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6 Good Things About The Negative Criticisms You Get On Your Blog
You will get criticised whatever you do. Blogging is not an exception to that fact of life.
You cannot stop people from criticising you in your blogging journey. But while constructive criticisms are good and welcome, negative criticisms are bitter pills to swallow.
And no matter how bitter the pill of criticisms can be, there are times you have to accept and swallow them as they are, even if it means frowning your face doing it.
The truth is, there is always room for improvement. That’s why you should assess every criticism to extract whatever might be good in it, with a view to improving your life.
As much as you love what you do, not everyone will love you for it. While some people may be indifferent about your blogging activities, there are some other people that will come against you with harsh criticisms as feedback. But that you face some negative feedback doesn’t mean you should quit on your blog’s mission.
It certainly means you should find the best ways to handle the negative criticisms that confront you in such a way that they become beneficial to you.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
Charles R. Swindoll
The question is, can there be anything beneficial in negative criticisms? I will say yes!
In this post, I will show you six good things about the negative criticisms you get on your blog:
1. Criticisms show you are being noticed
There are millions of blogs out there. So if someone takes the time to pass a critical comment on your blog, it shows that you are gaining some visibility.
Or would you rather be ignored? Your answer is as good as mine.
2. There is some thing to learn from every criticism
No matter how cantankerous your readers get while commenting on your blog, try not to be offended. Put a positive construction on whatever criticisms you get, because you will learn something good from it if you handle it properly.
Criticisms may cause your emotions to flare up. Learn to avoid that trap and you will be better positioned to learn something from the criticism that will make your blogging experience better.
3. Criticisms are part of your personal growth process
You have heard the saying that if people throw stones at you, you should gather them to build a monument. You can apply that principle in blogging too.
When people throw the stones of negative criticisms at you, use them to build up yourself. In order words, don’t allow criticisms to tear you down. And specifically, do not quit on your blogging mission simply because you are being criticised.
4. Criticisms give you opportunity to be nice
Some people have never been kind in their lives. So don’t expect them to start with your blog. When they attack you with harsh words on your blog, don’t respond to them fire for fire. Show them you are made of better stuff by responding to them as lovingly and as nicely as you can be.
Some bloggers will go the easy way of deleting negative comments on their blog, but if you do so, you would lose the opportunity of responding to someone in a way that might influence his or her life positively.
5. Criticisms make you not to rest on your oars
Complacency may set in if you never get criticised in what you do or if all you get are only praise words.
The points of criticism you receive, if properly evaluated can be helpful to you in attaining higher grounds.
6. Some critics come as friends in disguise
Ultimately, you will get to realise that not everyone who criticises you are against you. Some are friends who wanted to help but didn’t know to frame their words better.
In dealing properly with negative criticisms, you will get to learn that some people who oppose you might turn out to become your allies.
So don’t scare people off when they leave comments you don’t like on your blog. Try your best to follow them to their own blogs. Read their posts and make valuable comments. Sooner or later, you will earn their respect.
Do you think the criticisms you receive on your blog are beneficial?
©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne
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Parenting is Learning
“We learn every day,” so says that popular saying.
I know that is true in many aspects of our human endeavours. But being a relatively new parent, I have come to also realise that the statement is particularly true of parenting.
Parenting is a huge responsibility. But it is also full of opportunities to learn new things.
As parents we know that our children learn from us. But beyond that, any sincere parent would acknowledge that every now and then, he or she also learns from his or her children as well.
I have experienced it several times…
I have a three-year old and a five year old. Sometimes I set out to teach them some things and in the process I learn new things from them as well. 
Even I have enriched my vocabulary merely listening to them. And I believe I’m not alone here.
There have been times they asked me questions I didn’t have immediate answers for. But as I looked around for the most appropriate feedback to give to them, I got to learn new things in the process.
I also get to use my experience in guiding them. But I have since realised that experience is not enough; my experience is my experience, not theirs.
Just like many new parents, I would admit that I don’t know it all. So I am still learning… And it seems to me that every opportunity that gets created for me to teach my kids something is also an opportunity for me to learn something too – no matter how small.
Granted that when I am teaching them, I tend to do most of the talking most times. But it pays to listen to what they have to say as well. Listening is a key part of parenting. Every parent should develop the skill.
I would not say I have arrived in that respect. But I know I’m no longer where I used to be when the parenting journey got started.
Now I’m learning to be a little more open and more accommodating to their many ideas and perspectives. They don’t have their way most times (obviously, they shouldn’t). But I shouldn’t have my way all the time either.
They may not be aware yet that relating with them opens a new vista of knowledge for me. But I have come to realise that I am learning a lot from them.
So in only five years experience on the job, I am convinced that parenting is learning. That’s my perspective. What’s yours?
©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne
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Learn, Always Learn 2
Learn, always learn.
Learn from your friends.
Learn from your enemies.
Learn from everyone in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from your failures.
Learn from your Successes.
Learn from the processes in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from those who rejoice.
Learn from those who mourn.
Learn from other people in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from those who celebrate you.
Learn from those who criticise you.
Learn from the indifferent ones in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn when on the mountain top.
Learn when in the valley below.
Learn when anywhere in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from your weakness.
Learn from your strength.
Learn from anything in-between.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from males and females.
Learn from babies and adults.
Learn from everyone in-between.
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Learn, Always Learn!
Learn, always learn.
Learn from people.
Learn from things.
Learn from books.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from places.
Learn from events.
Learn from history.
Learn, always learn.
Learn from nature.
Learn from animals.
Learn from all creatures.
Learn, always learn
Learn from every experience.
Learn from the good or the bad.
Learn, everytime, everywhere.
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