God is available to you.

5. Be knowledgeable.

The wheel of progress is largely driven by knowledge. As a Christian youth in this information age, do not be left behind in the quest for relevant knowledge.

Know your scriptures and know more than the scriptures too. Whether it is history or sciences, know more than the average person. Refuse to be a pushover…

Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. 2Timothy 2:15.

As much as you can, gather knowledge; read voraciously, study widely, research deeply and attend relevant seminars. Do everything within your power to be knowledgeable in at least one or two areas of endeavour.

Always be in the know. You have heard that knowledge is power. Knowledge gives you an edge. Let me add that knowledge boosts confidence too.

How else can a Christian youth build self-confidence? Please share and leave a comment.

 

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

Lord Deliver Me From My Self

Doing the will of God

Lord, no matter how I feel
Help me to always do Your will.
The only way I can show You love
Is to obey your laws from above.

I often want to go my way
But in the process I go astray.
So Lord deliver me from myself
I am better off with Your good Self.

In every of my life’s unfolding story
Let my eyes see Your true glory.
And no matter what I go through
Help me to stay faithful to You.

Even when the storms of life rage on
Give me the needed power to move on.
I trust You are up to something
‘Cos without You I can do nothing.

It’s written that as you’re with Jesus
So You promised to always be with us.
Let the wind blow hard and rough
Your strength has made me tough.

I believe all things’ll work out good
Because by me You firmly stood.
In You, I could never be a loser
You’ve made me more than a winner.

©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

How About Sharing The Gospel With A Smile?

Why can't you smile as you share the gospel? Good news is fir sharing.

The gospel of Jesus Christ is goodnews and goodnews is for sharing. But do you share goodnews with a frown on your face? No!

How come you always put on a very ‘serious’ face whenever you share the gospel? How about sharing the gospel with a genuine smile plastered on your face?

This last Sunday morning, I was driving to church when I noticed a middle-aged lady standing at the edge of my street handing out some gospel tracts to passers-bye. Such practice is a usual sight in the part of Lagos where I live, so there is nothing spectacular about it.

But as I looked closely at the lady, I observed that she was wearing a very serious look, not smiling at all. Her hands were handing out the supposed printed messages of love but her face didn’t show any happiness or enthusiasm. That got me thinking!

“Why can’t she just put on a smile while dishing out those leaflets to her target recipients?” I asked myself under my breath as I waited for my turn to negotiate the intersection next to where she stood.

I didn’t mean to judge her but I couldn’t resist thinking about the observation as I drove along to my destination. But before I could push the thought any further, it dawned on me that many Christians make the same mistake while sharing their faith with other people. (I am not exempting myself either).

I recall an incident in that regard in the year 2000. I boarded a city mass transit bus to work. I took the opportunity to openly share the gospel with everyone on board. (Unlike what is obtainable at present, preaching, advertising etc were not banned on some public buses then).

My voice was loud enough to be heard in all corners of the vehicle. So I declared the gospel message to my audience to the best of my understanding….

  • “Jesus loves you, He died for you and is calling you into a personal relationship with Him…”
  • “Only Jesus can save you. There is no other name through which you can be saved….”

I went on passionately along those lines for a couple of minutes with all the energy and enthusiasm in me. But I didn’t realise how too straight-faced I was until I overheard a co-passenger say something like,”This is not a quarell here, we got your message.”

Really? I was preaching like it was a quarrel? Of course I didn’t realise it. But whether the comment was unwarranted or not, I got the message…

A natural smile flowed from my heart to my face as I heard that comment. My voice had been too tough and my look so stern, may be. I took the unsolicited correction and began speaking in a more loving way, without compromising the message.

Since then, I have come to know better on how to carry my face or body language while sharing about Christ with someone – be it on a one on one basis or with a larger audience. It doesn’t mean the gospel should be preached with levity or with a “take it or leave it” kind of attitude.

Agreed that the message of the gospel is a serious message. But it has to be delivered in love.

  • Realise that the gospel is better shared with love, with a smile than with a frown.
  • The gospel is a message of love. It should be shared in love.
  • Let not your attitude confuse your hearers.

I mean, you tell someone that Jesus loves him or her wearing a frown on your face? How do you reconcile that? Let me say it again:

  • The gospel is goodnews.
  • Goodnews is for sharing.
  • The gospel is goodnews that should be shared with joy and enthusiasm.
  • The gospel should be shared in love, always.
  • If you are telling someone that the Lord is good to you, don’t show otherwise; don’t look like God has forsaken you. As you preach the gospel to someone, don’t let it be a case of “Your message is lovely but the look on your face betrays it.

    Sharing the gospel is a divine call. Why can’t you share a smile as you share it?




    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    ​3 Things You Do That Show What Matters To You.

    3 things you do that show what matter to you

    You will often do what matters to you. In other words, the traceable patterns of what you do over a long period of time paint a vivid picture of your most dominant inner inclinations.

    Let me share with you three simple things you do that show what you consider important to you.

    1. What you spend your time on.

    What you regularly spend your time on indicates what interests you or matters more to you. Where you often spend your time tells alot about where your heart is. How you spend your time demonstrates something about your dominant passion.

    You can’t control time but you can control what you use it for. You can use your time to your advantage or to your disadvantage.

    You use it to advantage if you use it on things you value. Because time is not available to you in unlimited quantity, it is imperative that you use it wisely. One of the best ways of doing that is to use your time for things that matter in the long run.

    Take a proper look at the things you spend your time doing. Ask yourself, “Are they really worth it?” If not, then you will have to make some changes that will involve reordering your priorities.

    2. What you spend your money on.

    You will not spend your hard-earned money on sh*t except you value it. Just like time, you do not have unlimited amount of money. Therefore, you will often want to spend your money on the things that give you the most value. (Of course, I assume you are a wise spender).

    Even if I don’t know you before, if you show me your bank statement and/or your expense records, it will not take long for me to figure out the things that matter to you. Except you spend your money under duress, most often than not, your expenses will flow in the same direction as your interests and aspirations. In order words, what you spend money on often is an indication of what matters to you.

    Now is the time to review your expense records to see if you have been spending money on things that do not matter to you. You know what to do after the check!

    3. The company you keep.

    Just like everyone else, you like to be in the company of the people you love and people that love you  or people that share your values. As they say,  “Birds of a feather always flock together.

    Only a few people will consistently hang out with the wrong crowd. If you are in any crowd, it should not take long to figure out whether you are a ‘misfit’ or not. This realisation will either prompt you to blend in or to retrace your steps.

    The people you are willing and glad to hang out with are pointers to your interests and aspirations. If you have interest in music, I will not be surprised to see you hang around ‘musical’ people both online and physically. I often find myself ‘following’ bloggers and other writers because of interest.

    Are the people you hang out with leading you in the direction of your goals? If your answer is ‘no’, then you are in the wrong company.

    Conclusion

    What you frequently spend your money on, what you regularly do with your time and the kind of company you keep are good indicators of what matters to you. You may want to retrace your steps if you find that where you are presently on these three patterns do not represent your long term values or objectives.

    What do you think?

    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    Conversations With Atheists 1

    Are Atheists not destined for the love of God?

    Earlier in the year, I published 16 Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know. It was a sequel to a previous blog, To Those Who Say There Is No God. Both posts were specifically written with atheists in mind. And as expected they elicited all manner of reactions from people, especially avowed atheists.

    Some of the discussions that followed To Those Who Say There Is No God, have been previously published in the series When You Encounter An Atheist For The First Time. Beginning with this post, we shall be starting a new series titled Conversations With Atheists.

    The purpose of the series will be to highlight some important parts of  the online interactions I had with some people who commented on 16 Sobering Things Every Atheist Should Know, with a view to opening up the issues for further discussions and impressions here and beyond.

    But first, we will need to take a look at some extracts from that referenced background post:

    • Even though I believe that God exists, I am aware that there are people from around the world who do not believe in His existence.
    • Life is meaningless if God did not exist.
    • The fact that some people do not believe in God does not diminish Him by any measure.
    • The Bible is the manual of life God gave to man. It is the final authority on anything there is to know about God and His creation.
    • God loves you even if you don’t believe in Him. The fact that you don’t believe in God does not mean that He is angry with you. In fact, He loves you too much to be angry with you.
    • It is true that there can be many ways to arrive a given destination. But when it comes to going to God, Jesus Christ is the Only Way.
    • According to the Bible, anyone who says God doesn’t exist, is a fool.

    • You can turn from atheism to God. Your life on earth is your only opportunity for you to know God, if you miss it you miss out forever.
    • You became an atheist by choice; you were not born as one. You get to know God by choice too.
    • God is big enough to handle any (mis)guided thoughts you might have about Him. But nothing can be sorted out without your cooperation.
    • You yourself know that you are not perfect; you are not without blemish. In order words, you are a sinner who needs the forgiveness of God. If you would make up your mind to seek Him in faith, you would find Him
    • You may not believe in God but you should understand that you are still answerable to Him. One day, you will stand before Him to explain how you lived your life here on Earth and what you did with the offer of grace by His son Jesus Christ.
    • There is a future reality called hellfire. You don’t have to go there if you decide to accept Jesus Christ now that you are still alive.

    Many WordPress bloggers liked the post. But there were some readers that didn’t, as indicated by their comments. The comments and my responses to them will form the basis of Conversations With Atheists Series.

    Needless to say, some of the comments from the professed atheists who responded are too abusive and unsavoury to be reposted here. We will therefore make do with extracts from some of the ‘reasonable’ conversations. (But if you don’t mind reading the largely offensive vituperations of the militant atheists that invaded my corner of WordPress as a result of that post, you may want to refer to the comment section of the original post).

    God and Atheists

    Let the conversations begin with this reader/commentator who felt that he is not destined for the love of God

    Commentator 1
    I don’t really know what I was expecting when I opened this page. But I have to admit I wasn’t expecting this.

    This posts makes precisely no attempt to meet atheists at common ground or to have a message that might resonate or anything. It’s just an opportunity taken to preach, claimed to be aimed at atheists but very much written in the language that could rightly make someone think other religious people were the audience; almost literally preaching to the choir.

    Surely you have encountered the basic point that the Bible is only convincing to people who already believe…

    I don’t mean this to come of rude, but I think it would benefit your writing for atheists if you actually take a moment to really think about the message you want to send, instead of just threatening them with Hell (which they don’t believe in) and telling them they’re wrong (they already know you disagree with them and so would say that).

    My Response
    Thank you for reading and commenting. The purpose of the post was to present the truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ as it is to the atheists, not to establish a common ground as you expected.

    … The issue of Hell is not a threat (I thought I mentioned that in the post) as you took it to be. It is an avoidable terrible future reality I tried to mention in love. The fact that you don’t believe in it doesn’t preclude its existence.

    But wait a minute, let me be a bit curious: how come it was the mere mention of hellfire that caught your attention more than the love of God for you as explained in the post?

    Commentator 1
    I’m not currently destined for the love of God.

    My Response
    My understanding is that God loves us all, including you! So I would like to ask you why you feel “not currently destined for the love of God.”

    Commentator 1
    First of all, to avoid patronising conversation later on, I want to point out that I am having this conversation from within the Christian narrative, even though I don’t accept it as true. That’s probably too obvious to need pointing out, but I’ve had the ‘atheists can’t talk about that stuff’ argument used against me before.

    Anyway, I’m going to be sent to Hell by virtue of not being able to believe: (1) a God exists; (2) a human sacrifice is a good thing; (3) perfection was ever a reasonable expectation of a person.

    My Response
    The death of Jesus Christ was a perfect sacrifice, without which the redemption of the human race would have been impossible. It is however not an approval for human sacrifice as you suggested.

    God raised Jesus from death and He is alive forever. Therein lies the eternal hope of all men, including you.

    Food for thought.

    • Do Christians have a “common ground” with atheists?
    • Why would someone say that God giving His Son to die for the sin of mankind is an act of human sacrifice, or is it?
    • What would make a man close his heart to the love of God, to the extent of believing that God’s love is not for him?

    What do you say?


    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    Before You Divorce Your Spouse, Think Of Your Children

     

    Many people know that divorce is very devastating. But some people will still end up walking that way. In the long run, it does more harm than good to the couples involved, to the children produced by the broken union and to the society in general.

    No troubled marriage is irredeemable, especially yours, if you believe in God. With the cooperation of the couples involved, even the most hopeless marriage can be restored to health and happiness. Rather than taking the divorce option, couples who have marital challenges should find a way of working things out between them.

    If you want your marriage to work, you will find a reason to stay in it. But if your mind is made up on filing for a divorce, you will also find a ‘good’ reason to do so. Whatever you want to do, you will find an excuse for it.

    Recently, I suggested on this blog that couples who want to make their marriage work, should shut the door on divorce. As relatively unpopular as that advice was, it is not something I would want to change my mind on, neither should you if you are committed to the ideals of having a marriage that works.

    One of the greatest joys of a marital union is the children produced in the marriage. Divorce is not one of the ways to increase that joy. On the contrary, divorce will limit the chances of happiness of the children from that union.

    I cannot find a good reason to believe that children from divorced marriages make happier people in the society than children that grew into adulthood having parents who stayed together in their marital unions. Shouldn’t all children be given the benefit of having both of their parents in their lives together in the same union forever? In my opinion, they should because it is their right!

    A broken marriage will cause emotional trauma for the children from the union and may have the ripple effect of setting them on the wrong courses in life. Can’t you make the necessary sacrifice to avoid that?

    You cannot think of making a society work better, if you are not open to the idea of making your marriage work. The values you uphold in the society are often a reflection of the values you have established from home. A healthy marriage is a fertile ground for nurturing good moral values in children. And that’s what every child deserves!

    I am not suggesting that your marriage must be perfect to be able to meet the mark. That will be asking for too much because neither you nor your spouse involved in the union are perfect in yourselves.  But the point has to be made that despite your perceived imperfections, you can still find the lasting glue that sticks you to each other, rather than grasping unto the divisive wedge that pushes you both apart.

    Give or take, the santity of the union should not be jeopardised by either you or your spouse through divorce, at least for the sake of your children. You don’t want to cause heartache for yourselves as well as your kids.

    As at the time I began to write this piece, a short remark which suggested that 80% of divorce suits are filed by woman, appeared on my twitter timeline. A further research into the claim showed that a different source puts it at a lower rate of 60%, while yet another source shoots it up to as high as 90% (amongst educated women).

    Between men and woman, who is more likely to file for divorce?

    Does that mean that women are the prime architects of divorce in marriages? It is not the purpose of this post to explore that question. But beyond the seemingly lobsided ratio of women to men who files for divorces, it would be instructive to know the real reason spouses file for divorce.

    The Hidden Reason People Seek Divorce

    There are many reasons a couple may seek divorce. Those reasons can come in different shades and colours: incompatibility, infidelity, broken trust, physical or emotional abuse, diminishing love, financial stress, etc. But the root of it all is selfishness.

    That’s right! Selfishness – that excessive concern “for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of other” – is the main reason a spouse would file for divorce. Most marriages will work if selfishness is taken out from the hearts of the married couples. 

    As I said earlier, if your mind is fixated on getting a divorce, you will often find a ‘suitable’ ground to do so. But before you serve the divorce papers to your spouse, please think of your children- the divine products of the marital union you are about to break up. (This assumes that you have children).

    Reasons parents should consider their children before filing for divorce.

    Why should you consider your children before you file for divorce? 

    The answer to that question my friend, is the fundamental purpose of this post. In exploring that question further, first, I will like to draw from the lessons in the story of Gerty as recently published on Joseyphina’s World. (Thank you Joseyphina for your kind permission to use extracts from that story).

    Second, I will then offer my own thoughts as well.

    Enter the Story of Gerty

    According to Joseyphina, Gerty’s “childhood was plagued by a nasty divorce between her parents.” The negative effect of the divorce on Gerty, loudly echoes the sentiments that inspired this post, namely, that many couples would give up the idea of divorce if they would spare some quality thoughts on the negative impact divorce will have on on their children.

    How did Gerty’s Parents’ Divorce Affect Her?

    1. Confusion caused by custody issues

    Joseyphina tells us that Gerty “grew up confused about whom to love since as per the custody arrangement, she was to stay with her mother during school days and be with her father during the holidays.” In the process, “Each parent took any chance he/she got to badmouth the other to her.”

    2. Automatic membership of Association of Children from broken homes.

    Gerty became an unwilling statistic added to the children from broken homes association. As they say, “Birds of a feather flock together.”  Naturally, Gerty’s closest “friends also had divorced or separated parents.”

    In school, Gerty and her friends “would spend their break time talking about what their parents told them about each other and how life sucked for them all.”

    3. Lost of faith in marriage and procreation.

    Because of her parents failed marriage, Gerty begins to feel there is no use for her to get married in future. “What is the use of falling in love, getting married, and then ending up getting divorced,” she wondered.

    She even decided that if she eventually got married, she would not have children so as to avoid custody battles like it happened with her.

    4. Burden of guilt

    Gerty couldn’t be completely sure why her parents got divorced. But “a part of her felt that she was the reason behind it.” Right or wrong, Gerty goes about in life carrying this heavy burden of guilt of the divorce action of her parents.

    5. Rendered an ‘Orphan’ unduly.

    “Gerty later found herself as an orphan of some sorts when both parents remarried. She felt out of place in either one’s new matrimonial home. Both spouses gave her the ‘the issue out of divorce’ look. Both of them had found other people to love but she was the one who lost it all.” What a pity!

    Do you want your children to experience the pains of their parents’ divorce like Gerty did? I hope not! That is why I am telling you to consider the wellbeing of your children before you yield to the temptation or pressure to file for divorce.


    Concluding Thoughts

    Child-raising is already a difficult job by itself. Divorce will make it more complicated. I know a single parent can raise children. But having both parents do it in the same marital union will make the job easier.

    Divorce will devastate your children. As we said earlier, it can result to a lifelong emotional damage to them.

    Children from broken homes are the most vulnerable to all sorts of ills in life: drug abuse, juvenile delinquency, sexual abuse, teenage pregnancy, depression, low self-esteem and so on. My dear reader, as much as it it depends on you, please save your children the pain, the burden or the guilt of divorce.

    Your children deserve the love and care of both of their parents in the same marital union. Don’t deny them that right because of your selfish reasons by taking the option of divorce. Remember, if you can find an excuse to sue for divorce, you can also find a reason (your children, for instance) to stay in the marriage – and make it work.

    What do you think?


    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    You Are Not A Friend, If …

    You are not a friend

    If you take pleasure in celebrating my errors more than my excellence, you are not a friend.

    If you delight in talking down on me and you never get to talk about my good qualities, you are not a friend.

    If you see me on the road to hell and you secretly wish that I go through it to the end, you are not a friend.

    If you rejoice when I am sad and you are unhappy when I succeed, you are not a friend.

    If you paint me well in my face and you stab me at my back, you are not a friend.

    If my joy makes you sad and my cry makes you smile, you are not a friend.

    If you believe when they tell you I am bad and you doubt when they say I am good, you are not a friend.

    If you love me when I see you and you hate me when I don’t see you, you are not a friend.

    If you stay close when the weather is fair, but you run away when I’m in a storm, you are not a friend.

    If you say ‘cheers’ in my face and you say ‘jeers’ at my back, you are not a friend.

    If you call me when you need me and you don’t answer when I call you, you are not a friend.

    If you wish that I fall so that I cannot rise above you, you are not a friend.

    If you hate to love me or love to hate me you are not a friend.

    If you always tell me sweet lies instead of the bitter truth, you are not a friend.

    If you see nothing good in me and neither think greatness of me, you are not a friend.

    If you see me take poison and you urge me on with pleasure, you are not a friend.

    If you vilify me in order to make you appear a hero, you are not a friend.

    If you lie against me to make you look good, you are not a friend.

    If you share in all my secrets, but you never share any of yours with me, you are not a friend.

    If you think ill of me and never wishes me well, you are not a friend.

    Someone is not your friend, if ……?

    Share your thoughts in the comment section.

    Who Is Your Internal Consultant?

    Holy Spirit and you, Victor Uyanwanne

    Consultants possess expertise in their given fields. They are often willing to help out in solving other peoples’ problem if they are engaged for that purpose, usually at a fee. Consultants can help you or your business:

    • Clarify ‘issues’ through research or data analysis;
    • Improve operational efficiencies;
    • Solve specific business problems;
    • Make informed business decisions;
    • Meet other specific needs you may have as their client.

    As good as they may be, no consultant is all-knowing and all-powerful; they are often limited by the level of their knowledge, trainings and experiences in life. But the Holy Spirit does not suffer from any limitations. His wisdom is unfathomable and His power is limitless.

    The Holy Spirit has been given to you by God as your ever-available Internal Resource. That means you can have Him as your personal Consultant to help you clarify issues, make better decisions, solve problems and improve your overall personal efficiency and effectiveness in life.

    What is your relationship with the Holy Spirit like? Do you see Him as your biggest Partner in progress? Don’t you think your relationship with Him can be better than it is right now?

    Several years ago as a new believer in Christ Jesus, I read Dr. David Yonggi Cho’s Holy Spirit My Senior Partner. In that book, Dr. Cho shared how he had been walking in close relationship (or partnership as he put it) with the Holy Spirit in his ministry and life.

    He talked about the need to depend on the leading of the Holy Spirit for best results in our lives and circumstances. For instance, as a young preacher then, he said he would never stand before the congregation to preach to them except he had received a specific message from the Holy Spirit to share with the people.

    That way, he was able to preach timely messages that met the specific needs of someone in his audience. It is not surprising then that Dr. Cho refers to the Holy Spirit as his senior Partner.

    Just like Cho, all believers in Christ can have a meaningful partnership with the Holy Spirit at their individual levels. The good news is that He is already a willing and competent Partner, just waiting for us to engage Him. That is why He is in us in the first place!

    As I examined the Bible Scriptures over the years, it has become very clear to me what role the Holy Spirit should play in my life as a Christian. He is my:

    • Helper
    • Guide
    • Comforter
    • Enabler
    • Teacher
    • and all….

    But whether I am completely depending on Him to be all He should be in my life is a different matter altogether. I know the story is not too different for many believers I have come across over the years in my Christian journey.

    Truth be told, all of us ought to be depending on the Holy Spirit for directions and guidance in life more than we are presently doing. We will suffer for it if we don’t. We will be happier if we do. For instance if you want the best results, you can use the leading of the Holy Spirit, in the following areas of your decision making:

    • Who to marry.
    • Where to invest in.
    • What job to accept or reject.
    • Which social organisation to join.
    • and so on and so forth.

    There is no limit to the areas of guidance the Holy Spirit can give you. He is there for you in whatever aspect of your life – from the mundane to the spiritual.

    Along this line recently, I read the personal testimony of Steve Sawyer wherein he referred to the Holy Spirit as his Internal Consultant. That expression embodies the spirit of this post. So I am borrowing those terms from him for the purpose of this discourse.

    In that article, Sawyer explained that the Holy Spirit is His internal consultant because:

    • The Holy Spirit is always with him;
    • The Holy Spirit can answer any question he has with His Truth, because the Holy Spirit IS Truth;
    • The Holy Spirit teaches him every day the best way to respond to anyone in any environment or context.

    It is not hard to see that all the above points are in line with what the Bible tells us the Holy Spirit will do in our lives. He is the Spirit of Truth and He guides us into all truth. He is in us as the voice that tells us what to do if we will listen to Him.

    In this complex world where you have to make important decisions, wouldn’t you want to have accurate guidance and direction in all areas of your life? That is possible if you make the Holy Spirit your Internal Consultant.

    What do you say?

    You Are Not Too Old To Be Happy

    Nobody is too old to be happy, Victor Uyanwanne

    No matter who or how old you are
    Know that you are surely a shining star.
    No matter what you have been told.
    Be happy, you are not yet too old.

    Do not let your perceived old age
    Make you feel like a bird in a cage.
    That you have been around for a while
    Is enough reason to make you smile.

    You have seen many life’s seasons
    That have given you multiple reasons
    Which we see have made you wise
    In yours, and in our youthful eyes.

    Try and forget the pain of yester years
    And your many treacherous days of tears.
    Rejoice in the moments you have and now.
    Please find out if you don’t know how.

    To you Facebook may look like magic.
    Without it doesn’t mean your life is tragic.
    Even if all you ever knew was a real ‘picture book’.
    Smile as your grandsons splash your pictures on Facebook.

    You may not have known how to tweet
    But hasn’t your life been very sweet?
    Even if yours hasn’t been a life of ease
    Be you not bitter to your grave, please.

    Before you ultimately return to your Maker.
    Or become an item for the undertaker
    Endeavour to heal all known sores.
    And seek not to settle old scores.

    It is true you have come of age.
    But don’t quit being happy at this stage.
    Even though your journey has been bumpy
    You are never too old to be happy.

     

    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    Towards A Better Marriage 7: Shut The Door On Divorce

    Reasons you should not divorce your spouse

    In your marriage, many things can happen that may ‘push’ you to want a divorce from your partner. But it’s best not to take that option. Your present marriage can still work out better for you and your spouse. That has been part of the goals of the towards a better marriage series we began a few weeks back.

    As we conclude this special series, I am going to have to say this: if you truly want to see your marriage work, you should shut the door on divorce. Before you call me insensitive because I said that, you should at least hear me out.

    I am aware that saying “no to divorce” is not a very popular thing to say these days. We live in a world where it has become easier or more acceptable for couples to walk away from their matrimonial homes, even at the slightest provocations. Whatever happened to commitment in marriage? (This is not an attempt to undermine those that have critical, life-threatening marital issues).

    Second, I do not mean to condemn you if you have taken the divorce option already – I am not in a position to do so. But I believe I am free to put in a word or two on why a committed couple that wants to make their marriage work should shut the door on divorce. What you are committed to, you don’t give up on.

    If you haven’t left this page by now, it gives me the feeling that you are still open to the idea of doing whatever is necessary to making your marriage work, as opposed to taking the divorce route. Let’s take a look at a few reasons I suggest you should not end your marriage just like that:

    1. No marriage is irredeemable, including yours.

    Irrespective of where you are on your downhill decent towards marital oblivion, know that your marriage is not beyond redemption. It is possible you are experiencing many problems in your marriage right now. But that doesn’t mean you should walk away from your marital vows just like that. Don’t give up on your marriage because marriage has not given up on you.

    If you believe in God, neither the problems you face currently, nor the ones you will face in future, are insurmountable. With God, nothing is impossible – including saving a troubled marriage like yours. With the right doses of commitment, attitude and help, you can find solution to any of your marital challenges.

    Shut the door on divorce

    2. Divorce is not the best way to resolve marital issues.
    There are many ways of resolving marital conflicts. Divorce is definitely not the best option. These series towards a better marriage were purposed to offer tips on finding greater joy and fulfilment in your marriage. Walking out of your marriage is not an option we recommend here.

    3. Think of the impact of the divorce on your children, if you have any.

    Procreation is one of the basic reasons for marriage. God made it in such a way that it takes a male and a female to procreate. But procreation is not the end of the story; the task of raising the children is there too.

    Child-raising is already a difficult job by itself. Divorce will make it more complicated. We are all familiar with media reports on cases of juvenile delinquencies. Children from broken homes are the most vulnerable to such.

    Your children deserve the love and care of both of their parents in the same marital union. Don’t deny them that right because of your selfish reasons by taking the divorce option. If you can find an excuse to sue for divorce, you can also find a reason (your children, for instance) to stay in the marriage – and make it work.

    4. Just like your current spouse, there is no all-round-perfect partner out there.

    I know your spouse is not perfect, neither are you. Why do you want to get a divorce? Is it to get married to a ‘better’ person? You may get the rude shock of your life because one thing is sure: there is no perfect spouse out there!

    The best spouse is the one you are married to, not the one you plan to get married to after a divorce. The grass may appear greener on the other side, but that is not the way it is. It is illusionary to think that should you divorce your spouse, you would be happier with another partner. Some people realise that mistake way too late.

    5. If you take the option of divorce and then remarry, you are likely to take the same option a second time and even a third or more times.

    Let me guess what you are thinking after reading that: Victor, you are taking it too far. I don’t want to argue with you on that. We already said that divorce is not the best solution to marital crisis. So why don’t you do your best and make your current marriage work?

    Getting a divorce now is not a guarantee that you will get to the promised land of marital fulfilment with a new spouse. The natural question I should ask you then will be: if you remarry after divorce and it turns out the marriage fails to work again, will you stay put in it or go through another round of divorce? Are you glad adding to the increasing statistics of multiple divorces? If your answer is yes, then I am afraid you have no business reading this post in the first place!

    6. God hates divorce.

    Divorce is permissible but it is not God’s best for you. God loves you but He hates divorce.

    If you are His child already, remember that with your cooperation God can restore or heal your troubled marriage – no matter the kind of problem you might be experiencing. He has done it for a good number of people who exercised their faith in Him. He will be glad to help you too. Even if you don’t have a personal relationship with God yet, you can start one with Him right now by responding to the open invitation He has given you already:

    Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest

     Matthew 11:28.

    You think you are carrying heavy burdens in your marriage? You can talk to God about it. He is waiting for you.

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    Thank you.

     

    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    Stop Expecting Your Spouse To Fill The Void Only God Can Fill

    In our last post in the towards a better marriage series, we dwelt on the need for you to give your best in order to make your marriage work. Let’s add to it however, that only God can meet your spouse’s deepest needs, and yours too.

    I assume your spouse loves you very much and is fully committed to meeting your needs. But no matter how much he/she is committed to you, realise that you have needs that only God can meet. For such needs, never expect your spouse to play the role of God!

    The same thing applies to him/her too; there are needs he/she has that you cannot meet, no matter how hard you try.

    Inside everyone is a void that no other human can satisfactorily fill. That is why you need God.

    It is only God that can meet your deepest needs; it is only God that can meet all your heart’s longings. Your spouse may try, but he/she cannot satisfy you completely.

    Your spouse is not a miracle worker, so don’t expect him/her to do everything for you and be everything to you, every time. Just like you, remember that he/she is human, subjected to the various limitations of being a flesh and blood entity.

    Meeting your spouse’s deepest needs is God’s job. Don’t place the burden on your spouse

    Your spouse can make you happy sometimes, but he/she cannot keep you happy all the time. He/she may want to do it, but he/she simply is incapable of doing it every time.

    You set yourself up for disappointment and your spouse up for failure if you expect him/her to do the impossible for you. Next time you want a miracle, ask from God, not your spouse. By that I mean you should stop expecting your spouse to fill the void only God can fill.

    Let’s help one another, what do you think are the needs of spouses that their partners cannot meet, that only God can meet? Please enter your suggestions in the comment section. 

    Thank you.




    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne

    I Want To Be Your Friend Forever

    I want to be your best friend
    Now and till the very end.
    Always being there for you
    No matter what you go through.

    I want to be there even when you mourn.
    Whether in the night, noon or morn.
    I will stick with you till tomorrow.
    Sharing in your pain, joy and sorrow.

    I want to be with you all the way
    And not only for this passing day.
    Cheering you on when your way is right
    Or giving you a warning when it isn’t so bright.

    I want to be your truest friend
    Way beyond the farthest bend.
    Giving you all the support you require
    When to meet your goals, you aspire.

    I want to be your friend and brother
    Whenever, wherever and forever.
    Infusing you with the power of hope
    So that in adversity you can cope.

    I want to be there when you need me.
    For that’s where I was called to be.
    So that as you play on in your game.
    I’ll be in the grandstand to holler your name.

    Count on me as a true friend forever.
    I promise to never leave you, ever.
    Whether you win or you lose.
    To be with you I will choose.

    Even when your adversaries roar.
    I will always be there to help you soar.
    Like the wind under the wings of the eagle.
    I’ll help you overcome the struggle.

    ©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne